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There is such a lot one can do if you had that kind of money to get started that can benefit a lot of people (family, friends etc) that if I was in the least unsure of the love I would probably opt for the money. If the loved one and I were truly a once in a lifetime match I'd probably stick with love. Very difficult to make a decision based on a daydream though. It will actually have to happen before we will really know what we will decide.
posted by
AardigeAfrikaner
on April 2, 2008 at 1:23 AM
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For a million bucks....
I would still choose to open my heart and risk it being broken again, but given I am not so sure, I will ever allow my heart to be THAT open again, not sure if I am even capable...I really can't say. I could help a lot of people with that money...good thing I don't have to choose.
posted by
Bel_
on March 29, 2008 at 4:05 PM
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For me that is a no-brainer. If you have been so lucky as to find love, to leave it for money would be un imaginable to me. Love is unique and precious. Money can be had or not, made or lost, it comes and goes. True money makes things easier, but hey, love makes them bearable. Money without love will not make you happy. Love, with or without money will take you to the highest levels of ecstasy. But I tell you this, if you are tempted to take the money and leave the love, do it, because that love was not real, if it were, the temptation would not exist, you would know.
posted by
Sinome
on March 29, 2008 at 3:48 PM
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love love
I'm a second time adult student. I think that I would choose love. Simply put, two heads are better than one, love. You can talk, and really help each other find a better job. And yes, be a roomie! In this way, I've given the matter some thought for myself. Go with love, and you'll be blessed! Thank you for sharing this personal issue that alot of bloggers identify with especially under relationships
and poetry too I would think.
posted by
BC-A
on March 28, 2008 at 4:13 PM
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thats a tough one
I know the practical answer is money, but as a man who was married for 17 years, during which time I worked jobs I could not stand, I was always a good provider, you know two cars, nice house, pool table, small boat etc. and then I hit a snag when a business I was co-owner of went belly up and so did I financially. Realistically it would take about two years to get going again, not living in poverty during that time, but substantially less then before. Less than a year in my wife left, I kept the kids and she didn't ask for alimony. Four years later the kids are young adults and becoming less dependant upon me financially and I find myself in the position to go out and start looking for the big bucks again (couldn't really do it before and be a good single dad -- easy choice for me), but I hesitate if someone new comes into my life I want to know they'll be there through good times and bad and quite frankly I could really care less about money its just not as important as other stuff, unfortunately I do like things that require money.
I guess love comes first for me.
posted by
jefco
on March 28, 2008 at 12:26 PM
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This one is easy ... I lived without money for the past
two years, I was miserable and my self-worth deteriorated quickly, but, at times, I was choosing love over money. I lived with someone who
said they loved me more than anything, but then would throw taking care of me, financially, up in my face every time we argued. So, if I had the past two years to do over I would definitely have chosen money over that particular "love". Of course the 18 years I was raising my daughter I would have picked money, hands down, were I not making enough to adequately provide for us. Good post - I hope you have a great weekend!
posted by
VictoriaP
on March 28, 2008 at 4:37 AM
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