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Billy,
I'll have to check your post out....ah...how in tune are we...hehe.
posted by
MiaElla
on January 12, 2005 at 7:26 AM
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miaella, how apropo...note my last post - I'm getting the big bad
withdrawals already...wondering when I can play guitar and have my other friends come over for movie nights and pot lucks...dude. I always miss having someone around until they get there. But thats not a fair thing to say. My new nurse is a sweet girl. I don't know. BTW - I agree about the Warhol exhibit. I saw it in Austin and thought it sucked. Whats up with those movies of people just standing there staring at the camera? "Stand here and hold this...it will be Art!"
posted by
FreeManWalking
on January 11, 2005 at 11:26 PM
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I'm the same way...
And was relieved when I met my husband and he didn't freak out at these thoughts and ways of mine. Hope things work out with kissy-boy.
posted by
RachelAnna
on January 8, 2005 at 9:49 AM
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Mia...
It wouldn't sell! Men would hate it because it points out the weaknesses and women wouldn't buy it because it would be too masculine LOL.
posted by
RedHeadedGypsy
on January 7, 2005 at 10:05 AM
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gypsy
You and I should write a book about this...I think we are on to something...hehe...
posted by
MiaElla
on January 7, 2005 at 10:03 AM
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Mia...
I guess we could fake it.... but no. I guess I'll keep looking for that confident and manly enough to deal with me man. If they can't take us as we are then we don't want them!
posted by
RedHeadedGypsy
on January 7, 2005 at 10:00 AM
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gypsy,
Unbelievable eh? He opened my eyes too. Now what do we do with this knowledge...eek!
posted by
MiaElla
on January 7, 2005 at 9:58 AM
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Uni Hacker,
You said it exactly right. In the relationships that I wanted thing to work, in the relationships in which I thought I was "in love," the men were very confident. I mean to the point that I began to wonder if they even had a flaw. But for some reason, I can't hold onto those men for very long. Perhaps it is because in those relationships, I become the clingy one...hmmpppff!
posted by
MiaElla
on January 7, 2005 at 9:57 AM
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UH..
Wow.. I never thought of it like that. I'm alot like Mia in the way she's talking here. You just taught me something valuable that I've asked my male friends about and never got an answer. Thank You!
posted by
RedHeadedGypsy
on January 7, 2005 at 9:56 AM
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well, keep time to blog honey xoxoxoxox
posted by
hugz_n_kisses
on January 7, 2005 at 9:55 AM
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Mia
I have a very good friend who feels very similar to you. She thinks she is the ideal girl because she doesn’t need all of those things that most girls do, such as tons of cuddle time, phone calls, dinners, etc etc. In watching her in relationships it seems that this assumption is actually quite wrong. Most guys actually need to feel like the man in the relationship, and how do they do that? They comfort, they cuddle, they call, they take you out to dinner. Only when they can do those things do they really feel like they’re doing their part in the relationship. It’s far from the stereotype of men, but it really is the way most men these days are. The fact of the matter is you, just like my friend, are not really the ideal girl for most guys, you actually need a very specific type of guy. You need someone who is confident enough in themselves that they don’t need to do all those “manly” things to feel sufficient. I hate to say it, but confidence in males these days is tough to come by. My best wishes.
posted by
Unidentified_Hacker
on January 7, 2005 at 9:53 AM
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You are the perfect woman
beware of men who want more. Most men want less: Less nagging, bitching, cuddling, conversation, etc.
posted by
fwmystic
on January 7, 2005 at 9:50 AM
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MiaElla: Yes, alone forever... a fate I too share in...
and though I live and have lived with others, in and out of relationships, long and short ones, being alone is not a state I've managed to escape...
Indeed, it's been a state I've managed to secure, knowing it is the only one that's real.
But rare souls, yes. Their presence aleviates this, for a few precious moments... but that's all.
Our path is one which we must tread alone. We shall cross each other's way, to be sure. One may linger... but must soon move on...even if they be 'together'.
Pity not, our aloneness. But be glad, it is what makes us...
posted by
void-is
on January 7, 2005 at 9:29 AM
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void-is
I am a very complex person. I have many interest and enjoy many things. Perhaps, that is my problem. I want so much out of life.
People who say they are bored confuse me. There is always so much to do, see, and learn.
I just want to live my life through a series of experiences. I want to learn and grow from my partner.
You have fated me with your words that I should be alone forever...for how often does one rare soul meet another?
posted by
MiaElla
on January 7, 2005 at 8:42 AM
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MiaElla, from your poetry I'd gathered that you would be someone who
wants something like that from a relationship. Face it, my dear: You are a woman! That means independent, cultivated, and with sensitivities that demand a wide range of stimulant experiences from a wide aray of sources...
The problem with that is, just as you are rare, so to are them who mirror that...
posted by
void-is
on January 7, 2005 at 8:26 AM
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gypsy,
Haha...this guy apologizes to me when he goes out with his friends. He'll call me the next day and say, "I'm sorry I went out last night. I really shouldn't have. I didn't want to. It was my friend's birthday."
And in my head I'm thinking, "You went out. Good for you!"
posted by
MiaElla
on January 7, 2005 at 8:03 AM
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Roof...
Crying sometimes isn't bad. But crying like a baby because you're homesick? I can't deal with that!
posted by
RedHeadedGypsy
on January 7, 2005 at 7:54 AM
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Mia...
Well the last guy I dated I broke it off because he was way too needy/clingy. After one date I was introduced to his kids, ex wife and his mother. I'm thinking whoa! I'd like to know you before I know everyone else. Then he's making plans for us 6 months in advance. I'm not even sure I want to see him the next week LOL. The final straw was his constant apologies.. I'm sorry I didn't call the second I said I would, I'm sorry I spilled a little gravy on my pants, I'm sorry I'm breathing too fast... ugh. I want to date someone who is balanced or unbalanced, just like me LOL.
posted by
RedHeadedGypsy
on January 7, 2005 at 7:54 AM
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gypsy - hey! There's nothing wrong with crying! ;-)
Actually I never really was the type to cry until I started dating Katie. I don't sob like a baby all the time, but now things that never really affected me to tend to make me misty-eyed.
But don't tell anyone!
posted by
roofpig
on January 7, 2005 at 7:52 AM
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gypsy,
Ah....finally...a woman who understands. Why is it that we attract clingy, needy men, when we are the complete opposite. I want to pry my feeling from my guy, not listen to him gush on and on about how much he likes me....you can show that...you don't always have to tell it too...ugh!
posted by
MiaElla
on January 7, 2005 at 7:49 AM
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Roofie,
See, this guy I'm talking about, he'd so love to be in a relationship like the one you and Katie have. I'm just not made that way. I need a lot of space and a lot of "alone" time.
This guy follows me everywhere I go in my house, it's like he's afraid to be alone or something, and I swear if I was to suddenly stop walking, he'd run right into me. It drives me crazy. 
posted by
MiaElla
on January 7, 2005 at 7:46 AM
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Mia...
I've often said I'm the guy in a relationship. I don't want to spend hours talking about our feelings. Plus most of the men I end up dating are the type that cry. Ugh! I feel for you...
posted by
RedHeadedGypsy
on January 7, 2005 at 7:45 AM
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Katie and I are both really clingy, so we do end up doing a lot of stuff together. But we do have times where we go our separate ways, and that's cool, too. I guess we're just generally "needy" of each other. Much to the disgust of others. ;-)
posted by
roofpig
on January 7, 2005 at 7:42 AM
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