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great write my dear one, I can relate and will try this technique next time.
posted by
cmhnord
on April 15, 2008 at 1:31 PM
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Re: Re: Maybe not
WOW! You actually took the time to answer my comment. I wish to tell you the truth to find a person who's been through these heartaches so I can truly talk about it but until now no one was available to converse with me ... It is so funny how this universe works. When in pain people around you feel the lack of positive energy and it is like they don't want to be around you :)
I know what you are saying is true. There is always a but though :) Maybe sometimes we don't think we deserve better. Staying in a some sort of a relationship and feeling used and abused on emotional level and feel only pain even in the moments when we should feel good makes us victims and maybe that's where we feel comfortable sometimes and we're afraid to lose even that ... This guy has given me the sun and moon and stars and has taken it all back in a split second! And replaced all that with pulling back little by little torturing me ...
It is rather funny now when I look back to those beautiful moments I realize I was the only one who put the magic into this relationship and if I was to be honest with myself I could say I never felt that coming from him :) But I've always been a very passionate girl and so gave it all, no halfs or quarters :) I am a beautiful person LOL. inside out :) but beauty has nothing to do with heartbreak in my opinion ...
After I got myself into an accident and cried numerous nights I decided to NOT kill myself in the process so I am looking into healing myself somehow. I HAVE NO CHOICE!
Thank you for your response it really uplifted me in a good way. If you want to talk sometimes here is my e-mail address ... marinarus@lycos.com.
posted by
AnaEmiliaMarina
on April 14, 2008 at 8:55 AM
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Re: Maybe not
yea, as much as I don't want to admit it I do care for her much more than the other way around. I can see your side, its tough! If you look at it as a win/lose type of way I suppose it is unfair. When you put yourself out there human nature is to want it back in equal or greater value right! When we don't get it back equally most people view it as a loss, or they are getting the preverbal "shaft" lol.... Now, my point with the entry is idealistic in a sense, I know that, but WHY NOT!
WHY NOT view everything that happens to you as win/win- WHY NOT entrust that if you give your best and live a life that is open in heart and mind that you cant lose. Who cares about fair and unfair? Good things happen to bad people and bad things to good. Thats a guarantee! So I chose not to waste my time in "keeping score" anymore.
I bet you are a beautiful person at your best and when you are there I bet that great things have happened in your life right? This was the case with me. So while we complain about others not living up to our expectations or talking to ourselves about the other persons short comings what are we missing out on right then and there? Who is around us? what has our attention just been taken away from? Learned the hard way we cant change people, look how hard it is to change your own habits! So my friend how many minutes? How many hours and days of your most precious commodity (time) will you miss out on representing the best of who you are because of that pit in your stomach, that frustration on your mind, that anger or self pity in your heart? Hug him, smile and move on -to people that make you better.
All wounds heal!
posted by
sly78
on April 13, 2008 at 4:15 PM
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Wait. So you care for her and she doesn't care for you? See that's what I don't understand how can someone care and the other doesn't? When you love with all your heart it is so unfair to NOT be loved back. I don't think there is a way for that wound to heal. I will always love this one guy even though he doesn't and a hug cannot do the trick for me :)
posted by
AnaEmiliaMarina
on April 11, 2008 at 12:37 PM
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Great advice. I think this is very commendable on your part! sam
posted by
sam444
on April 8, 2008 at 3:28 PM
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