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Re: Annicita

yes... onward and upward!  :)

posted by -blackcat on August 11, 2017 at 11:40 AM | link to this | reply

You can't control others ... only yourself and your reaction to them....sad...glad I was not part of that mess...it sounds like you learned the lesson and now time to move on....better and happier times

posted by Annicita on August 11, 2017 at 7:15 AM | link to this | reply

Re: Re: shellyb

lol, no need to apologize.   I'm pretty sure I knew I wasn't helping the situation.  

I know.  I miss Ariala, too. 

I think the poop emoji was off your photobucket.   lol

posted by shelly_b on August 10, 2017 at 8:45 AM | link to this | reply

Re: Naut

I think I recall the plagiarism scandal... I tried to stay away from the religous debates.  Those were heated too!   I'm unsure who GM got booted... but I bet I'd remember if I heard the name.  

posted by -blackcat on August 10, 2017 at 6:38 AM | link to this | reply

Re: Kabu

I remember how hard it used to be for people to crack the top ten... and some were vicious to those of us that had top blogs.  What a crazy time.  LOL   Be thankful you missed that vile time.  I'm in awe that you're still here... and you never left?  

posted by -blackcat on August 10, 2017 at 6:37 AM | link to this | reply

Re: TAPS

No, I didn't know that.  Ugh.   I know you were witness to that entire event.  I tried to be nice, to ignore her, to laugh it off... nothing worked.  I tend to absorb negative energy so it really did effect me though I tried not to show it also.  

I hope she's well, but I never wish to see her again.  lol 

 

posted by -blackcat on August 10, 2017 at 6:35 AM | link to this | reply

Did you know that after you were gone she came back under a different name.  I thought it sounded so much like her that I asked and she emailed me that it was her and wanted to be friendly.  It lasted for a while and then she disappeared again.  Then she was on "My Space" and she was later on FaceBook.  Perhaps she still is.
She was after me a few time, but I ignored it and tried not to let her know it bothered me.

posted by TAPS. on August 9, 2017 at 7:37 PM | link to this | reply

BC

So all this happened towards the end of 06 - that explains why I wasn't aware of it. I joined earlier that year, and just posted political stuff, among which I had 'educational' pieces on Islam. The general interest was rather low - I only had a few regular readers, Corbin and a few others, and I only read those who read my stuff. It was only much later that I began reading a few others - among them Ariala...Among the people reading me was this guy Xeon - an unmitigated idiot, whom I blocked at some point...GM mentions that he once got someone kicked out - I did too. I had them kick out a blatant plagiarist - I think his handle was something like Bhaskar...He may have come back under a different flag, but of course  I'm not sure of that...

 

 

 

posted by Nautikos on August 9, 2017 at 4:32 PM | link to this | reply

I don't remember but then I have reached the age where I don't remember much of anything unless it is something or someone I want to.

it used to get nasty here in 1006 and on when I first joined but I was in Australia and very in awe of all you people. I remember I made it to no. 64 and writing about how excited I was to get under 100. LOL I loved following some of you around with your comments to each other and it took me awhile to realize that the more folks you commented to the more they came to your post and then you became friends and over the years I just lover reading what my friends say.

posted by Kabu on August 9, 2017 at 2:39 PM | link to this | reply

Re: shellyb

shut up shelly!!!!   hahaha... I was sooo frustrated.  I'm sorry.  LOL

Thank you for your comment.  I haven't changed that much.. it's just been a weird year so I'm working through alot rather than making jokes all the time.  And I do miss Ariala on this site.  It's still weird for me without her.  

I don't think I knew she kept at it over on myspace.  I hope she finally got her meds under control. 

