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Seed
Many thanks for that input, from one who has experienced such abuse and yes, I also agree with you that children are the victims, who bare witness or are around such circumstances. I appreciate you taking the time to respond and give your input, which was also educational in the sense. Take care now.
Blessings
posted by
UncharteredSoul
on December 16, 2007 at 12:27 PM
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EYES
I agree that more time, effort and $$$ should be spent on getting to the core of why abusers abuse. However I disagree about the victimhood, having been a survivor of 20 years of mental, physical and emotional abuse. I was not a victim...my children were, who witnessed their father abusing me. I hid it from them as best I could, I know they have blocked out alot. However the only 'victims' are the children whether they are witnesses or have felt the huge hand against the side of their heads too. I stayed because I was indoctrinated, like a cult, from a very young age, my abuser, my husband, the father of my children slowly but surely made me a very bad person and he himself KING. It takes place over a matter of time, and before you know it your daily custom is to cower in a corner. I had no self esteem and neither did he, obviously so neither of us were victims we were just young and very stupid. Good post
posted by
SEEDLINGS
on December 16, 2007 at 11:22 AM
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Ariala
Thanks for that additional input and response to the post. It is true, identities are also lost or compromised in these situations. Thanks again. Take care.
Bless
posted by
UncharteredSoul
on December 16, 2007 at 11:15 AM
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I believe the process of becoming a helpless victim must take time...a
person feels there is no way out and they retreat and submit to being controlled and overpowered by the "stronger" force in the relationship...it's very sad, but I've known some strong women who gave in and lost their identities and respect by submitting to controlling, violent men.
Good post!
posted by
Ariala
on December 16, 2007 at 5:07 AM
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