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lindo
you're right, it's not enough but a beginning. And we all have to do our bit. I for one, did not change my name after marriage and our son carries both our names. And, when my mother died (we are three sisters) we chose the electronic crematorium, rather than quibble over who shoudl light the funeral pyre. In some ways, each of us, everyday, choose how to make change. I also know in some societies its harder than others.
posted by
Greenfields
on December 25, 2007 at 9:59 AM
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So true greenifields
This is a common porblem in much of the third world not just China and India, the main problem is that in most of these countries children take the name of the father, there is no option for the mother to pass on her name, in many countries the custody remains with the the male relatives of the father's family and the mother has no legal authority. The system would need to be changed at many levels, the statics of Korea, are good news but it is not enough.
posted by
lindo
on December 25, 2007 at 1:13 AM
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TAPS. Absolutely.
posted by
Greenfields
on December 24, 2007 at 9:25 PM
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Justi
thank you. It's a topic that has been of enormous interest to me, as my field is development and communications and reproductive health is an important topic within it. As I come form India, which as you know has a large population, this is of concern to me. I also come at it froma women's rights angle - that if a woman has many children, she finds it hard to participate in the larger world, outside the home. In some ways, I appreciated the Chinese approach (when I met the Party Chiefs in China in 1981) when they said a child is also a citizen and in their socialist scheme of things, the state has to take care of them. In some ways, the relationship between a private decision and public responsibility then begs the question: who will take care of the children?
posted by
Greenfields
on December 24, 2007 at 9:25 PM
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LOL, just a wee bit is fun, Greenfields. It give satisfaction.
posted by
TAPS.
on December 24, 2007 at 9:24 PM
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TAPS.
I would never dream of flaunting it!! Oh well, maybe a little?! Thank you for your comment.
posted by
Greenfields
on December 24, 2007 at 9:20 PM
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callista22001
Thank you. Boys or girls, either way round, at some stage the children will leave. To have expectations - where they are sons or daughters - of them, is a base for heartache. It's interesting that we fail boys to bond better with us and assume that girls will be better at this. It's really up to us to socialisethem better.
posted by
Greenfields
on December 24, 2007 at 9:19 PM
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Afzal, thank you
posted by
Greenfields
on December 24, 2007 at 9:16 PM
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Greenfields
I am so glad you have taken on this challenge. This is an excellent post. The male over population has become a great problem in parts of China. There are no women to marry, they have a higher gay population than has ever been and the population is falling in some areas only to show that the future population will be drastically lower. They were allotted only one child and opted for boys. Please continue your work. May you be blessed. Merry Christmas.
posted by
Justi
on December 24, 2007 at 1:01 PM
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Greenfields
Its always a wonderful feeling to know that you were right, even if you don't flaunt it. Great post. Its a good thing that you are teaching.
posted by
TAPS.
on December 24, 2007 at 9:00 AM
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yes, excellent post,
Here in the west we find the opposite to be true, i have two sons and they go with the wives and their families. Hence the old saying a son is a son till he takes a wife, but a daughter is a daughter the rest of her life.
posted by
callista22001
on December 24, 2007 at 7:51 AM
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Good Post !
posted by
afzal50
on December 24, 2007 at 5:34 AM
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