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Hi Wendy,

I am so sorry to hear this has happened.  You can always talk to me via email or facebook.  I hope you know that.  I am here for you.  I am sorry your mom is being so hurtful toward you.

Amanda

posted by Amanda__ on May 22, 2010 at 9:13 AM | link to this | reply

Re: lustorlove...
I have in the past made warnings to you and you didnt want to listen, I know nothing about your mom, but I cant believe since she has lived longer than you that  she doesnt have your interest and that of your children.  First of all the people you have to think about is your children and to me it sounds like they have been threw enough for small children they dont need to have anymore dissapointments in their life.  I am not a traveler and know very little about India but I would not want to go there by myself, Sunny there has to be men in the US that you can love and will love you and your children.  Enough is enough, its just a warning to you.

posted by Lanetay on May 21, 2010 at 11:18 PM | link to this | reply

FSI...
Yes, and it hasn't been the first time for either of those things.
I am confident that everything will work out somehow.  I just need to stay as positive as I can.

posted by Afzal_Sunny7 on May 21, 2010 at 8:29 PM | link to this | reply

I am so sad to read that there has been a spate of disappointment with regards to your government and your mother. I pray that these will indeed be sorted out.

posted by FormerStudentIntern on May 21, 2010 at 8:21 PM | link to this | reply

lustorlove...
If I didn't want to hear what you have to say, you would be blocked.

You are right, knowing someone on the net is not the same as knowing someone in person. There are things you can not know over the net, like little bits of their personality that can't be easily seen if you have not spent a lot of time with them physically.
However, a master deceptor can hide any negative factors from you until it is too late and you are trapped.  So being with someone in person is not necessarily safer.

The difference between you and my mother is that you really would like to see your daughter happy and you are just protective.  With my mother, she just doesn't want me to bother with anyone.  I had been told for years from some family members that I shouldn't ever get married.
My mother was married to someone she really couldn't have known or anticipated what would become of him.

Everyone screws up. Almost no one gets it right the first time.  How many people over 12 do you know that are still with their first love?
As we go through relationships, we learn what it is that we don't like.  That is how we figure out what it is that we do like and want in a person.  Sadly, it is only through experience that we learn.

posted by Afzal_Sunny7 on May 21, 2010 at 8:14 PM | link to this | reply

Timmy...
How right you are, and I always think about that.
Years ago a friend's sister had met this guy, was with him over a month before she learned that he was married.

My son's father was a master of deception. He had everyone fooled, including my mother, grandfather, aunt and uncle, etc.

But it wouldn't matter to my mother, as I know that she just uses the internet thing as an excuse.  She has never liked any man that I have been with at first.  The reality is that she feels I have bad judgement and doesn't want me with ANY man.

posted by Afzal_Sunny7 on May 21, 2010 at 7:58 PM | link to this | reply

Thank You, Sam...
How can I tell you how very sweet that is?

You know, when I told Afzal that he couldn't come here, but someone who is not in love can come here and "fall in love", get married and stay here, he told me he would come here and fall in love. lol

The problem is that when you go to apply for a fiance' visa, they grill you really well on how it is you met and how long you have been together, etc.
If they figured it out, which they likely would, it would be considered fraud and Afzal could be banned here for 10 years. I will consider your offer, but not really sure I'd like to take the chance.

Maybe me and Afzal could come visit sometime after we are married and all this is worked out.
Afzal loves people so much...it's so hard for me to understand how anyone could hate him....especially my own mother.

posted by Afzal_Sunny7 on May 21, 2010 at 7:51 PM | link to this | reply

I know you dont want to hear what I have to say, but I am afraid I have to agree with your mom, knowing someone on the net is not the same as in person and people do know how to snow ball people, and no its not out of jealousy I say this itis out of care for people.  My daughter would say its her life and let me screw it up, so be it, screw it up, I know I have screwed up more than once

posted by Lanetay on May 21, 2010 at 6:27 PM | link to this | reply

sunny
Love always finds a way. As for your mom..........maybe you can pass on some reality.....I was married for 20 plus years to my first wife, she turned into someone that I had no clue about. So...........how well do we really know anyone?

posted by TIMMYTALES on May 21, 2010 at 4:23 PM | link to this | reply

Your dreams are not crushed! Why can't you and Afzal rendezvous at my house? I will do whatever it takes to get you two together! Can't he just be a friend coming to visit me, and then you can be here waiting! I do have a guest bedroom!  I think it could work! You would be going to see another Internet friend and it won't be a boy! Let me know, I am here for both of you! Stay positive and we will get this thing worked out! sam

posted by sam444 on May 21, 2010 at 3:59 PM | link to this | reply