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Don't worry, Mia. We can all only comment "so much"! LOL
posted by
KlaraRoberts
on January 13, 2005 at 11:54 AM
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klara,
Thank you so much. I am a fan of yours as well, although I find I don't leave comments too often because so many other bloggers have already said what I wanted to say. ;)
posted by
MiaElla
on January 13, 2005 at 11:49 AM
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This is a wonderfully written post, Mia.
It flows well and is significant for both Christians and non-Christians. You are a good solid woman, and a good solid writer.
posted by
KlaraRoberts
on January 13, 2005 at 11:45 AM
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billy,
yeah we do...hehe...
posted by
MiaElla
on January 13, 2005 at 7:02 AM
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Miaella, this is so cool. I don't neccesarily think everyone will stay
a virgin until they marry but I appreciate anyone who doesn't engage in casual sex. One night stands lead to neurosis. My new girl is a good Catholic and despite my best efforts is somewhat difficult to fully corrupt....but you Catholic girls do get imaginative to get around "official sex".
posted by
FreeManWalking
on January 12, 2005 at 11:44 PM
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fwmystic
Haha...know what's kinda funny, my sister and mom are both on their third marriages...and they've been married in the church and no one has asked them to leave...yet...and you're right it is in the bible...no divorce...perhaps none of us are truly going to heaven, huh? crazy thoughts
posted by
MiaElla
on January 12, 2005 at 9:09 PM
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Ah, to be young and have all the answers ...
I envy you.
and here in Texas, there are many Churches that will ask you to leave if you get divorced. It's in the Bible.
posted by
fwmystic
on January 12, 2005 at 8:34 PM
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Mia, you sent me an email today?
not on the email listed here I hope? I'll email you.
posted by
PastorB
on January 12, 2005 at 8:13 PM
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Good on you for being true to who you are, MiaElla :)
posted by
Moohahaha
on January 12, 2005 at 8:00 PM
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fwmystic
I'm not worried about that...haha...I have a masters in Psych...the focus of my studies, sex therapy...remember? Ah.
Oh, and people do divorce in the church today. It's not that rare.
posted by
MiaElla
on January 12, 2005 at 7:58 PM
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Mia - just to play Devil's advocate ...
What would happen if you met the perfect guy, and you were unable to satisfy him sexually, or worse, he was unable to satisfy you. Would you be stuck for life?
posted by
fwmystic
on January 12, 2005 at 7:53 PM
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Wiley,
Thanks for the visit.
posted by
MiaElla
on January 12, 2005 at 6:03 PM
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Witchflower
I've lost many a guy through my decision, so I sure hope it is the right one.
posted by
MiaElla
on January 12, 2005 at 6:01 PM
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Ca88andra
Thanks sweetie
posted by
MiaElla
on January 12, 2005 at 6:01 PM
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PastorB
No I don't have your email, but I sent you an email, so maybe when you reply I'll get it...hehe...
posted by
MiaElla
on January 12, 2005 at 6:00 PM
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fwmystic
I guess since we are all sinners..than yes, church is for sinners. I guess you may have missed one thing. I am supposed to teach children sexual intregity....how can I expect others to follow my example if I'm not even following my example....that's what I meant by the whole scarlet letter comment. I can't knowingly keep sinning and then go to church as though I think going to church alone will save me. And I'm not going to pretend to be all Christian in church and then once outside, turn to my old ways. Either I'm going to be devoted to God and his life plan for me, or I'm not. I didn't mean to offend anybody or to imply sinners shouldn't go to church. You're right, sinners need church the most.
Oh and I must say, you are pretty cool yourself.
posted by
MiaElla
on January 12, 2005 at 6:00 PM
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Mia
You sound happy and comfortable with your choice. That is wonderful. You don't condemn or preach, just explain your own feelings. I don't think you're making a mistake. I have never been sorry I waited, and I don't think you will be.
posted by
Witchflower
on January 12, 2005 at 3:19 PM
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Mia, stand firm!
you have my email ( I think?), so feel free to use it anytime!
posted by
PastorB
on January 12, 2005 at 3:11 PM
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Well done for sticking to your morals and believing in your decisions.
posted by
Ca88andra
on January 12, 2005 at 2:30 PM
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Mia - you are one cool chick
My comment sounded much harder than intended. I admire your stance and beliefs. I guess I only take issue with you not being able to attend church parading your sin like a Scarlet Letter. I thought church was for sinners.
posted by
fwmystic
on January 12, 2005 at 12:57 PM
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MiaElla
If that's what works for you, wonderful gift to yourself you have there, good for you
posted by
WileyJohn
on January 12, 2005 at 12:55 PM
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mia,
that is cool!
posted by
Original_Influence
on January 12, 2005 at 12:37 PM
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original,
Haha...we were reading each others post at almost the same time...teehhee
posted by
MiaElla
on January 12, 2005 at 12:33 PM
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Mia,
Sounds like the few close calls have made you even stronger...
posted by
Original_Influence
on January 12, 2005 at 12:30 PM
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fwmystic
Oh, and I don't base any of my beliefs on church, just my own personal relationship with God.
posted by
MiaElla
on January 12, 2005 at 11:14 AM
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fwmystic
I never said I was morally superior to any one...I still sin...lol.
