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Offy
Well that reference to former blogger etc is one of those such situations where there is more than just emotional contact, there is also physical contact. This is what I feel is occurring with my friends new partner, that his ex is still plying him with the temptation of physical reward, so to speak. After all she must know if he really wanted her gone etc he would have persisted the issue. I've also come across those situations you mentioned regarding yourself, where someone has got on well with their ex's new partner, this is fine and I wouldn't have a problem with that should it ever arise with me, although in some cases I have heard them compare certain things, some of which are quite intimate, this I think is a little naughty, the comparison of someone's private issues etc. Thanks for your input, appreciated. Take care.
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posted by
UncharteredSoul
on December 20, 2007 at 10:04 AM
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Troosha
I can see your point as this would be the views of others also. Me personally have dated someone who has still had contact with their ex, not so much as living with them or even seeing them on a regular basis etc but there had been contact on and off, it did not bother me in the sense I believe two individuals can be friends even if they were in a past relationship, though I would draw the line if that contact was more direct or maybe even frequent if other factors were in place, I would most definately not put up with my partner sharing a home with an ex under the same roof, especially with me living elsewhere. Only on a rare occasion I have an ex who will get in contact and see how things are going, so to speak, I'm not one for contacting ex's, though I've always been upfront with any current partner I am with should an ex get in contact. Thanks for your input. Take care.
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posted by
UncharteredSoul
on December 20, 2007 at 9:57 AM
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Thoughts
Sometimes I think I'm on the way to craziness 
though have'nt got there yet, PHEW!! Back to the comments though, I do feel that people in such circumstances or allow them to carry on etc need a little wising up as you put it. Thanks for input. Take care.
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posted by
UncharteredSoul
on December 20, 2007 at 9:52 AM
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Actually I have been in that position with one of my ex's and we never so much as accidently bumped into each other. His g/friend didn't have a problem with it and I really liked her (more than him)...HOWEVER we must remember the former blogger who shared an apartment with her ex and as much as she hated it...they had sex on a regular basis up until the day he married his g/friend..
posted by
Offy
on December 20, 2007 at 9:52 AM
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I'm with Thoughtful...
I wouldn't date someone unless they were fully detached from their ex. Clearly this person has unfinished business.
posted by
Troosha
on December 20, 2007 at 9:18 AM
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What are you, crazy?
No way no how should that be allowed. I would have never started the relationship in the first place. People have to be smart and a lot more picky in who they choose to date. If you can't live alone that shows a certain lack of maturity or laziness. Hope she wises up.
posted by
thoughtfulness
on December 20, 2007 at 8:24 AM
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Stars
Uhmmm, I like the way you put this "Security & Safety", as we all should look out for and preserve our own personal emotions, not just our physical well being. Thanks for that insight. Take care.
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posted by
UncharteredSoul
on December 20, 2007 at 5:55 AM
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Kayzz
It sure is, not one I would like to be in, though I feel if I was then I would not allow it to permit in the sense. Thanks for input. Take care.
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posted by
UncharteredSoul
on December 20, 2007 at 5:52 AM
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Stars
Hi Stars, thanks for both your comments and input on such a matter, appreciated. Take care.
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posted by
UncharteredSoul
on December 20, 2007 at 5:50 AM
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Ariala
Uhmmm my sentiments exactly, as I feel such situations are disrespectful. Thanks for input. Take care.
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posted by
UncharteredSoul
on December 20, 2007 at 5:48 AM
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Yes, the situation is bit complex
posted by
Kayzzaman
on December 20, 2007 at 4:28 AM
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I mean security and safety.......
Here I don't think that I can sleep with some one who is with bunch of people ( even the group of friends living in same home)........I believe that the guy and girl together have a place to begin with.......Hey, it's the kind of my idea.....but [people might think that I am materialistic)........but I am private and think different when it comes to my own life....my own view.....
posted by
star4sky5
on December 20, 2007 at 3:57 AM
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Hmmmmmmmm,,,,,,,,,I will tell you another big note for this.......
Well, if two people just talking .......we can understand....But once you actively have a new relationship, it's very uncomfortable to be in such situation in my opinion...Must break the channels, before the new relationship actively begin..
Here I am broke up with J, no reason I will bring any one here to live or if he bring some one here.....It's not that correct to my sense. Because it cause more issues....
If need a real life, if you really like some one, move out and have own place....
I am typical person who can't live with group of people anyway... Because I guess if it's a couple, they must need privacy.....To me I guess people need privacy, security and safety to be free and cool....
People are different anyway.....
posted by
star4sky5
on December 20, 2007 at 3:53 AM
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I would tell the man that the relationship is on hold until a total break
is made, and if it never comes, she will find better. Period.
posted by
Ariala
on December 20, 2007 at 3:46 AM
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