I miss the poop emoji... where did it go???  

posted by -blackcat on August 9, 2017 at 1:50 PM | link to this | reply

Re: strat

hahahaha... no, weird is a good word for it!   It WAS weird... it just went beyond weird... to disturbing, challenging, frustrating, upsetting... I'd also say crazy-making, but that might get me in trouble!  LOL 

posted by -blackcat on August 9, 2017 at 1:45 PM | link to this | reply

I guess "weird" may be the understatement of the century...

posted by strat on August 9, 2017 at 1:38 PM | link to this | reply

"Shelly, shut up!"  hahahaha   it's funny now.  lol

Jealousy and mental illness don't mix well.  When Ariala ignored them, they felt the need to attack the next best thing.  You.  I remember you trying to be nice to them and maybe even knock some sense into that person?  They would not give in.   That blogger wanted the attention.  They wanted to fight.   I felt bad for you.  You tried your hardest and nothing was working.  I know you didn't need anyone to defend you, but you were my friend.  I couldn't watch her do that to you, and do nothing.

After they were banned from blogit, that person went over to Myspace and continued their wrath saying shit about you and Ariala.  Another blogger and I went into defend mode.  I think we put up a good fight!  lol  I don't remember the turn out though.  But I think they stopped after they found out they couldn't get away with it on Myspace.

 

Do you remember when one of my family members joined blogit just to write shit about me and bring me down in fromt of my friends?  You were one of the first ones that came to my defense.  You even emailed me to make sure I was okay.  I will always remember that.  You also left a poop emoji in their blog.  lol    

The point is...you're a good person, Blackcat.  You always have been.  Maybe you have changed a little?  So what?  Sometimes we have to change to move on.  Don't let anyone tell you any different.  I have always appreciated everything you have done for me.  Sure, we nick pick at each other, and have had our trials, but I'm still glad I got to know you. You are a good friend.   

posted by shelly_b on August 9, 2017 at 12:18 PM | link to this | reply

Re: FormerStudentIntern

Ariala had been number 1 for a long time (I usually hovered between #2-4)... I believe this bully became number one for a short period because of her efforts to destroy both me and Ariala.  I had tried to reason with her, which only made me a bigger target, but Ariala went right into ignore mode.  (she was smart!)   Like a train wreck, it was difficult for everyone not to read and comment on her mean spirited posts.  I recall Joe Love coming to our defense, along with many others... if I remember correctly, he also tried to reason with her... but we didn't know she was ill until the end.  You can't reason with a mental illness. 

posted by -blackcat on August 9, 2017 at 10:45 AM | link to this | reply

Re: GoldenMean

Yes, it was the time of Ariala... I never wrote or read many of the religion posts at that time, so I'm not surprised you don't remember me.  Though I was in the comments and tied to Ariala.  At that time, we were #1 & 2 usually... 

I don't know what her issue was other than her illness.  I never did anything to her.  I hardly knew her.  It seemed like my mere existence angered her... lol  It was madness.

posted by -blackcat on August 9, 2017 at 10:38 AM | link to this | reply

I know of the blogger who you are speaking of. I read up on it once on Joe Love's blog about blogging. I think, too, what also contributed to the meltdown was that she was no longer numbe one. Her act had worn out people, and then she ended up ramping herself up further to the point where she got banned.

I myself have thankfully never dealt with a Blogit bully.

posted by FormerStudentIntern on August 9, 2017 at 9:44 AM | link to this | reply

Blackcat

Ah, so it was the time of Ariala. I remember her, but I do not remember you.  So you and Ariala were having fun together, and popular?  That explains another element.... of jealousy. The abuser saw your popularity and influence, was jealous, and hated you for it, and wanted to cut you down.  And others defended her because of "illness" ??? 

Ha, that is the age-old failure or refusal to recognize willing evil for what it is.  Abusers are not "ill" or "sick" or "crazed".  They may have secondary mental issues or aberrations, but the primary issue is that they WANT to be predatory, because they enjoy it.  If they changed that basic moral preference, they could easily deal with the mental issues or aberrations in a positive way.

posted by GoldenMean on August 9, 2017 at 7:23 AM | link to this | reply

Re: C_C_T

I did block her and she blocked me.  But after blocking me, she wrote horrible posts about me... yet I couldn't defend myself there because I was blocked.  Then she followed me in the comment area anywhere I went and badgered me.  It was maddening.  It took until the death threat and a massive meltdown for blogit to actually ban her for it to end. 