And I don't think any less of anyone who has slept around...I'd only think less of myself if I did.
And I respect other peoples values and morals even if they are different then mine.
posted by
MiaElla
on January 12, 2005 at 11:09 AM
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Mia, I was saddened by your story ...
for attending church for so many years not because you got anything out of it, but because you were expected to attend.
for having such disasterous encounters with so many jerks.
for thinking, at such a relatively young age, that you are somehow morally superior to those who have had many lovers come in and out of their lives.
I hope the guy you finally give it up for stays with you the rest of his life. And I hope you don't stay with him, if he turns out to be an abuser or other kind of loser, just because your religion tells you so.
posted by
fwmystic
on January 12, 2005 at 11:00 AM
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What? I'm a nice person...;) haha
posted by
chris2303
on January 12, 2005 at 10:19 AM
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chris,
I know that's what's got me confused...lol.
posted by
MiaElla
on January 12, 2005 at 10:17 AM
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Mia: I actually wasn't being sarcastic.
posted by
chris2303
on January 12, 2005 at 10:02 AM
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chris
I don't know why I would have expected you to say something sarcastic...hmmm...you do entertain my curiousity a lot....??? LOL.
posted by
MiaElla
on January 12, 2005 at 9:52 AM
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Mia
I'm sure the wait will be more than worth it, and if you're happy in the meantime then all is good.
posted by
chris2303
on January 12, 2005 at 9:49 AM
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Mia,
The first thought without thinking that flashed thru my brain with your comment was Janet Jackson's "Control"
I cannot think of the specific lyrics that are agitating my brain but I can always dig up the CD and pass them along even if in private 
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I highly doubt that any convent would accept me! LOL........and if they did, they would kick me out even quicker than the Army would!
posted by
WHAMENATOR
on January 12, 2005 at 9:39 AM
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Whammie,
You almost made me spit out my coffee from laughter....whoohoo....no I'm not syaing that at all. I'm doing it for spiritual, religious purposes, a vow I made when I was young.
I admire you...you're confident, beautiful....you go after what you want...get what you want.
If I was a different person, if so many people didn't count on me to be the "good" girl...if so many people didn't admire me and respect me for my morals, I would hope to be a lot like you.
I envy you girl!
(And only you know whether God is happy with you or not.) Much 
my fun, wild, confident, beautiful friend.
posted by
MiaElla
on January 12, 2005 at 9:30 AM
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Thanks, Mia. I haven't been able to get myself unfrozen since the ice one. LOL. There is more of it coming down today.
posted by
TAPS.
on January 12, 2005 at 9:24 AM
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Tapsel,
Thanks for reading I'll have to see what you've been up too and if you have written any new poems. Your poetry is delightful.
posted by
MiaElla
on January 12, 2005 at 9:20 AM
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Mia,
I do not believe in marriage, at least not for myself.
So, are you suggesting a lifetime of celibacy for people like me?
posted by
WHAMENATOR
on January 12, 2005 at 9:17 AM
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Thanks for sharing, Mia. You have chosen a path not many follow in this day and age. You are a strong person. A lot of people don't even set goals, they just go with the flow so they never know when they are at the place where they really want to be.
posted by
TAPS.
on January 12, 2005 at 9:17 AM
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Mia,
You are very welcome :)
posted by
SincerityAnna
on January 12, 2005 at 8:48 AM
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SincerityAnna,
Thanks sweetie.
posted by
MiaElla
on January 12, 2005 at 8:47 AM
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roof,
men are quite boarish...I met one really great guy who was actually excited about my decision to wait...hehe...he wanted to marry me anyway...but he was in the military and always gone, so I broke up with him for the Brad Pitt look alike....ugh...stupid stupid me.
posted by
MiaElla
on January 12, 2005 at 8:47 AM
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Mia...
A wonderful post indeed. Yes, do save yourself for that one man that you will spend the rest of your life with...with anyone else it will not be the same...you'll never regret this decision so long as you stick to it !!!
posted by
SincerityAnna
on January 12, 2005 at 8:37 AM
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It's men like you've described here that give the rest of us a bad name (and an urge to beat the crap out of them). I was a virgin up until my wedding in September, but even if I hadn't been, I would NEVER pressure someone into sex. It's such a beautiful experience and these types of men view it as an urge, like going to be bathroom. It makes me ill just to think about it.
posted by
roofpig
on January 12, 2005 at 8:32 AM
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