https://www.blogit.com/Blogs/Blog.aspx/LoneLily/A smart girl brings advice and insight on relationships, reality-checks and all the right reasons for living.hourly12000-01-01T12:00+00:00https://www.blogit.com/Blogs/Blog.aspx/LoneLily/673923When was the last time you thought about your all-time favorite kisses? When was the last time you relished the memory of your juiciest, most smile-inducing, up-close-and-personals? I have a few all-star moments that immediately come to mind. A couple were great surprises, one was a long-time...https://www.blogit.com/Blogs/Blog.aspx/LoneLily/673922Sometimes Life knows exactly what you need. It's the things that are out of your hands that can force you to calm down or re-evaluate when you might not otherwise. A few days ago I was having kind of a rough time of it. I met up with a friend after work who had, unbeknownced to me, recently...https://www.blogit.com/Blogs/Blog.aspx/LoneLily/673673What's so wrong with a little Escapism? From shopping to drinking to online gaming, dating or mating, I guess we all check out in our own ways sometimes. The important thing is that it is just Sometimes and not All the Time. When I need to escape, I find that I have to physically get the Hell out...https://www.blogit.com/Blogs/Blog.aspx/LoneLily/673218Which is more important - the rash decisions we make or the ones we rationalize? Although impulsive decisions generally receive a bad rap, I find the actions I've rationalized have gotten me into worse trouble. It seems that my instincts are smarter than my brain. When it comes to the frivolous...https://www.blogit.com/Blogs/Blog.aspx/LoneLily/673036We all come from crazy backgrounds. Whether your life looks radical on paper, or if it is all under the surface, everyone has a lifetime of stories that shape our perspectives and attitude. My family is a bunch of firecrackers. Our 'discussions' were shouting matches over nothing really (or...https://www.blogit.com/Blogs/Blog.aspx/LoneLily/673034Someone recently mentioned to me that, in relationships, we all play games, whether we mean to or not. I really don't want to be like this. I am very guarded with my feelings, having long been the type to avoid ever coming across as clingy, needy, or worse yet, vulnerable. Being bold with my...https://www.blogit.com/Blogs/Blog.aspx/LoneLily/672928Travelling is such a generous teacher. There are few opportunities in life that broaden the mind and arouse personal reflection like visiting other cultures. The hinge on which my life and perspectives drastically changed was a trip to Puerto Rico when I was 20. My dad and I spent two weeks...https://www.blogit.com/Blogs/Blog.aspx/LoneLily/672925There is so much comfort in Freedom. It is so amazing to be released from wrong thinking, a wrong belief system or even the misleadings of others. It's so nice to move on. I will acknowledge that there certainly can be discomfort upon learning that we were wrong, or misled or believed the wrong...https://www.blogit.com/Blogs/Blog.aspx/LoneLily/672923I don't like the word Boundaries. I think it sounds Bitchy. It's like a little power trip, drawing a line in the backseat of the car on a road trip, saying, "you can't cross the line to my side." It seems however, that I prefer to live with a Doors and Hallways approach to people and...https://www.blogit.com/Blogs/Blog.aspx/LoneLily/672678HUGE. This is massive. I realized this point about a year ago and it absolutely gives insight into your own life as well as to those around you. Are you a Journey person or a Destination person? A Journey-oriented person lives in the moment, values the experience and each day, knowing that...