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Re: Decshak
It does and I am. It is just a little disconcerting to realize that I'm getting to the point where that natural inclination of loving children to protect is coming/has come to me.
posted by
TAPS.
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September 26, 2009
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I know it doesn't work like this, but I like to think that I would be happy
to realize people are trying to look out for me. I'm just trying to help, lol....
posted by
_Decshak
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September 26, 2009
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Times will change, TAPS, but, remember, the memories are what helped that change come about! Let's pray that those memories linger on into many generations!
posted by
Ryan_Morrow
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September 25, 2009
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Wow, TAPS...
This makes me want to go find you and give you a big healing hug. I guess you'll have to put your foot down, eh?
posted by
myrrhage_
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September 25, 2009
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Interesting to see how the roles seem to be reversing.
posted by
FormerStudentIntern
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September 24, 2009
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The trick to being who you are
is being prepared to defend you boundaries, even against people who love you, and who you love. In other words, you may have to not do what you are told even if it upsets people
posted by
lionreign
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September 24, 2009
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one great thing about being The Mom...
When you explain something to them firmly, in that Mom voice, they go all kid... It's when you lose that voice, or give it up I suspect, that they begin to worry...
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Ciel
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September 23, 2009
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Re: shobana
The closer the parent/adult-child relationship, the more noticible it is. If there is distance between them, I think it is easier to just assume that mom & dad are doing well on there own (or hoping so).
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TAPS.
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September 23, 2009
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Re: Greenfields
For a time it is possible, yes. And, I have enjoyed that fully. But, it seems that all too soon the attitudes skew a bit.
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TAPS.
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September 23, 2009
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Re: johnmacnab
Do your daughters roll their eyes at each other and smirl when they think you are not looking? You might watch for that. LOL
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TAPS.
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September 23, 2009
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Taps - After a while the children take charge I guess..It's more of them being protective like I am with my mum. These days she tends to listen to what I say and I pretty much make plans for her too. Gosh after reading you I think I have to reconsider a little..
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shobana
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September 23, 2009
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Yes, it seems that they become
more protective of us. Sometimes I like it, because I know it is coming from a place of love. At other times I wonder if it is our role modeling that makes them so. Is it not possible to have a relationship of equals in which we are inter dependenat on each other?
posted by
Greenfields
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September 23, 2009
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Re: Sinome
I totally agree. I'm continually fascinated by the future and what it is bringing our way.
posted by
TAPS.
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September 23, 2009
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No, not shrinking... its just changing with the times... that world we were so sure we could control turned out to be one uncontrolable rollacoaster ride and just as in our youth we rolled with the turns and later on faigned to enjoy the ride... now we feel ourselves being swayed by the speed of the changes all over again. Its not too bad... almost like going back :-) xoxo
posted by
Sinome
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September 23, 2009
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My kids have been patronizing me since they were in middle school! And my own Mom is 75 and I would never deign to tell her what to do! I'm sure that you consider yourself lucky that you have kids who care so much....Mal
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gapcohen
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September 23, 2009
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I'm not there yet (Son is only 17!) but I can see how my Mann and I sometimes look at his mom or mine....And we don't do that to be mean you know...just caring!
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auslander
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September 23, 2009
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I'm not there yet (Son is only 17!) but I can see how my Mann and I sometimes look at his mom or mine....And we don't do that to be mean you know...just caring!
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auslander
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September 23, 2009
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(((Taps))) ~ I absolutely adore this journal note today. From beginning to end. Dr. Suess and then you, all in one? Can't get much better than this. I do so relate to what you're saying about the kiddo's starting to tell you a bit more, what is better for you, how you should do things etc. My youngest daughter is starting to do this to me --- especially when I drive (with her in the car) - 
- I am reminded of my little mum-in-law who used to say, 'no-one is going to tell me what to do' and until her dying age 89. and she said to me, "what goes around comes around" - I pray I was less intrusive on her life as I know others were ~ (shaking my piggy bank to be certain I have enough gas in my car to get out of Dodge when it looks like the gang will be getting me to sign over power of attorney )
Great post, Taps xoxox Elyse
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elysianfields
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September 23, 2009
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Yes, I catch those glances between the boys...
those little eye rolls, those semi-patronizing comments. They forget I'm not losing it in my old age -- I've always been this way. Now that they're reaching middle age they've decided hey're with it and up to date and I'm a fogey. What they don't realize is they're closer to my age now than they've ever been, moreso every day...
posted by
Pat_B
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September 23, 2009
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Taps
If they're worried that you've lost any of your faculties they should read your blogs!
posted by
Antipodean
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September 23, 2009
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Taps
I'm in exactly the same catch position, Taps, but my daughters haven't started telling me what to do - yet. However I do notice a lot of head shaking as dad suggests something. Your 'last century' remark made me sit up and take notice.
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johnmacnab
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September 23, 2009
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Taps, I've noticed the same thing with my daughter; she is beginning to get a tiny little bit bossy about what is good/not good for me..... 'The child is father of the man' according to Wordsworth, and now I know what he means.
posted by
elinjo
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September 23, 2009
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we took care of our kids and now they feel they have to take care of us, especially in those senior moment times
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lustorlove
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September 23, 2009
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