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TAPS, thank you.
posted by
_Sincerity_Anna_
on October 26, 2013 at 9:37 AM
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TAPS, it's not easy. Not at all. It's just nice to know that other people have been in the same or similar situations. I'm glad you did the right thing cause it leaves no regrets. You can look back and say yeah, I did my best, I tried. Someday I will look back and say the same. I'm not the mean one. He is. I don't want to hurt him. He wants to hurt me. AND someday when HE looks back he will be the one with regrets. Not me.
posted by
_Sincerity_Anna_
on October 26, 2013 at 9:34 AM
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This is a very good post. I tried really hard in that situation and it is never easy. But, he has died, and his widow is in a nursing home with Parkinson's, and I'm very glad I tried.
posted by
TAPS.
on October 26, 2013 at 9:16 AM
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Naut...
You are lucky then. It's not a pleasant experience. I was with my husband for nearly 18 years. I think the longer you're with someone t harder it is to split because they become a part of your every day life. I was only 16 when I got with my husband so I guess he was my entire life. Now I'm out there in the big world alone. It's both scary and exhilarating. Quite an experience to say the least. AND when there's children involved it's even harder. An ex will generally do whatever they can to make you look bad and themselves look good...especially to the kids.
posted by
_Sincerity_Anna_
on October 26, 2013 at 8:17 AM
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CCT, my husband always like to fight with anger. I always chose to fight with intelligence. I have cried my fair share of tears. They've gotten me no where. He wants to see me hurt. He wants me to suffer and be miserable. NO WAY! I refuse. Alot of emotions, yes, but even the wildest of emotions can be tamed and calmed and turned into something productive rather than something destructive. Yes, the whole situation hurts like hell. BUT he plays on my weaknesses. The best revenge and the best way to protect my self is to be happy and okay without him. AND for the most part I am. When I posted that last night I was just so angry and frustrated. He was being quite a jerk and I guess that's how I vented.
posted by
_Sincerity_Anna_
on October 26, 2013 at 8:13 AM
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SA (hope you don't mind - I hate typing!)
Good points! I don't have an ex (just ex-girlfriends, but they don't count, I guess, LOL) but if it should come to that (and you never know!) I'll definitely keep them in mind...
posted by
Nautikos
on October 26, 2013 at 7:38 AM
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I suppose, I don't know, but I would imagine a lot of emotions
are not what they seem.
You are intelligent so you protect yourself wisely and why not.
Tears though necessary at times do not always strengthen ones
ability to look forward and not fear the past.
Your basic hints will cover quite a few needs I am sure.
posted by
C_C_T
on October 26, 2013 at 12:27 AM
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Yes, I am and it's not fun. Thank you :)
posted by
_Sincerity_Anna_
on October 25, 2013 at 10:04 PM
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it sounds like you are going through a divorce...i hope it goes quick and less painful for you
posted by
Annicita
on October 25, 2013 at 9:46 PM
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