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That's very kind of you Amanda..
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mneme
on April 14, 2014 at 2:57 PM
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Wow. I am so sorry. I will keep you in my prayers.
posted by
Amanda__
on April 14, 2014 at 2:31 PM
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Thank you FSA.. xx
posted by
mneme
on April 14, 2014 at 2:16 PM
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I do hope not, CCT - there must be families where life is more harmonious..and you are right, we can't take ugly words to heart.. when she was young and her father had had a rant at her I told her that he was probably tired, that he loved her and that we must forgive what people say and do when they are not themselves... so I have to practice what I preached!!
posted by
mneme
on April 14, 2014 at 2:15 PM
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Thanks Trusted Servant.. and thank you for teaching me a new word! (and I'm a former PhD student!!). Prayer is all I have to fight this with at the moment, until she's ready to listen to me.. if she ever is.
posted by
mneme
on April 14, 2014 at 2:13 PM
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Hi Kabu, I agree - that's why I did it, I didn't want to burden my other half with it, he has enough with his own. His mother's dementia has progressed to the point where she has no idea who he is any more, just a friendly face... while stepson still sits and lets life happen around him... a realy worry as we get older because one day we won't be here to support him in the simplest of tasks.
posted by
mneme
on April 14, 2014 at 2:11 PM
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hi Naut.. yes she will be leaving again in August... My sister says let her dad handle the problem!! I do feel for her, it can't have been easy but we are surely long past the upheavals of the last few years.
The kind of help I need is the help available for family members coping with mental instability (mind.org.uk). I can't think of any other answer for her massive swings between sweetie and monster.
posted by
mneme
on April 14, 2014 at 2:09 PM
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Thanks Taps .. something to do with the pace of modern life, perhaps ..
posted by
mneme
on April 14, 2014 at 2:03 PM
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Ouch... :) I have to admit I was tempted, but I know there's something wrong ..
posted by
mneme
on April 14, 2014 at 2:02 PM
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I think you're right Jimmy, and if I thought she would listen to me I'd suggest a check up .. but I know she won't. She already has a thyroid condition, and she does get very tired. It's monitored every six months .. she has been on thyroxin since she was 15. So I make a lot of allowances... and I do worry about her. This kind of behaviour is just not healthy.
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mneme
on April 14, 2014 at 2:01 PM
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Your daughter sounds an awful lot like my wife's niece, who, I believe, is the same age. I could tell you horror stories about her, but it probably wouldn't help matters much. If you don't mind me saying so, your daughter could have some kind of a chemical imbalance that neither of you is aware of. When was the last time she had an actual physical? Sometimes incidences like these aren't necessarily 'personal' issues, or even a form of mild protest. There may actually be something physically wrong that is causing these reactions from her! I'm no doctor, but that's my assessment, and I think that's the area I might try to address first . . . 
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JimmyA
on April 14, 2014 at 1:44 PM
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i would have told her to get her ass out and walk herself to the station
posted by
Annicita
on April 14, 2014 at 6:06 AM
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What a tangled web we weave...just by living life on a day to day basis.
posted by
TAPS.
on April 13, 2014 at 12:52 PM
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mneme
The 'immediacy' of the problem will resolve itself soon since, I take it, your daughter will return to Oz in the fairly near future. Professional help can be useful, but it can also be useless, and in many cases the cost far outweighs the benefit...
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Nautikos
on April 13, 2014 at 6:57 AM
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it is good to write it out of yourself anyway. Grown Children, they have no idea how much they hurt us and by the time they are older and maybe understand we will be gone and all too late and such a waste.
posted by
Kabu
on April 12, 2014 at 5:52 PM
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i've said some terrible things to both of my parents. but things are copasetic now cept mom is gone so there's go that relationship. prayers go up for all of you.
posted by
Carolyn_Moe
on April 12, 2014 at 2:29 PM
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Sadly it seems that everyone is unhappy, A few daughters I know do not even speak to their mothers, perhaps they cannot adapt to the fact that mothers need to live a different life to the one that grandmothers adopted. I would not take your daughter's words to heart, she probably still loves you.
posted by
C_C_T
on April 12, 2014 at 12:47 PM
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Here is to hoping that things with your daughter resolve themselves.
posted by
FormerStudentIntern
on April 12, 2014 at 11:50 AM
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