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dear Rockingrector_retd, yes, they are fabulous women and an example of how to behave at many points in life. I shall miss her but loved every moment in her company. Thanks for writing.
posted by
benzinha
on April 1, 2010 at 6:27 PM
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Re: I have a friend some distance away that I hope I can visit
Well, the family picked me up to go, so I could not stop to get any wine. Next time.
I remember your cherished old friend, so far from you. Distance is one cruel fact of life, distance mixed with poor travel funding.
Praying that you get to see her again. Thanks, Azur.
posted by
benzinha
on April 1, 2010 at 6:26 PM
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Re: Bring the wine, and glasses.
Well, no wine, not this time, maybe next.
It was a really good visit. People who are very old and have done it all, except scuba diving in the Caribbean, she said, are ready to go.
I told her that I had heard somewhere that she had taken her credit card and gone sailing and scuba diving in the Caribe. Said that I had spread this story all over town. She started laughing and said, "Well there you go, I have gone, at least everyone believes it is so !!"
posted by
benzinha
on April 1, 2010 at 6:24 PM
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Re: Both Death and Father Time, are uncaring BASTARDS! Nobody's friend!
northsage_45, Guy, Yes at 91, she has done it all and is ready and so very serene and happy and practical. It was a good visit for that reason, just reality based conversation, with some sorrow. Thanks for writing here.
posted by
benzinha
on April 1, 2010 at 6:22 PM
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Re: I feel certain that you will keep everyone laughing and it will end being
Kabu, it was the loveliest. She has become so tiny, but dressed up for us. Her granddaughter has met us all before and vacationed with us once in Mexico, so we were fast friends immediately once again. We promised to return and really plan to visit again.
It was lovely.
posted by
benzinha
on April 1, 2010 at 6:19 PM
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I hope it was a fabulous visit and you made many more happy memories. Aren't they great, these strong women who live life to the full?
posted by
Rockingrector_retd
on March 28, 2010 at 6:52 AM
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benzinha, Life, it's a wild ride!
posted by
dsm_tchr
on March 26, 2010 at 5:47 PM
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I have a friend some distance away that I hope I can visit
before it's too late. We never really know when the last visit is with anyone.
So perhaps we need to enjoy each visit like it is. Even if the wine's not drunk, it's fine to take it.
posted by
Azur
on March 26, 2010 at 3:15 PM
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Bring the wine, and glasses.
Maybe she will propose a toast? Just don't let her drive...
posted by
majroj
on March 26, 2010 at 3:00 PM
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Both Death and Father Time, are uncaring BASTARDS! Nobody's friend!
Abuelita,
As I've heard, "Life is a sexually transmitted disease, and from the day we are born, we all begin dying a little bit every day. Often, nature, dumb luck, and our immunity system foils our blundering attempts to hurry along our endings, but everyone keeps on trying, until we finally get it right." Not a very rosy outlook on life, but it's hard to argue with the fact of a 100% mortality rate. All anyone can do is fight those odds, fight till the bitter end, and cram every possible morsel of joy, accomplishment, friendship, and satisfaction, into the time that we each have.
It sounds as though your friend has lived a successful and very long life, so when her time on Earth comes to it's end, she probably won't have many regrets. This is the quintesential definition of a good, well-loved and productive life, one lived to its very fullest.
Not a bad outcome, and you should cherish all the time you have spent with her. I am confident that she highly values the time she has spent with you, and I'd be willing to bet that she won't dread death as I probably will, so I envy her what I think will amount to contented serenity when the time comes, instead of a lot of "What Ifs, and If Onlys" as she reflects back upon her existence. The best that many of us can hope for, is far, far, less.
Guy
posted by
northsage_45
on March 26, 2010 at 2:54 PM
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I feel certain that you will keep everyone laughing and it will end being
a truly happy/sad day. Independent...that is exactl how I intend to stay....I even left the country to ensure it happens.
posted by
Kabu
on March 26, 2010 at 2:06 PM
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