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Agree! I'll support you for your happiness! Love conquers everything.

posted by kwentuhero on November 27, 2009 at 2:36 PM | link to this | reply

Re: Children
Thank you for reading my stuff!  He is 62, I am 53, so no children for us!  His children are 39 and 34.  Daughters.  Grown women with children of their own.  Trouble is, Grandpa has been hung with the 19 yo grandson, his 17 yo girlfriend, and their year old child.  His mama is the 39 yo.  Grandson, girlfriend, and baby moved in last winter, when baby was one month old and girl was 16.  They stole from me, lied to me and about me, easedropped on my conversations, and went through my things when I was not at home, helping themselves to whatever they wanted.  Grandpa now has a lock on his bedroom door and locks it when he leaves the house.  The oldest daughter stood in my living room out there back in the spring and screamed at me that "this never was supposed to be y'all's, yours and daddy's!!  This was supposed to be mama and daddy's, NOT YOURS and daddy's!"  All because I asked the grandchildren and their friends to turn off the tv and either help me clean the living room or go somewhere else, like home next door.  Younger one lives right next door, on the same land, with her three kids and no man, has never been married.  Neither has older one, but she lives with a man.  It's her son living in the house.  She was visiting sister that day.  Kids went home and told mama that I had run them off, told them to get out of the house.  Big sister came storming over, screaming about how she didn't think it was "right" that the grandkids couldn't come over and watch tv whenever they wanted to.  I do, and was, working a full time job and trying to parent my own teens remotely while living out there, so housecleaning time was at a premium.  Perhaps you understand a bit better now.

posted by Mama.Dragonfly on November 27, 2009 at 12:15 PM | link to this | reply

You are not the other woman but the love of his life! Go with it and be happy! It has been long enough! You have your 'sweat equity' in more than one area! Do not deprave yourself any longer! It is the present moment that is important! sam

posted by sam444 on November 27, 2009 at 8:03 AM | link to this | reply

 You put in the time. All you need are the children. I don’t know how you can communicate more with them. I guess there has to be more. I hope that you, your guy, and his children will find a way. Certainly the lost of their mother and another woman, helping see her dream through was traumatic. She must have wanted it to raise them in the beautiful spot. It comes down to communicating that the other woman loves them and wants to help them through. That is, in your role. BC-A, Bill’s RLJst

 

posted by BC-A on November 27, 2009 at 4:59 AM | link to this | reply