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tamijo..
♥ Your situation isn't easy and you are both in my prayers. ♥
posted by
jacenta
on May 31, 2012 at 5:21 PM
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My prayers are added to everyone else's Tamijo.
posted by
lovelyladymonk
on May 30, 2012 at 12:35 PM
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Re: tamijo
Wise Wiley, I always listen to what you have to say. I am trying not to be an enabler as I am afraid I did that (unknowingly) for too many years. My daughters do not blame me and are encouraging to take care of myself and to put him in God's hands. So that is what I am doing. Thanks for your comments and encouragement.
posted by
tamijo
on May 30, 2012 at 11:52 AM
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tamijo
This is not meant to harm you but I have to say it as a sober alcoholic of 44 years plus had psychotherapy for about 33 years. So, my dear lady I'm not a preacher or a busybody, don't go to AA meetings anymore, but at 76 years of age I must speak my truth for others suffering with this addiction problem.
ENABLER
": one that enables another to achieve an end; especially : one who enables another to persist in self-destructive behavior (as substance abuse) by providing excuses or by helping that individual avoid the consequences of such behavior"
My first wife left me when she was at where you are at now. I quit drinking. We got back together for 10 years of sobriety and then I left, sober.
The marriage had my alcoholic problem in the first 10 years and then it broke up anyway, again because of problems between me and her but not alcohol problems.
Sober 44 years I can say I am very greatful for leaving me the first time, I wanted my kids back.Well Bev is a very happy person now, has the love of her kids and grandkids, and they need her and she needs them.
I'm happy for her and all the kids, and have settled into old age without closeness between me or my grandkids. God arranges things the way they should be and I came to understand that.
God Bless you in your life, bon courage.
posted by
WileyJohn
on May 30, 2012 at 11:16 AM
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Here is to hoping that he feels better fast.
posted by
FormerStudentIntern
on May 30, 2012 at 10:18 AM
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Re:
Thanks Jay. He knows that I am here for him and he knows his Higher Power is too. But it is up to him now. I can't make him. Sad thing is, he really is a good guy. He just chooses to let the bottle win.
posted by
tamijo
on May 29, 2012 at 11:17 PM
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Having gone through this and worse I know where your husband is at, how confused he is, though he won't admit it. And the sad thing is that there is nothing you can do to change things more than what you are doing and planing. It is up to him and God now, if he will let Him in. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family...God Bless
posted by
UtahJay
on May 29, 2012 at 11:03 PM
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Thanks Kabu. Prayers are always appreciated.
posted by
tamijo
on May 29, 2012 at 10:43 PM
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I am so sorry to read this and of course I will and am praying for you both
posted by
Kabu
on May 29, 2012 at 9:02 PM
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