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Ciel

I find these lapses happen a lot and have put lots of thought into it, spent lots of guilt on it, used these excuses, etc. When I worked regularly and traveled five states, I made many friends...and over my lifetime of moving around I've made sooooo many good friends who are far away.  I've found folks in both camps...the types like me who go months, sometimes years, without contact and can pick back up like yesterday....and those who need regular tending.  Facebook tends to satisfy folks at the extreme end of neediness, texting those in the middle range.... and Christmas cards for semi-hermits like myself, with occasional emails or calls if special news or and urge hits.  The fact is, there is just TOO MUCH and folks have to choose who and what they will spend time on....funny, but I am writing a post on that very thing right now!  I think you put your finger on it when you said perhaps some of it has to do with 'neediness' .....only it's become the need for contact versus the need for no demands. 

posted by Krisles on January 8, 2016 at 10:11 AM | link to this | reply

Yes it is so true ciel.  I don't know how many times people have done this.  It is very aggravating.  I have read that when a person makes you an option in their life not to consider them a priority

posted by Annicita on December 18, 2015 at 6:39 PM | link to this | reply

Ahhh...guilt and efforts ignored.

I was recently discussing this topic with my husband.  I have never understood why I am the first to pick up a phone, put my hands to a keyboard, or handwrite and snail mail a letter.  Isn't friendship two-sided?  I have even gone so far to turn the table on a few so called friends by starting my letter with, "Thought I'd check in and see if you're fingers are broke..."

posted by WeatheredLight on December 17, 2015 at 4:48 AM | link to this | reply

Well it does not seem that many want to take a bite out of this Ciel.

I think it is a job to remain ultra friendly with long distance friends , it tends to flourish and then wither. We are kind of bonded together on this blog site because we have the regular little patterns of behavior that the regulars are accustomed to, but leave at ones peril. No I am afraid we need constant stimulus to enable friendship to flourish and even then it has its limits. As the young man replied to his distant ex girl friend my new friend has nothing that you haven't got ,but she's got it here. A corny joke I know. It's life.  

posted by C_C_T on December 17, 2015 at 1:37 AM | link to this | reply