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posted by
Soul_Builder101
on January 7, 2008 at 12:53 PM
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Taps
You hit the nail on the head. Sparky is the only constant that Diva has had in her life and she is a daddy's girl. I understand this but she feels that she needs to protect her dad and by doing so she comes across as if she was the girlfriend instead of the daughter. This has been mentioned by others to Sparky and we have talked about going to family counseling. There is no doubt that Sparky is important to both us and he definatly feels in the middle a lot. I am told that Diva and I are just alike in alot of ways and that is one reason we have this love hate relationship. Thanks Again for reading you have helped
posted by
StrickGold
on January 7, 2008 at 10:22 AM
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Strickgold
Of course I have no advice, even if you wanted some. What I see from here is both of you (you and Diva) hurt by circumstances of life, doing the best you can with your own set of circumstances, and while trying to survive, vying for the love of the man that you both want to be the most important thing in his life. I have a feeling that you will become great friends. I wish it could be sooner rather than later.
posted by
TAPS.
on January 7, 2008 at 10:13 AM
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Taps
I am not sure how to handle it so far it seems like the best approach is as long as I live my life according to the little diva things go GREAT. After all its all about her and will be for the next 3 yrs till she goes to college. I told Sparky lastnight that I know that his kids will always come first then his family then me.
posted by
StrickGold
on January 7, 2008 at 10:03 AM
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Strickgold
Her father will probably be blind to it and will not change or even consider that you have a "part" for him to take. So, how you decide to handle the situation is what you are going to get.
posted by
TAPS.
on January 7, 2008 at 9:47 AM
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TAPS
And to think that I thought I would have less problems out of the 15 yr old Diva than the 8 and 6 yr old that live with their mom full-time. I guess I went in with blinders on because I thought I could handle this ----but I am told that I want to control her. NO I just want her to grow up and to respect me. She doesnt have to like me but I would like to get along with her. I have never tried to be MOM just her friend. And she allows me to be her friend as long as I do exactly what she wants me to do
posted by
StrickGold
on January 7, 2008 at 9:33 AM
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Ahg-g-g! Strickgold
I wouldn't be in your shoes for anything. My grandson's mother went through something like that after my son died and she married a man with children. The two daughters were like that. Step-mom has managed it and is now friends with the two who are adults now but she had years of meds for depression and visits to a psychiatrist. It hasn't been easy for her.
posted by
TAPS.
on January 7, 2008 at 7:29 AM
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Captivating Post !
posted by
afzal50
on January 7, 2008 at 7:12 AM
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