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I am glad you are writing about what many of us know but choose not ....
to delve into. Writing about our hurt and pain or the bare bones rather is what makes the reading so intense and real. I mean, exploring the hurt through writing means going for the jugular so to speak. When we write the truth it is all the more vivid with emotion. I have enjoyed your post and will read on of course... I share some of the same feelings of which you have expressed so honestly. Thank you

posted by Dark_Dreamer on July 4, 2011 at 2:58 PM | link to this | reply

I'm sorry it took so long for me to answer you here.

My first man I chose because I thought he was like my father.  It ended when I realized I was looking at things that were not there.  This last, and I think it will be the last, I chose because I thought he was so unlike my father.  I was wrong again. 

I can't say that I have not learned and come to understand more of my relationship with my father.  It is hard to believe I will ever find a partner who will be a partner and not just another haunt of him. 

posted by Randir on July 4, 2011 at 2:43 PM | link to this | reply

There is a theory that in our relationships we select people who cause the most familiar pains in a subconscious bid to find a way to grow beyond it and so we often end up with partners who reflect our parents.

 

Writing is a great outlet, however, I use it myself sometimes

posted by lionreign on June 24, 2011 at 8:14 AM | link to this | reply

yes, writing really is very therapeutic. Keep on with your poems.

posted by Rockingrector_retd on June 21, 2011 at 7:01 AM | link to this | reply

This is a common theme, unfortunately--

I have seen this story told by others here in Blogit, and know it well myself.  Fathers don't always appreciate how essentially necessary they are to their daughters and how formative their interactions are, in setting the potentials of her future happiness.  And some just don't care.

But daughters always do care, whether it turns to dogged hope, or angry disappointment and despair, first with father, and later with the men she turns to for healing and wholeness.

posted by Ciel on June 13, 2011 at 11:14 AM | link to this | reply

w We keep the poems no matter what. BC-A, Bill’s R®st

posted by BC-A on June 12, 2011 at 6:51 PM | link to this | reply

I often "purge" through writing.  I think most people who have a knack for writing use it as a healing process. 

posted by Troosha on June 12, 2011 at 10:16 AM | link to this | reply

The best thing to do is to write it out! sam 

posted by sam444 on June 12, 2011 at 8:37 AM | link to this | reply