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Re: Re: he's a friend, he's a guy, he's a dude, he's a foolll.....
you still there

 


posted by brooklyn12 on April 3, 2010 at 9:09 PM | link to this | reply

Re: he's a friend, he's a guy, he's a dude, he's a foolll.....
honestly friends are secondary between the attraction....atttraction is there or not....when it's there, that's the lack of self control...but if you act on it you have to able to handle that that's all itt is....unfortunately woman are tooo ttooo emotional to separate the two...men not so much

 


posted by brooklyn12 on April 3, 2010 at 9:05 PM | link to this | reply

Re: he's a friend, he's a guy, he's a dude, he's a foolll.....
rejection sucks for anyone....but that's life....the difference btw friends....is the chemistry....i either want to ravage you or not

posted by brooklyn12 on April 3, 2010 at 9:01 PM | link to this | reply

Re: he's a friend, he's a guy, he's a dude, he's a foolll.....
i appreciate your insight...and i love friendships and people on various levels....there's so much to take and learn from one person to another...i've had stronger feelings for others, and vice versa....that inbalance doesn't always work though cause there is still that underlying hope.  and knowing that imbalance...the fair thing to do is not pretend and take it for what it's worth.  but at the end of the day, i think it's unhealthy for both parties.  A guy blowing me off is fine, sure rejection sucks....but we've all been the rejector and the rejectee....if there are no expectations on both involved, it makes for a lovely friendship.   my point on her situation, she cares that he's with someone else....one of best friends is a male....i would love for him to find some one, and never feel hurt or resentful...and it goes both ways.....if a male is only my friend....but deep down inside he thinks maybe....maybe there's a chance....it will lead to complications.  the reality of this topic at hand is one....they slept with one another....not your typical frienship, right...and now there's a future they need to maturely figure it out....could he maybe take a moment and say i got a bit of baggage i neeed to deal with it, so i neeed to take a step back briefly to figure out my responsibility's....any good, decent girl would respect that and admire his dignity....does that make sense?

posted by brooklyn12 on April 3, 2010 at 8:22 PM | link to this | reply

he's a friend, he's a guy, he's a dude, he's a foolll.....
first question you gotta ask yourself, if it was another guy blowing you offf would it bother you?  if it's only him, you have feelings for him.   yes, guys are guys are guys....simple and reactional. it won't enter his psyche, "shoot, should i've beem there for her." simply because that sentiment doesn't cross his mind....and then to confront him on a subject that he's far from in touch with leads to two people talking to a wall....with that said that doesn't make him less than a great friend.   Now where your boundaries are with him.  You like him....his company, his humor, his friendship for what it is.   but don't expect too much....you'll hardly find friends with the entire package, but friends for other reasons rock.  my question, is do you like him more than a friend, thus expecting more in return?   there's the complication...

posted by brooklyn12 on April 3, 2010 at 4:40 PM | link to this | reply