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What a roller coaster!
All is good... rest assured, Karma or God or whatever you hold in your heart as That Which Balances will take care of the mean-spirited, and she bears the worst of it, having to live with herself and the consequences of her deeds. My grandfather remarried someone who burned all the photos of his previous family, was an alcoholic several years younger, and finally wanted to move her boyfriend into his house. He, at 70-something, after lying for many years in the bed he'd made, divorced her. We were all proud of him!
And congratulations on all the babies! I hope all the moms and dads are getting enough sleep!
posted by
Ciel
on April 14, 2017 at 5:39 AM
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Ya I've read lots on narcissists...my mother in law is one too...and all research says you can't win. It just blows me away how much power they have but I do think they should know the effect it has on others...even if they are incapable of changing their behaviour. I guess it just made me feel a bit less crazy. 
posted by
ginnieb
on April 10, 2017 at 6:00 AM
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Ah, but isn't that where the problem lies? How can one even begin to reason with a narcissist? You can't win so why try? I haven't made any decisions yet on my response but I'll keep you posted! thanks!
posted by
-blackcat
on April 10, 2017 at 5:05 AM
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I did read the post about your aunt blackcat. I feel like you can only take so much and then you have to respond...why is it okay to hurt others and get off scott free? I held my tongue over the years, not wanting to upset those around her and especially my brother in law even though she reaked havoc with her selfishness. And I did email what I wrote to her. I just kinda figured that she shouldn't have the last word on something that made her feel good about herself while trashing everyone else. She's delusional. Narcissists are.
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ginnieb
on April 9, 2017 at 12:02 PM
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Eek...two! Double trouble. :(
posted by
ginnieb
on April 9, 2017 at 11:54 AM
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exactly.
posted by
Kabu
on April 7, 2017 at 10:58 AM
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That's terrible. I think we should get her together with my awful aunt! Did you ever see my post detailing what she said in her letter to me? Would be curious your thoughts. I haven't replied and unsure if I will.
also, did you mail the email you wrote, or was it simply for therapy? :)
posted by
-blackcat
on April 7, 2017 at 8:37 AM
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A funeral and a baby shower are a big contrast in events. It seems like every family has that "one" who is going to cause a scene. For my family, it is an aunt on both sides.
posted by
FormerStudentIntern
on April 7, 2017 at 5:40 AM
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It's been quite a while since I have been to a baby shower. There have been two recently in our extended family, but they live in Tennessee and I live in Missouri. I've had to be satisfied with pictures of the new babies instead of holding them.
posted by
TAPS.
on April 6, 2017 at 11:49 PM
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newborn babies and all the possibilities are such a blessing
posted by
Annicita
on April 6, 2017 at 7:31 PM
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Yes shelly b...she never really cares where she lets it all out...last time was on a cancer ward, where life is certainly painful enough.
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ginnieb
on April 6, 2017 at 6:41 PM
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It was a great antidote, RPresta...I like that! 
posted by
ginnieb
on April 6, 2017 at 6:39 PM
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Congrats on the new babies in the family! I think all families have that one person who likes to cause trouble. But really? At a funeral? That is totally uncalled for! Sorry you had to go through that. 
posted by
shelly_b
on April 6, 2017 at 3:39 PM
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I feel for you with dealing with that nasty woman. Tradegy is bad enough without the likes of her! I hope she backs down. At least the baby shower was a lovely antidote to her poison presence. 
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RPresta
on April 6, 2017 at 2:48 PM
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Aww so sweet Kabu! I also call myself the wicked stepmother and my youngest stepdaughter loves it! And we all love each other too. This woman truly is a nasty woman who has upset the apple cart too many times. I supported her through her husband's illness...he was also my dearest friend....but no longer...enough is enough. Like you, my nieces are just like my own too and the mother bear in protectiveness comes out when they are painted in a very wrong and nasty way.
posted by
ginnieb
on April 6, 2017 at 12:05 PM
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What a nasty person. Why would you side with her against your nieces. My nieces are as special to me as my own children.
I have always called myself the wicked stepmother to my step children because it was a joke. We all have loved each other always...when their mother died they started calling me Nan.
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Kabu
on April 6, 2017 at 11:56 AM
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