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Hey Jemmie, wow, that's alot of shit to be going thru. I love and opinionated bitch, btw, I'm in that club. Lol. Don't take this wrong, please, but in retrospect, it makes me feel better to know that I'm not the only one whose life seems out of control sometimes(a thing I have a hard time with, having no control).
For what it's worth, I had a similar experience a while back. I hope you don't mind my sharing. In 2003, my mom was diagnosed with terminal cancer and died sept 19th of the same year. I took care of her for the short time she was here. I had recently quit smoking and as stupid as it sounds it got to a point where the stress was so bad it was a choice between picking up a cigarette or picking up her morphine, I chose the cigarette and now I obsess over getting cancer and dying like my mother. In Dec. of 2004 my husband and I divorced. I moved in with my grandmother with my two yound sons sharing one room equipped with a double bed, a twin bed, a couple of dressers and our own bathroom. It was like living in a motel. A year after that in 2005 my grandmother, whom pretty much raised me, also became terminally ill. She was 90 at the time tho so it wasn't so much of a shock as it was with my mom who was only 61. I tried to continue working, while taking care of my kids and my grandmother(with occasional help from an aunt). I couldn't do it. My grandmother was a 24/7 job. She would get up and fall down through the night and I'd have to get up out of bed to go pick her up and make sure she was okay. She would have little strokes where she would have to be rushed to the hospital by ambulance, always in the middle of the night it seemed. So I quit my job and got on welfare. I didn't want to apply for pay from in home support services because her income was too high and they would have take money from her to pay me. I didn't want to be paid for taking care of a woman who helped raise me. She passed away in Dec of 2007. It was sad but I felt I had done all I could do for both my mom and grandmother so I was at peace and selfishly I thought maybe now I could have some semblance of a life back. Now here I sit 5 yrs later on disability from wrenching my back and shoulder while lifting my grandmother during one of her episodes, which I never had checked because there just wasn't enough time to worry about me, or so I felt at the time. My ex-husband, of course, had to be a complete ass making the whole situation 100 x's more stressful.
The good news is that somehow I survived it all. Through all the pain and heartache, the physical toll it all took on my body and my mind I'm still here to talk about it. I've remarried which is both a good and a bad thing. Marriage is difficult to say the least, but I've found love again. My kids are almost grown and doing pretty good. The oldest just got his license and bought hmself a car and the youngest just passed his written exam for his learners permit. Life goes on. Still has it's ups and downs, laughs and tears, I write my poetry as a release and to keep my sanity. I guess if there's any kind of moral to this whole response it's that, it's true "what doesn't kill you, makes you stronger" So hang in there with whatever life throws at you, you'll be okay and life WILL go on, for better or worse. Lol. Have a great day! :-)
posted by
RamfamilyWritings
on July 20, 2012 at 10:59 AM
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Wow Honey...that is just too much for anyone to go through in such a short span of time. Of course I'll continue to pray.
posted by
lovelyladymonk
on July 12, 2012 at 11:23 AM
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Oh dear, this is a whole bunch of sadness and husband needs a shake
when you have so much family to grieve about, to be fighting and wanting a divorce. Sounds to me like he is jealous of your concern for other people than himself
I am feeling for you and sending you a hug.
posted by
Kabu
on July 12, 2012 at 9:57 AM
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Jemmie211
Y I’ve identified love. BC-A, Bill’s R®st
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BC-A
on July 12, 2012 at 6:34 AM
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