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I understand completely....
posted by
_Symphony_
on February 1, 2010 at 3:00 PM
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My husband's daughter is a senior in high school and is now having a reality check about how important grades are and how she should have tried harder in throughout high school. She probably won't get accepted to her first choice college because of her grades and test scores. You are right to push them to do their best. They are lucky that you care as much as you do.
posted by
_AC_
on January 28, 2010 at 11:49 AM
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sounds to me like you are an amazing parent
you are concerned for your children's future, not for the easy way out of just letting it be. I am personally very proud of parents like you that will end up with responsible and productive adult children. But, dont forget to enjoy these years, they will be gone in a flash you will one day wish they were here again. That is a promise.
posted by
Tzippy
on January 27, 2010 at 10:39 PM
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I've been...
a single parent longer than I was a married parent. My daughter is a "perfect" student with little common sense. My son is much like I was with school..doing the least amount possible to get by. I have cried, bribed, begged for mercy when it comes to grades (etc) and in the end..even though he's almost 15.. I have learned that humor works the best.
Not that I don't take the issues seriously, of course I do...but by me using humor..he seems to get that this is on him..that for whatever thought process he has..it seems to be this "if mom isn't taking this serious..damn I better..she's not going to fix it." At this point.. there isn't anything left that I haven't tried.
Funny, humor, levity...they NEVER expected that from me.
posted by
Sincerely_Jane
on January 27, 2010 at 2:44 PM
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Re:
Thanks! It's hard, especially having done it alone for so many years. I'm tired of being the bad guy all the time. I sure hope the days come they understand! I love my kids with all that I am.
posted by
vulnerable
on January 27, 2010 at 12:45 PM
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They don't see it now but you are right to invoke penalties when they are not performing at their very best! You will get your thank you down the road when they fully understand! And the note makes it all worth it! Kids like boundaries even though they will not admit it! sam
posted by
sam444
on January 27, 2010 at 12:16 PM
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