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Re: Well done dear poet!
Mariaki, whether sleeping or awake, angry or not, having fun with friend and family or not, u are always beautiful to me MI Lady #2
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February 26, 2008
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thanks much SINOME
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salem8
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February 26, 2008
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Thanks AUSLANDER, great to have u stop by and leave your considered opinion. SHALOM
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salem8
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February 26, 2008
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Betty, finally the educators, teachers and mentors are giving me their input. I am loving it... because self-esteem is a hhuge topic. Most of Blogitvillagers seem to recognize we have overdone something. Thanks everyone
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salem8
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February 26, 2008
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Great input MI Lady#1
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salem8
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February 26, 2008
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Hmm
I understand your viewpoint entirely. We seem to be a society of extremes, I think. After reading Liz Gilbert describe the difference between Balinese children and American, I think it IS a cultural thing, even when the cultures are couched in America and surrounded by American influences. I ALSO think it shows that the family is the #1 influence on a child's behavior and work ethic, especially in early childhood development. Ms. Gilbert points out how she marvels at the Balinese children, from six months to four year olds, who wait patiently, quietly, for hours at a time in the heat, with no toys, no snack, no distractions. They were brought to the healer because they had "been acting up" lately. She would shake her head and think, "I'll show you acting up, if you think THAT'S acting up!" Here in America, there are entire schools AND universities, K-12 +, based on the feel good philosophy and those kids have a lot of "catching up" when or if they enter public schools or a graded curriculum. How many children do ANYthing these days just for the intrinsic joy of knowing they've accomplished whatever the task at hand? You've touched on a huge topic, my friend.
Cee 
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LadyCeeMarie
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February 26, 2008
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A surfeit of anything tend to the undoing of the good of it. Good post. Punstar.
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TAPS.
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February 25, 2008
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Well done dear poet!
As you can see I am wide awake and frantically catching up; have a wonderful week and God bless
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mariaki
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February 25, 2008
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I agree with you that too much is like not enough! It is good to have self-confidence but it is also good to realise ones own limits. It is by trying to go over these limits that we grow. If kids are always praised for whatever crap they submit, they'll never learn the true meaning of taking pride in a difficult, laborious but well-done job. And so, when face with something a bit more demanding, or challenging, lots of them quit before starting. We call them lazy, "drop-off" etc. Which in the long run is NOT good for the kids.
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auslander
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February 25, 2008
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I think that self esteem is so encouraged because it is useful
in most practical life applications, and too easier to master for some than more academic subjects.
Too, we are a nation built on strong character, semi, para-military in many ways (I'm in san Diego so I might be swayed), and also a country founded for the most part by rebels...
Here on the west coast (the cuTTing edge of the new world), you can STILL feel, and virtually tap into the energy of the early trailblazers who stabbed their way westward ho, cutting tooth and nail all the way.
I believe they would have kept right on going with that momentum t'were it not for a little thing like the PACIFIC OCEAN !!!! LoL 
Anyway I think self esteem is a very good thing to en"courage" in anyone. It makes for great leaders a good percentage of the time and I think it aides in the advancement of higher evolution...
T'was fun runnin' my thoughts on loose here, hope to read more soon.. I can't comment regularly cause I have my restrictions, but reading reaches beyond...
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mysteria
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February 25, 2008
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Seems to me dear one that what the students with high selfsteem need is something they used to teach in schools when I was a kid, ( at least in my nun ran school) It was called humility. One can be a genious and still be humble. Humility tempers the high of being great, and therefore cuts down in the time we adore ourselves freeing such time for studying and therefore doing better in school.Korean students know they are great in Math, Their culture teaches them not to brag as most eastern cultures do, therefore when asked they down play their abilities. American surveyers have probably misconstrud their response. Our eight graders are proud of their achievements in math and so they brag about it. Its a cultural thingie darling I disagree with the cultural bubble bursting idea, but its a great post, I enjoyed it :-)
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Sinome
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February 24, 2008
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Bienvenidos, bienvenue en U es verwelkom. No probs writerspirit. Ariala I'm
surprised because i imagine some of our fellow bloggers have a TV of whatever size near their laptops or desktops! So I made an ASSumption! sreves me right, lol
http://65.214.37.88/ts?t=17116079396671745031
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salem8
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February 24, 2008
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thank you for catching my mistake
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writerspirit
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February 24, 2008
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thank for leaving a comment to today's entry
great points raised here
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writerspirit
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February 24, 2008
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No, I didn't even know the Oscars were on...I will watch Dexter at 9 LOL
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Ariala
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February 24, 2008
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hey Ariala--good additional thoughts. U must be watching the Oscars &
otherwise multi-tasking! Shalom
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salem8
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February 24, 2008
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Interesting and intriguing subject...then there's the whole gender issue
that can be thrown in the pot...good post!
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Ariala
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February 24, 2008
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This is a very scholarly presentation. The pampering of egos starts from the day care center. I have read some of the books they use! There's no ego discipline! So while Eastern children are forced to cut the crap and concentrate on learning, Western children are fed the 'pumping up' soup. This is unfair to them. But then say what, many of them have college money set aside and do not have to compete for higher opportunities! Shukhriya!
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Soul_Builder101
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February 24, 2008
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self-esteem
this was a good read.. Thanks for writing it... One wants to be congratulated for a job well-done, not just for showing up.. I sure can tell the difference!!!
love,
vib
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Vibrance
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February 24, 2008
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