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Ooh soooo cool...Thank You...Kabu
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pendorin
on September 21, 2016 at 11:02 AM
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Thank You...Taps, I welcome all your prays and comments!
posted by
pendorin
on September 21, 2016 at 11:01 AM
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If I were you, I would probably not do anything different at all. But I am me with a completely different situation and a different personality, and different upbringing, so it is hard for me to relate. I can, though, pray for you and your family. God bless you.
posted by
TAPS.
on September 20, 2016 at 3:09 PM
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sending hugs
posted by
Kabu
on September 20, 2016 at 12:47 PM
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Thank You Kabu, I needed to believe that my life is also meaningful and I did the best I knew as a mother... Your right about getting on with our lives... Thank You again!
posted by
pendorin
on September 19, 2016 at 5:11 PM
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Thank You Kabu, I needed to believe that my life is also meaningful and I did the best I knew as a mother... Your right about getting on with our lives... Thank You again!
posted by
pendorin
on September 19, 2016 at 5:07 PM
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There is so much pain involved with grown up Children. How I longed for the end of nappies (diapers) cos they had to be washed and hung out to dry. How I longed for a full nights sleep and for adult conversation.
Now I would give anything to have all that back...and that is just the Grandchildren.
What I have learned is that Divorce always eventually affects your relationship with your children. They are always and forever the innocent victims and eventually you will pay for their pain.
I too was a strict mother, then when I was divorced and they were teenagers I became a permissive Mother which is one who will say if you do this...these are the consequences and if you do that ...those are the consequences. They made mistakes and wore the consequences but they had been warned. I did have boundaries of course.They never crossed those boundaries.
So probably our children had similiar upbringing.
One son and his wife and the kids are close to me. They love me but from a distance thanks.
The other son hates me has said terrible things to me and about me. His wife and the two grandchildren hate me.
Thereis nothing I can do but give it all to the God of my understanding and leave it alone.
I get on with my life. I love my children and Grandchildren, as deeply as is possible. That can never change, but we deserve life and some fun and interests as well. I am lucky. I enjoy retirement and being a hermit. Children have to grow up and forgive their parents for being humans, if they can't get over the hurt from the divorce then it is their problem, once they are or should be adult
I hope this helps a little.
posted by
Kabu
on September 19, 2016 at 4:43 PM
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