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So sorry about your daughter.  That also is terrifying to me.  It seems such a hopeless situation.  I hope for her sake she will come to her senses and make some changes.  Welcome back.

posted by TAPS. on February 25, 2016 at 9:41 PM | link to this | reply

WELCOME HOME!!

You be here just as much as you need and yes of course we love for you to read us too, but you do what you can.

I am no one to talk about going back into an abusive relationship. I was with numb nuts for almost 20 years but of course i am here for you ...for all your problems. Give that big loveable Teddy bear of yours a hug from me. I am so thankful that you have each other.

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posted by Kabu on February 25, 2016 at 10:05 AM | link to this | reply

Welcome back, as much and as long as you like!

You might point out to your daughter that bonding with someone is not the same as love. We bond for many reasons, not all of them healthy, and stay bound because of them, but it is not love: pity is not love, desire to heal or make happy is not love. One of the most important things is this: You don't have to stop loving someone, you just have to stop letting them hurt you. She can love him from a safe distance, as long as it takes for him to get the help he needs. That may be a really long time. 

If she loves him, she needs to understand just how her going back hurts him, too, by preventing him from healing whatever is broken in him that makes him think even in a single moment of rage, that it is all right for him to hit.

 

posted by Ciel on February 25, 2016 at 9:21 AM | link to this | reply

Bel

It's so nice to see you again - welcome back! Of course am very sorry about your difficulties, especially your daughter's problems! And you're right, of course - at some point 'tough love' appears to be the only answer left...

posted by Nautikos on February 25, 2016 at 9:19 AM | link to this | reply

It is great to see you back on Blogit. I am glad to see your brothers are doing well all things considered.

posted by FormerStudentIntern on February 25, 2016 at 5:27 AM | link to this | reply

Welcome back, Bel! It's so good to see you...

Hugs!  And yes, your kids can break your heart and there seems to be no limit to how many times they'll smile and nod and agree to your face and then go do the stuff that scares you all over again. But you wouldn't be you if you didn't love 'em and get tough when that's all that helps.

posted by Pat_B on February 25, 2016 at 4:57 AM | link to this | reply