posted by -blackcat on August 9, 2017 at 6:54 AM | link to this | reply

I don't think such a blogger would last long here now. They soon get the chop. I just wonder why you did not just block her. We had someone just before you returned, it was a nasty experience for some, but the perpetrator did not last many days.  

posted by C_C_T on August 9, 2017 at 6:50 AM | link to this | reply

Re: RPresta

I feel the same way.  It was terrible for me.  I tried to use laughter as a defense towards the end.  I would have quit, but I had friends here and I didn't want to let her push me out completely.  

posted by -blackcat on August 9, 2017 at 6:43 AM | link to this | reply

Re: Naut

I'm almost certain you were witness to it but I don't recall your participation either.  It was a big deal around here, I think around end of 2006.  

I appreciate that you think you could have put a stop to it.  LOL  I thought that way too.  Until you've experienced the madness, you can't understand that there was NO stopping it.   Reasoning, Fighting back, killing with kindness, ignoring it... literally nothing worked. She was like the Terminator.  LOL

posted by -blackcat on August 9, 2017 at 6:40 AM | link to this | reply

Re: GoldenMean

Thanks for your comment.  It was a very difficult time because I'm a mediator at heart... I just want everyone to find common ground and get along... yet she kept poking me until it bled.  Maybe it was something in my nature that angered her?  I don't know.  I'll never understand it.  She seemed to have hatred for both me and Ariala because we were friends and were having fun?   It made no sense.  To be personally attacked for being too nice or friendly or happy was not something that I knew how to deal with.  I didn't feel like I won anything.  The entire event made me sad... sad and disappointed with humanity.

I will say that although many more came to my defense, there were also some that defended her "due to her illness."  I don't make light of mental illness, but some could not see that I was a victim of her illness as well.  The ugliness continued for a while afterwards and it was a difficult time around here.  I feel like you must have been around for it but I don't recall your participation.

 

posted by -blackcat on August 9, 2017 at 6:36 AM | link to this | reply

Blackat

I made a long comment on your last post about this, then I realized I should have made it here!  So, here it is, copied to here:

"I too was successful in getting an attacker banned from Blogit, many years ago. Consider it a victory.....  you and I are still here, and our abusive attackers are gone.  You could look at it this way..... we had to suffer through the abuse to discover, expose, and successfully defeat a predator.  It is a small victory, but a victory nonetheless.  A small step toward goodness and away from evil. 

Why do they do it?  Some people actually enjoy being predators upon others. Everything from torturing and killing people, to tormenting animals, to road rage, to being rude to strangers in public,  to trolling on Blogit.  It gives them a feeling of power, of domination, and they enjoy it.  I do not give them the benefit of the doubt.  I see them as evil,  so I either walk away from them entirely, or I engage them in battle to defeat them.  Most of the time I walk away, because battle is very stressful and draining.  

But at the same time I realize,  if I see their evil nature and do not call them out for it,  I am just allowing them to move on to other unsuspecting victims who do not see them as the predators they are.  I am just kicking the can down the road, for someone else to deal with.

So you and I can be proud that we did not disengage or kick the can down the road.  We engaged a predator in battle, we fought the good fight,  and we won.  That is what I remember most about it, instead of the wounds and scars. Cheers "

I would also add that it was very gratifying for me too,  to have other bloggers come to my defense,  or at least let me know that they were watching and supporting me.  That was a bonus.....  bonds of friendship were forged and strengthened,  while an abusive predator was exposed and defeated.  And who knows,  maybe it actually made the abuser step back and realize that maybe they went too far,  and maybe they won't do that again.

posted by GoldenMean on August 9, 2017 at 4:46 AM | link to this | reply

BC

Well, I've been here a few years, but I don't think I ever met that lady, or if I did she must have been a very casual acquaintance. And if she ever darkened my doorstep she didn't try to bully me, something I would remember and would also have put a stop to p.d.q., LOL...

 

posted by Nautikos on August 8, 2017 at 8:45 PM | link to this | reply

BC

I'm extremely sensitive so I don't respond well to negativity. Which is not to say we should all have a sewing circle mentality with saccharin frosting, but - well, I hear you.  

posted by RPresta on August 8, 2017 at 8:26 PM | link to this | reply

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