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My heart goes out to you. Even if yo don't know what to do, one thing you did right: post your pain here. You are not alone. A big hug, brave soul!

posted by vogue on February 9, 2008 at 2:47 PM | link to this | reply

Thinking of you.

posted by TAPS. on February 4, 2008 at 9:42 AM | link to this | reply

I am sure you'll figure out what's right to do, but it just takes a time and it hurts, I know. if you are sure, there's no way for you to be happy with your husband again, then leaving is the only way, and sooner, the better...

posted by AlienFemale on February 3, 2008 at 1:23 AM | link to this | reply

lindo
C'mon, you brave and sensitive girl. Your whole world, as of now, centres around Adam. Your caring for him even at the cost of great distress to yourself, is that of a true mother, absolutely commendable, exemplary and worthy of salutations. I so feel for you that my heart goes out for you. Just hang on, and mark the words of an elder bro, yes, that's me, that everything will come out fine. No two days are alike though it may appear to be soin one's downphase. The problem is that of an sensitvely thoughtful & intellectual soul having to adjust with its opposite, but higher powers can and do lift the lower ones. All that you need do is to keep patience. I'll pray to see you smiling. Cheer up lady and remember not to cry.

posted by Bhaskar.ing on February 3, 2008 at 1:08 AM | link to this | reply

Everyone is different. What works for one woman, or for leaving one husband

may not work when leaving the next, or may not work for another woman.

We older women know so much, have seen it all and really have no words, other than sympathy and love for your little family. Advice comes cheap and may not pertain to you and yours.

I would ask that you find ways to rebuild your mind and heart all by yourself, alone, by getting counselling somewhere, maybe older more Westernized or Europeanized women, and not totally traditional ones, who will tell you only to stay, shut up and suffer.....

It is possible to stay and not suffer, but changes have to occur. It is very difficult for a woman to find happiness with a little boy husband, especially if he is a petulant one. I had to leave my Peter Pan as he was too Captain HOOK-like upon occasion.

I find that women who keep building their own lives, truly building, are driven less crazy by their husbands. Books also help when there are no real people to consult.

I am sorry that your father cannot see reality, but many fathers cannot. We must love the misguided fellows anyway, but don't have to take their advice, nor seek it anymore, when confronted with our fathers' fantasy macho sympathies, which fail to deal with the real world before their eyes.

Prayers and prayers and prayers for you and for your little family.

posted by benzinha on February 2, 2008 at 8:33 AM | link to this | reply

You're in my prayers.

posted by BC-A on February 1, 2008 at 8:27 PM | link to this | reply

Lindo
Your story has torn me apart. Well, actually, I am already torn apart by my own demons. Do what is best for yourself, in turn it will be your happiness that your child sees and hears. if you fake it or deny it, you shall always be depressed and so shall your child grow up to be an angry, confused person. It is your life too. Live!

posted by SEEDLINGS on February 1, 2008 at 2:28 PM | link to this | reply

thanx everyone
as usual my blogit family has come thru for me. i was amazed how many of you have been through similair circumstances, it is your ability to reclaim your life back and bare your creative caliber that has inspired me the most. love to each and every one of you.

posted by lindo on February 1, 2008 at 10:00 AM | link to this | reply

thanx everyone
as usual my blogit family has come thru for me. i was amazed how many of you have been through similair circumstances, it is your ability to reclaim your life back and bare your creative caliber that has inspired me the most. love to each and every one of you.

posted by lindo on February 1, 2008 at 9:59 AM | link to this | reply

Lindo
My heart goes out to you during this difficult time.... 

posted by Troosha on February 1, 2008 at 9:27 AM | link to this | reply

I will keep you and your family in my prayers...I am so sorry this has happened to you~

posted by Offy on February 1, 2008 at 8:44 AM | link to this | reply

Lindo, I am sorry to learn of your unhappiness.
I lived through very similar circumstances, except that I had two children.  I have several suggestions but decided to zip my lip. You know what you need to do. I pray you find the courage to do what is necessary for your child and for your own peace of mind. Be well. :)Pat

posted by Pat_B on February 1, 2008 at 8:40 AM | link to this | reply

Lindo
Firstly thank you for visiting; your comment made me wonder what personal crisis you were going through and now that I know I can truly sympathise.  Having gone through almost 30 years of marriage (the last 10 being not so different from your own except I have 2 boys); I can only say that although it took me 10 years, I did finally find the strength and self love to go it alone with the boys.  I have never regretted it.  As I cannot do it for you; I can only include you in my prayers and hope you find your strength within you to do what you know in your heart is necessary for your own and Adam's good.  May you re-connect with God and find your way in peace; many blessings, Maria

posted by mariaki on February 1, 2008 at 1:39 AM | link to this | reply

lindo
My heart goes out to you.   My thoughts and prayers are sent in your direction.  I wish there were more that I could do.

posted by TAPS. on February 1, 2008 at 12:09 AM | link to this | reply

lindo
I am very, very sorry to hear this!  You have

posted by Nautikos on January 31, 2008 at 7:48 PM | link to this | reply

Lindo darling you are not alone. You have family here at blogit people who

understand and are willing to stand by you.

You will have  in a few minutes.

posted by Kabu on January 31, 2008 at 6:54 PM | link to this | reply

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