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Sometimes I think it is best to face life with no expectations. When we dont get what we are expecting we are dissapointed. I have been single and felt desperate for love,someone to love and nothing but as soon as I let go of that was when i found love, when i was least expecting it. Contrary to your dreams i Had never dreamed of getting married or having kids and i never thought about the perfect dress or wedding in fact i was against the idea of marriage. Untill I met my husband who changed all of that. At times i think this marriage thing is not what it is all cracked up to be.  I feel guilt sometimes for the women who are so desperate for kids yet cant have them, then there is me never wanted kids yet i have a beautiful boy and still cant get very excited about the fact. Why is that. I am sorry you feel this way and my vibes go out to you that you will find what you are looking for when you least expect it. 

posted by LemonyEmz on December 18, 2008 at 5:16 AM | link to this | reply

In the same pain
I thought I would have everything as well.  I feel your pain.   I am 30 and leaving a long term relationship that rocked my very core.   I thought he was the right man but he brought so much pain and misery to my life I am not even sure I would know love if it slapped me on the face.   I see couples kissing or holding their kids an my heart tears apart.  

posted by untangel on June 10, 2008 at 8:56 PM | link to this | reply

Good write, keep it up....
Keep yourself surrounded by people who make you better and keep yourself involved daily around the things you have both passions and talents for (must be both) and you will get what you are looking for out of life-

posted by sly78 on April 15, 2008 at 7:28 PM | link to this | reply

I've been a groom twice...
...and divorced twice. The only good thing to come out of those debacles is my two wonderful kids. I don't know if there will be a third for me, judging by the female population of my current locale. You're profile sounds terrific...we have many similarities...so I wouldn't think you should have to settle for bachelorette-hood forever. Good luck to you and wish me the same!   

posted by metalrat on March 17, 2008 at 5:39 PM | link to this | reply

Well, I can certainly share some of those thoughts/feelings with you, but only short timed.  I also dreamed of being "the bride", of course, since I was very young, but instead I am "always the bridesmaid, or maid of honor, but never the bride".  For many years now, I have held the same thoughts with having children as I have with being married, and that is.....if it's meant to be, it will happen, if not, I will deal with that too.  So, like a statement I believe I have it posted on this site...."don't expect and you can't be disappointed".  I try to just live my life that way, so that if/when the good things come my way, I consider them a bonus!!!  Not sure that will make people feel any better, but believe me I have been there too, and I choose to not worry about marriage, having kids, etc.  It is what it is, and if (as I did) I spend 8+ years with someone, and didn't get married, then it was for a reason, and it was meant to be that way.  Hope this makes some sense...... 

posted by majesticvisions on March 16, 2008 at 8:59 AM | link to this | reply

 I'm in love with life. As long as there are women alive, someone will find me for me to find them.

posted by BC-A on January 23, 2008 at 7:05 PM | link to this | reply

Evehttp://www.blogit.com/Blogs/RadControls/Editor/Skins/Monochror wonder y?
Well, I can fully empathise!  It is lonely at our age, children flown the coup and no-one around to share conversation, meals or holidays with.  Unless others have experienced it, they cannot honestly comment.  Being over-educated, males are intimidated and for some strange reason, prefer to remain friends, settling for someone who can't think for themselves.  Just put it out to the universe, ask your guardian angels for assistance, write it down and put it on the fridge and read it every day...if it is for you in 'this' lifetime, you shall have it...albeit late.

posted by barbiej on November 9, 2007 at 11:58 PM | link to this | reply

Especially to ‘Ever wonder y?’
I’d say stop looking and start living in acceptance to the way life is .. I read stuff in between the lines .. it’s a little funny coming from a mother (single or not) .. if I understood you correctly.       

posted by Angesom_AG on October 28, 2007 at 7:39 AM | link to this | reply

Still Waiting

I don't feel sorry for you that you have never found the love that you think you deserve. Does't everyone deserver love? So why are some better at finding it than others? I don't have a answer for you that would give you the comfort you seek...but I can tell you this..

Life is meant to be lived to the fullest. No regrets, no hesitation, no wishing for something that you think you deserve. I am sure if you woke up tomorrow and believed in yourself enough to talk to those you may not know and expressed yourself in a genuine, unselfish, and giving manner, you would find love. Love that may not be perfect, in the "how much money do you make," are "you good looking enough for me" perspective. But a love that is giving, forgiving, and in need of nurturing. The kind of love that doesn't worry about what kind of house you have or the kind of car you drive or how tall he is.

I know many guys who are looking for a women they can love and wake up next to and feel joy in their heart. They don't need a boat anchor - who will just tell them what they are not. They need someone to who wants to know everything about them, and love them anyway.

Open your heart and open your eyes. Single good men are everywhere. You just need to talk to them.

posted by cloudy62 on October 12, 2007 at 6:06 PM | link to this | reply

My sister is 34 and going almost through the same thing
I wish we had the answers for that last statement you made, but we don't.

posted by Matie on October 2, 2007 at 8:20 AM | link to this | reply