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Very interesting; I realized that my Mann is mainly "introvert" but has to go to all kinds of gathering (scientific conferences, meetings etc.) and though, has to push himself to go. While I, who was extremely shy as a kid (the kind that would never answer a question in class even if its life depends on it), discovered when I was about 18, that I love being surrounded by lots of people during parties and to organize such parties! On the other hand; I do not like to be in a  crowd in public places when the said crowd stops moving. A bit of claustrophobia, I think.

posted by auslander on October 27, 2008 at 11:41 AM | link to this | reply

Introvert - energy and emotions from within ourselves

Hi! This is a wonderful entry.  I do agree with many of your points although I believe that introvert is not necessarily a synonym of shy but is a quality of those persons (like me) that need and crave alone time to be able to recharge our energy/emotions.  We can be as social / outgoing /  soul of the party as most extroverts (ok, I’m somewhat exaggerating!!!) but do need a time to fall back on ourselves and be able to draw our energy from within…  

posted by MariaCristina on October 27, 2008 at 8:29 AM | link to this | reply

Very interesting, Ariala..You're definitely not anti-social!

 I wonder if a good many creative souls are inherently shy; much more in the comfort zone to reveal, express yourself through a medium. I can be fun, if I feel comfortable with the situation and/or people..:) Around those I don't know well, I need time to get a sense of the vibes before I interact much. That's why it took me three months after joining Blogit to post the first word, lol..

posted by PoetRaye on October 27, 2008 at 6:30 AM | link to this | reply

I was shy as a kid. The kind of kid you see ducking behind mama's

skirt when company comes. The kind of kid who starts whining to go home the minute the family gets to a reunion. I kept my head down, eyes on my shoes. Then at 15+ I got a job as a soda jerk at the Pollyanna Cafe in Kennewick, WA. My boss told me my tips would be sh*t if I didn't learn to smile and look people in the eye. Make small talk. So I learned. While I knew I was that little recluse inside, I pasted on my version of the Ariala personality and who was the wiser?  Old 60s saying "Fake it till you make it."

posted by Pat_B on October 27, 2008 at 5:06 AM | link to this | reply

I absolutely enjoyed and identified with your thoughts, because I'm pretty much that way myself.....and that's why I'm trying to work from home, and earn by writing online through. Thanks for sharing this!

posted by snowview on October 27, 2008 at 2:01 AM | link to this | reply

i have always thought of myself as an extrovert. but reading your post got me realising something. there are times (many many times) i want to be left alone. many many times, i have to be really urged to get out. maybe i have become like that 'now', but hey, many many times i do wish i were left alone!!! and you know what, i hate to have to explain it to anyone. just be yourself. it is the best way to be- for yourself and to bring out the best in others around you too.

posted by bythewindowsill on October 27, 2008 at 12:53 AM | link to this | reply

do what you do they way you want to do it - that is they way you are - and i like you just that way

posted by ladychardonnay on October 26, 2008 at 5:12 PM | link to this | reply

I think you should continue to just be yourself

I think that is fine enough. Thanks for sharing your thoughts.

posted by muley12 on October 26, 2008 at 4:35 PM | link to this | reply

Ariala

I have thought long and hard about it - but I can't explain it either...

posted by Nautikos on October 26, 2008 at 11:53 AM | link to this | reply

Oh yes. I wish people would leave me alone when I want to be alone and not start calling me names, introvert being a very charitable one. But then, the people in question wouldn't know such educated words like "introvert". Get my meaning?

posted by vogue on October 26, 2008 at 10:31 AM | link to this | reply

Extroverts don't understand...

An introverts comfort with "being within themselves."  Yes, I worked with the public for 30 years and got over the crippling shyness.  I can talk to strangers even though sometimes I'm not very comfortable doing it.  A lot of revealing thoughts here.

posted by food4thought on October 26, 2008 at 8:33 AM | link to this | reply

Don't ever say Please...

No apologies... no boxes... introvert... extrovert... those are just labels... it's handy for sociologist... to analyze this and that.... but on a personal level... it doesn't matter... whatever makes you happy and comfortable....

posted by 1AMIHAN1 on October 26, 2008 at 8:28 AM | link to this | reply

I can't go to huge social gatherings anymore..

I was suppose to go to a Halloween Party last night.  Of course, I did have a good excuse not to go.  I did go out with just a couple close friends for a drink though.  We went to a "low key" place.  You know, where NOBODY knows your name.  lol

Even if mom wouldn't have died, I still wouldn't have gone to the halloween party.  I just can't handle those big parties anymore.  And these people really like to party!  I'm getting to old for that.

posted by shelly_b on October 26, 2008 at 7:08 AM | link to this | reply

I like this line...

..."I've often asked, why should introverts change to make extroverts happy?"  I don't think outgoing people really understand us shy folks.  I grew up shy...painfully shy...but like you I can make people laugh and can push myself to be as sociable as the next guy.  But extroverts often think it's ridiculous that people can't be as outgoing as they are...I guess it's hard for them to imagine any other way.  For many years I hated that I couldn't be like them and would read books on the subject of shyness but with experience I have kind of 'come out of my shell' as they say and while it has made me feel better about myself....cuz shyness has unfortunately been labeled as a negative thing, I still have the insecurities that come with this personality type and still would rather stay home than mingle with a crowd of strangers.  The funny thing is though...when I push myself...when I have to do it..I'm okay once I'm there although a glass of wine helps for me to relax and get into it all.  This weekend I used the excuse that I had to pack to get out of some social stuff and I felt guilty about it...guilt seems to be part of the pull of being shy!  And shyness is hereditary! 

posted by ginnieb on October 26, 2008 at 6:45 AM | link to this | reply