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marvelous
..especially the first one, a very deep and emotionally complicated, right in the moment when you understand what's going on but haven't started rationalising it. (A perfect time for poetry, a horrible time to experience.)
My (rather harsh) experience with addicts says that eventually they die and then you can start to really connect - and love - and care, somehow the anger heals a bit and you actually can allow yourself to feel attached to them.
Until then, there are thorns and chasms and borders created in your self-defense, and neverending wariness because you can never know when relapse will come.
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hagi
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March 4, 2008
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Ciel
The flow and the glow of wine the devine. Loved every single word. Didn't know that you write poetry too. Well done ma'am. Must come more often. In fact it's after a long while that I am reading again, taday.
posted by
Bhaskar.ing
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February 19, 2008
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Well expresses.
A smile
from me and
from BO! =^. .^=
posted by
Whacky
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February 14, 2008
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Hi .. Beautiful expression in poem. I have this problem with one of my son's and I try so hard not to let his actions hurt me and find myself trying to protect the rest of the family from his addiction.
Happy Valentine Day! 
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BrightIrish
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February 14, 2008
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Ciel
Often, when I encounter much pain, I feel myself fall silent...out of necessity...but you have created poetry through yours...
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Nautikos
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February 13, 2008
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Troosha, I am so glad for you that your daughter is finding her way home...
My friend, I fear, is going to run out of time before he runs out of excuses. His issues are complicated by personality disorders that defy any attempt to heal--his attempts, or any one elses. As if he fears that admitting how wrong he has been about so many things would in itself be deadly.
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Ciel
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February 13, 2008
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Ciel
Wow - as a mother who is currently supporting for her daughter in recovery these words touched me deeply. The addict often drives loved ones away because they get in the way of their addiction. Ultimatley though (as I have witnessed through my daughter's recovery) they let the love back in.
posted by
Troosha
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February 13, 2008
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Teddy, those lines are absolutely enchanting! Thank you so much!
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Ciel
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February 13, 2008
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Most excellent work...absolutely grand...I do know this pain, my friend...
and where the moon slips into its own slumber
you will find sweet light of fine new suns...
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_teddypoet_
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February 13, 2008
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Sam, we are part of a huge community--those who have hung in with
alcoholics, or other addicts, in the hope that love would make a difference. In fact, it probably does... but sometimes it has to be in a form they don't recognize, and that makes them hate us and think we are their enemies.
Another realization that took time to come home was that I was his friend, but he was not capable of being mine.
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Ciel
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February 13, 2008
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Thanks, Kayzzaman!
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Ciel
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February 13, 2008
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The advice is most correct, you have to stop letting them hurt you! I spent 17 yrs. wallowing in the hope that it would get better, it didn't until I left. sam
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sam444
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February 13, 2008
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Well done!
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Kayzzaman
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February 13, 2008
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