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I look at it as a matter of personal choice. There is no right or wrong. I myself am the sort of guy who keeps all of his entries. THere are certainly entries that I have written about times tha were awful for me along with those that do not reflect well on me. However, I aim to keep the complete story.
posted by
FormerStudentIntern
on March 14, 2015 at 10:50 AM
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I'm with Krisles on this one - it is very much a personal choice. I hope you will be careful to consider your own emotions before worrying about how others would or would not react to anything you decide to keep.
posted by
adnohr
on March 13, 2015 at 5:35 PM
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Butterfly
As most everyone will tell you, I don't give advice in matters of the heart, family matters and related issues, LOL...But I wouldn't necessarily nurn things - your children might want you to hang on to things for their sake...
posted by
Nautikos
on March 13, 2015 at 3:22 PM
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Burning is very ritualistic and just may help you to put this episode behind you. I know it cost you dearly and this is an unjust world. I think I would keep the sessions you had so you can remind yourself that you did make a decisions, one to stay and go forward...which by the way I admire you for doing.
posted by
Kabu
on March 13, 2015 at 2:18 PM
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I understand completely. I really do. I too am plagued with 'thoughts' from my past. They don't necessarily have to do with 'relationships,' just terrible things I went through some years ago. I, however, did write a book about them ( "The Hindering" ). And although it is all of my thoughts and reflections on this one difficult chapter, it didn't really relieve me from the nightmares. However, we grow strength from forging ahead, and living our lives to the fullest, and sometimes that's all you can do. Burning those things that bring you painful reminders may help, but gritting your teeth, telling yourself you're a strong and wonderful person, and moving forward helps even more! I know you can do it . . . 
posted by
JimmyA
on March 13, 2015 at 1:51 PM
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Re:
Thank you for your comments and I really never thought of it in that light. I just knew it would hurt others and couldn't see any good coming out of it. But then I am only "one" and maybe it could help someone generations down. It's gives me something to contemplate. Thanks
posted by
Butterfly-1950
on March 13, 2015 at 11:25 AM
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I think everyone is different. I personally love really knowing, as well as possible, the people who have formed me, who came before. I've found so much rich history and understanding of the people who came before by reading the long and rich letters left behind....some involve heartache, some have revealed information not passed down in oral histories. Other people don't want their secrets revealed, believing it best to edit their legacies....it's just a highly personal decision and one only you can make.
posted by
Krisles
on March 13, 2015 at 8:57 AM
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