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Elyse
It will be all right; I'm having some calmer moments now...It was just sort of a shock to find MORE trouble brewing, when I'm trying so hard to quell that which I have already! I think we're having some growing pains around here. But I will perservere! These lovely Blogit friends came on at the perfect time in my life. I've been so grateful! Hugs!
posted by
Darson
on November 16, 2009 at 6:59 PM
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~ I wish there was something to add here but, my heart and prayers are with you Angel. ~Elyse (actually, if it would help, I've been through this before --- I was married once before - for 6 years and struggled for years from the divorce with 2 children (school; job with very late hours; kids slept near my computer at this job often; less and more, more and less). Married again 7 years later at 28 and wow ~ more struggles... I'm ripened at mid 50's and finally thankful that I've survived with a chockful of gray and with character lines moreso 'round my eyes and mouth --- from smiles and not so much tears --- now the brow...okay big furrows --- that's when I would be on my knees and agonizing before the Lord) It's all about walking the long walk but believing --- no matter...no matter how low and how hard it gets...it will come to pass as it should) ~ trust God. I send You BIG BIG HUGS ~ Elyse
posted by
elysianfields
on November 16, 2009 at 6:21 PM
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Thanks, FSI!
posted by
Darson
on November 16, 2009 at 5:09 PM
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Organizing is so difficult to do...So sorry about your situation.
posted by
FormerStudentIntern
on November 16, 2009 at 5:05 PM
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Kabu
One for you, too, Kabu-Kin.
posted by
Darson
on November 16, 2009 at 2:54 PM
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Justi
Oh, and Justi....? THANK YOU!!!
posted by
Darson
on November 16, 2009 at 2:53 PM
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Justi
I was on the computer wrapping up some correspondence with the battling ex-tenants, and saw you and Kabu's encouraging comments. What a blessing. You've both been there and done that and so you know how this feels. I guess it's time to face the music, and that's okay. I will go to court and calmly and with dignity state my children's case, for the sake of them...someone needs to be in it for THEM, after all. They are such great kids, they should pay double just to have the privilege of claiming them....I'm a very lucky mom, even if I never get another cent to support them.
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Darson
on November 16, 2009 at 2:52 PM
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Kabu
You know? You're right. I am still giving him a scapegoat. No matter who I live with, my kids come first. Lucky for me I married a guy that is good about that,for the most part. He still gets frustrated and I don't blame him. He loves the kids like they're his, but he had to pay for the ones he helped make, too, and he did so faithfully each month...plus he helped with braces, etc. I am looking to her to blame when, like you said, he's making those choices. He doesn't HAVE to go to court, and she can't make him do anything. He's a big boy now.
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Darson
on November 16, 2009 at 2:49 PM
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Darson
I so hate this for you. I managed to care for mine simply because I hated to take him back to court. Why, he got what he wanted the first go 'round I expected it again. I can't understand women who do not care for their step children. She should be ashamed. Mine are part of my husband they belong to him. I love mine as my own children. I paid their support until they were grown up. My ex never paid but I was young and able to work and do so many things I could not do now, nor should a mother have to do so. God bless you and good luck to you too. I know you hate it.
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Justi
on November 16, 2009 at 2:40 PM
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I just don't get it. Why do people and sadly it is mostly guys think that
they don't have to support their children just because they are divorced from the mother/father. Health, schooling, clothing, feeding should continue foryour child no matter what. It sickens me. I had an amazing first divorce too but he still paid the absolute minimum and that to only the youngest boy.
He once told me he didn'tbelieve in helping his sons.My reply was not lady like. I said to him that he was right. That is parents had helpedhim and look what an arsehole he turned out to be.
Naughty Kabu but like you I gotsick of fighting for my kids and hate hate hated it. She probably is to blame but they are his babies and nothing to do with her. GRRRRRRRRRRR
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Kabu
on November 16, 2009 at 2:39 PM
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