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     My daughter never quite fight in either.  She loved school and wanted to go every morning but by noon the teacher was calling to tell me that she was at the nurses office throwing up.  I tried everything and then finally started homeschooling.  My mom lived with me and could help with lessons during the day.  She was in a lot of other activities 4-H and things.  And Mom could take her to plays, museums and other places for field trips.  That helped a lot.  It was hard but with a christian Satellite school we made it through.  Being someone who hated school and always felt left out my heart goes out to your son.  I hope the move will help and maybe a new teacher.  I feel that the classrooms are just to full these days for kids to get what they need and there are two many kids out there that aren't being raised right they make our kids suffer.

posted by ravenmarie on October 8, 2008 at 9:43 PM | link to this | reply

Um, IMO, the teacher IS wrong.

I don't care what your kid does, NO teacher should allow ANY child to be mistreated in the classroom. That means that if your kid needles someone, then there are consequences to him. If another kid calls him names or is mean to him, then there are consequences to that other kid.

To say "he's asking for it" is unprofessional, uncompassionate, and unworthy of a person who claims to be a teacher. Teachers MODEL professionality and maturity for our kids. If this other kid decided to beat the stew out of your kid, would she pass it off as "he asked for it"? I think not. Words are just as powerful as blows.

And if your kid is needing attention, maybe she could team him up with someone else in class and have a study buddy. Maybe she could plan a couple of ten-minute one-on-one sessions with him through the day, so he feels he is really being heard by her. If your kid is, as I suspect, a kinethetic (hands-on) learner, he's not going to be able to tolerate constant seat-work with worksheets and writing. Kinesthetes need movement, and asking them to sit still and work on a non-interactive project is like asking a penguin to fly. It's NOT going to happen.

posted by editormum on October 7, 2008 at 10:59 AM | link to this | reply

I was an educator for many years. I feel that your son is a hands on learner who does not fit the classroom mode. For me it was a failure in education. I did most of my work with at risk youth. My programs allowed for freedom of movement and the hands on learning. The teacher needs him to sit and he needs to be engaged in learning. It is nothing but a damn catch 22. I was pist at this line: His teacher tells me she does not accept name calling but that he is asking for it by needling the other children. I question her professionalism with this retort as well, it is just me though. No one asks for anything.  Two wrongs don't a right make. Your son has a different learning style. Perhaps rewards can be built in at home for compliance with their rules. Kids are always going to be jerks to each other. My son would just give a big smile and remain silent. Silence cannot be attacked. I truly believe your son needs to understand that he must change to meet their expectations because they will not change for him. Now how sad is that? Ugh. I just wanted to say that I think it is better for your husband to be there every week. I think it would be too hard on him otherwise and it could backfire into unforseen behavior problems because his continuity would be interrupted. He understands his dad's schedule now, this might be too radical. Just my humble thoughts. I just wish educators would recognize the need to help the kid who is hands on and needs freedom of movement. Best of luck to you! sam

posted by sam444 on October 5, 2008 at 6:59 PM | link to this | reply