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Re: pat
Thanks for coming by.  I like to hear your thoughts.  I deposited a couple of comments on a recent blog of yours.  They are just an expression of personal opinion, so don't be offended.  In general, I like your work.  I hope my comments can be of help to you.  I think you have the talent to do very well.

posted by Jack_Flash on June 2, 2009 at 3:53 AM | link to this | reply

straight,
I don't mind taking care of sensible sensitivities, but when sensitivity turns into irrational hypersensitivity I lose interest in pandering to it.

posted by Jack_Flash on June 2, 2009 at 2:31 AM | link to this | reply

I want to thank Azur for reminding me that I like your writing.
Guess that rut I'm trying to climb out of is bigger than I thought.  I also agree with your idea on offensiveness being in the eye of the one who takes it. 

posted by Pat_B on May 31, 2009 at 5:14 AM | link to this | reply

I guess we must be what we are while taking care of others' sensitivities.
The rest is not in our hands

posted by Straightforward on May 30, 2009 at 10:25 AM | link to this | reply

mariposa

It is a little too easy to go to far into the habit of trying to please others.  We all do it, to a greater or lesser extent.  The biggest trick is to find the optimum point for drawing the line.  Stop trying to please others, and you become a nasty jerk unliked by all.  Overplease and you become a bimbo stepped on by all.  Drawing the line is far harder than living up to it once it is drawn.  And questioning whether you have drawn it in the right place is a doubt that never leaves your mind.

Generally speaking, most people need to be more assertive in drawing the line.  Yet there are many who overstep sensible bounds and become totally offensive.  I once took an ''assertiveness training'' seminar to fill a class of a friend who was giving it for university credit.  I met some of the most offensive people whom I have ever met.

 

posted by Jack_Flash on May 30, 2009 at 7:14 AM | link to this | reply

Re: Azur
I am glad to see that you agree.  I believe it was Ricky Nelson (prior to blowing up his DC-3 in midair while freebasing cocaine) who once said someththing about a garden party that went, ''you can't please everyone, so you got to please yourself.''

posted by Jack_Flash on May 30, 2009 at 6:31 AM | link to this | reply

That is a good thought for the day.  I try too hard not too offend people.  I need to be myself, and say what is in my heart and not worry about it so much.

posted by mariposa75 on May 29, 2009 at 4:39 PM | link to this | reply

therefore it's best to be yourself

posted by Azur on May 29, 2009 at 4:17 PM | link to this | reply

I agree with this

posted by Azur on May 29, 2009 at 4:16 PM | link to this | reply

Re: mysteria,
You certainly are right about that sort of thing.  I am sure that there are people who are offended by the saints.  There is no doubt that there would be many more complaints, but the average person is afraid to say anything negative about the saints.  That would reflect upon their religious feelings, and they might not be able to get their ticket punched before they appear at St. Pete's Gate while seeking entry into heaven.

posted by Jack_Flash on May 29, 2009 at 11:11 AM | link to this | reply

Very true...I heard someone complaining once about a group of people
What offended them was that this group of people were just too damned nice.

posted by mysteria on May 29, 2009 at 10:02 AM | link to this | reply