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No. I know the never say never thingy and I am not without fault by no
means. I have been married twice, single longer than married and never in any relationship under at least a year, most several years. Maybe it is because I'm a really busy person or never have been in a relationship long enough to consider it but when any relationship went south 'no potential for longer term' it was amicably ended. I've never cheated on anyone and if in a long term relationship ever again, could not forsee it as such either. I have been cheated on (both husbands & several long term boyfriends, unbeknownst to me until ended because I am as trusting as I can be trusted) but I know the pain is too great to consider putting anyone through it. I hope you are well.
posted by
roadscross
on October 9, 2007 at 7:38 PM
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no it isn't. I hope you can work things out.
posted by
Amanda__
on October 9, 2007 at 3:59 PM
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From experience as the cheat-ee-------
quit confiding in other men. Just don't do it. The continuing success of your marriage depends upon your ability to perservere through your husband's insensitivity. If he loves you, of which his support of marriage counseling is a very strong indicator, he's capable of more than you think.
I can tell you from experience, as can any cheat-ee, we know what you're doing. Even if it isn't a physical affair...yet.
posted by
FineYoungSinger
on October 8, 2007 at 8:07 PM
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RedHeadedGyspy
Good luck with that counselling luv, I did that and got sorted out years ago, ended up divorcing from my first wife. So, you'll get some answers anyway luv.
posted by
WileyJohn
on October 8, 2007 at 7:32 PM
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RedHeadedGypsy
posted by
richinstore
on October 8, 2007 at 6:34 PM
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Hello, Beauteous--
Interesting timing of our blogs... I've just begun a recounting of something along these lines.
A person should never say never until they find themselves in such a situation. There are so many variables it makes your head spin.
Good for you for getting counseling. I'm pulling for you.
Hugs!
posted by
SilverMoon7
on October 8, 2007 at 5:23 PM
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Good post. It really is such a complicated issue, and one that seems so black and white on the surface, but there's so much more to it. I guess theoretically it's never okay; even if the married person meets someone and actually falls in love, he or she should end the marriage before acting on those feelings. But sometimes that is really hard. We're all human...That being said, those situations of "I don't feel loved" etc., etc., can usually be saved. I think it's great that you are going to counseling, even if there are no blantant problems. Too often people don't seem help until it's too late and there is nothing left to save.
posted by
Holy_Grail
on October 8, 2007 at 4:50 PM
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posted by
riri0322
on October 8, 2007 at 8:58 AM
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Hi, Gypsy..............
My husband and I will be married 43 years next month. Being from the old school, infidelity is a no, no. We don't do that, marriage is too scared.
Go get your therapy, save your marriage, and resist temptation. Good luck, Sweetie. It's good to see you here - are you doing ok?
posted by
MaggieMae
on October 8, 2007 at 5:02 AM
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Great post, RedHeadedGypsy
Too often people forget the emotional infidelity part or just figure that doesn't matter. It does matter very much because one leads to the other.
posted by
TAPS.
on October 8, 2007 at 4:54 AM
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RedHeadedGypsy
Working toward what you want is the right answer. Best wishes to you and your hubby.
posted by
jacentaOld
on October 7, 2007 at 8:21 PM
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