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 Aah it’s called love love. BC-A, Bill’s RJLst  

posted by BC-A on November 21, 2009 at 8:04 PM | link to this | reply

O boy! You have to get those bills paid! I don't know what one truly does, but I think that loving him is the most important thing and you are filled with love for him! Just pay the bills! lol sam

posted by sam444 on November 20, 2009 at 10:56 PM | link to this | reply

He loves you he doesn't need to learn the world is just about the
materialthings. Yes, he's adorable and I've been there wanting to make everything wonderful and easy for my boys . Well I didn't have much money either so I couldn't buy much.I found that they were happiest when I spent time with them.You don't want a teenager demanding your money demanding things you can't afford sending you broke and then walking out. Cuteness can turn ugly later love.

posted by Kabu on November 20, 2009 at 7:17 PM | link to this | reply

Mia,

Here's something you should try.  Next time you're out, try NOT buying something for EJ, unless it's something he REALLY needs in that moment.  Then, once every two or three months, you can buy him a new toy.  Christmas is coming, and he'll be getting plenty I'm sure.

You need things for yourself as well, and denying them because of EJ will end up putting you in the hole in the long run, which will cut down on your spending for your son.

Take care of the necessities first, so you'll have some play money afterward.

Another great way to get books for EJ is to ask at your pediatrician's office.  Many of them give out free books to young children.  Sometimes libraries also give away free children's books.

You can also try writing a physical list for yourself of the pros and cons of spending this kind of money.

I agree with StraightForward.  Try not to let yourself feel guilty for the absence of your son's father.  The best way to avoid EJ's thinking he's going to get something everytime you shop is to nip the unneeded spending in the bud.

If he's not asking for it, he may not even really realise he has it.

You're already a great Mum!...

posted by lovelyladymonk on November 20, 2009 at 7:07 PM | link to this | reply

I think you feel you want to make up for the other parent, and it's
perhaps time you removed that feeling....

posted by Straightforward on November 20, 2009 at 6:22 PM | link to this | reply