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People grieve in different ways

and it takes, by my theory, half again as long to get over a relationship, as the the relationship lasted.  So--if it was a two year relationship, then it will be a year of recovery.

What has helped me get over such a crushing blow was the realization that the person I thought I was with was not actually the person I was with. The one I thought was my friend, was not. What I lost, I had never actually had. 

Those generalizations may help, or not.  It sounds to me as if he really needs to speak to a grief counselor.

posted by Ciel on June 20, 2014 at 5:15 PM | link to this | reply

Get through it.

posted by BC-A on June 18, 2014 at 4:00 PM | link to this | reply

That is difficult.

posted by Amanda__ on June 18, 2014 at 12:51 PM | link to this | reply

Listen to him going over the same things a few more times and then tell him enough, if he won't move forward. It hurts so much yet in ten years time he will probably have ytouble remembering about her. the hang up calls are probably what we get, just scam stuff...she will have moved on, probably had someone else to move on to. good luck!!

posted by Kabu on June 17, 2014 at 1:27 PM | link to this | reply

It can be tough to give another person advice when the giver has a pretty good inkling that the person being advised will not like what is said.

posted by FormerStudentIntern on June 17, 2014 at 10:28 AM | link to this | reply

Maybe it's getting through it.

posted by BC-A on June 17, 2014 at 7:57 AM | link to this | reply