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Matie
I feel for you, and I also feel quite annoyed that your parents are not considering the effect they are having on you. Hope things have settled down.
posted by
mneme
on September 21, 2007 at 4:55 AM
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Re: No one can truly understand the pain you must be going through, Matie,
Thank you, saul_relative.
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Matie
on September 9, 2007 at 10:38 AM
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Re: Matie
One word to describe it would be 'exhaustion'. Yes, it drains emotionally and then that reflects physically.
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Matie
on September 9, 2007 at 10:37 AM
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Re: dealing with
Your story and your words makes me feel that I'm not alone. Thank you very much.
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Matie
on September 9, 2007 at 10:37 AM
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Re: You know, first thing I'd want to know is how old is your mom? She could
Thank you Ariala
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Matie
on September 9, 2007 at 10:34 AM
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Re: You know, first thing I'd want to know is how old is your mom? She could
My mom is 59 and my dad is 66.
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Matie
on September 9, 2007 at 10:34 AM
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Re: Matie, write as much as you can as it is very therapeutic..I have a neice
Thank you very much.
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Matie
on September 9, 2007 at 10:33 AM
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Re: Matie,your mum sounds like she does need professional help. She sounds
Thank you very much, proc. I also feel that she's kinda responsible for her own behavior/attitude. I'll tell more details later.
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Matie
on September 9, 2007 at 6:55 AM
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Re: matie
It's interesting because both do the same. They try to pull desperately to their own side and it gets tiring. Thank you for this advice.
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Matie
on September 9, 2007 at 6:49 AM
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Re: Is a shrink really necessary?
Welcome to Blogit.
Yep, marriage counseling is a good idea but my parents are not willing to do that because they think it's not worth their time. I'm talking about pretty close-minded people here. And you're also right in that they become more irritable/obsessive with age, so I guess that both have problems. Thank you very much for your words.
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Matie
on September 9, 2007 at 6:47 AM
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Re: Matie
Well, days had passed and although I think it's the right choice, I think it's better if they divorce, but it's more complex than that. thank you.
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Matie
on September 9, 2007 at 6:44 AM
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Re: Matie
I've been trying that since I read this. It gives you a better perspective. Thank you.
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Matie
on September 9, 2007 at 6:40 AM
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No one can truly understand the pain you must be going through, Matie,
and I empathize (as best I can). But don't give up. Keep trying. And be strong, for yourself and your family...
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saul_relative
on September 8, 2007 at 12:07 PM
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Matie
I can't imagine what you're going through but I can imagine what I would feel if my parents were having problems ... I don't think I could take it ... emotionally or psyclogically. I wish you the best... and continue to put it all out through your writing if it helps.
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Sheilah
on September 8, 2007 at 11:47 AM
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dealing with
one of my sisters was diagnosed as epileptic when I was 14 and she 13.she would have violent siezures and put her life in real danger because she still had go do what we had been doing ,cave exploring,rock climbing and it scared the hell out of me. As life went on she went through many phases.the worst being when she stopped taking her meds because these religious christian fanatics promised thar the meds were evil and god would cure her.JUST pray. guess what she got real bad,had asiezure knocked her head and it crushed in a spot in her skull.we found her damn near dead on the floor.in intensive care she would not respond to anything.So i started singing a song that made fun of her when we were little and she responded.CRAZY. about ten years ago my mom put out 10 k for testing.if tests qualified there was a foundation that would pay for a new surgery that was proven top correct the epilepsy and she could on to live a normal life.drivers license and all.She qualified. then she said that she waswaiting for gods miracle to fix it.I TOLD HER OVER AND OVER that GODS MIRACLE was coming to her in the hands of the surgeon that GOD put on this earth.She blew me off and the family was dissapointed to say he least.After of years of helping ,trying,sacrificing,to get shit on like this hurt us all.And most of the family moved away and left to fend for herself.Confined to a wheelchair because of the skull injury,she is seen around town cruising in her wheel chair.was instrumental in getting disability ramps put in at crosswalks and getting the X to be a valid signature for disabled.She stays busy .
But i understand completely about being frustrated and exhausted .
One ? for you.Did you like the" too fuckin' smart(or so i thought)"poem.i uesd to be a piece of work.and i could back it up.But it is so much easier being open minded and learning the thought processes and alternative thinking of others.life is a blank page that keeps filling in and filling in
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twomany
on September 8, 2007 at 11:28 AM
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You know, first thing I'd want to know is how old is your mom? She could
be going through menopause and that can result in her acting VERY irrational...if it's not hormonal, then I'd proceed to think it's chemical and psychological...when you can't reason with someone, it does make you realize how helpless you are to deal with mental illness...
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Ariala
on September 8, 2007 at 6:24 AM
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Matie, write as much as you can as it is very therapeutic..I have a neice
in this same type of condition.we live in a city of 200,000 and have, to my knowledge, 2 or 3 psychiatrists...my neice has meds but doesn't take them...you're right, there just isn't any easy answers....just be strong and just write whenever you need to and wherever you can ... 
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Rumor
on September 8, 2007 at 6:19 AM
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Matie,your mum sounds like she does need professional help. She sounds
fragile and depressed. Im sorry you feel so lousy but at the end of the day she is responsible for getting help for herself and her marriage. All the best.
posted by
proc
on September 8, 2007 at 4:29 AM
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matie
Sounds like my ex-wife. Writing is therapeutic. You will just have to learn not to talk about the things that are between your parents. Tell her politely that you don't want to hear it, that you are there to talk with her. It is a terrible thing when one parent tries to pit their children against the other parent. All I can tell you is that it does get better
posted by
Tattered_Knight
on September 7, 2007 at 6:44 PM
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Is a shrink really necessary?
Newbie here - just signed in to Blogit ...
Reading your comments, couldn't help but wonder why try to make an appointment with a Psychiatrist? obviously I don't know the whole story but why not do some marriage counselling - just my thoughts anyway.
I know how hard it can be when parents have a real big fight - happened to me a couple of times and I couldn't decide on who's side to stay on - for me they were both right (if that's at all possible) ...
And I'm also seeing that as my parents grow older they're becoming more impatient with each other. Don't know, maybe you should try to figure out the real reason behind her obsessive behaviour ... I'm just saying this because my mum was last year diagnosed with PD and she has become quite irritable/obsessive lately and if she says a thing is "white" when obviously it's "black" there's absolutely no way I can put some sense in her - and she's never been like this!
Just my 2 cents anyway .... try not to let this thing get you down too much.
posted by
White_Elephant
on September 7, 2007 at 7:58 AM
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Matie
I've had some experience with this (a close relative) - I truly believe that you're doing the right thing...You are in my thoughts...
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Enigmatic68
on September 6, 2007 at 9:14 PM
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Matie
Cheer up! People pss on their states of mind to you and you drift into that leaving your own behind. Assert your own state and be prepared to keep it that way, no matter what. Best I can do for you!
posted by
Soul_Builder101
on September 6, 2007 at 7:11 PM
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Re: Matie
Thank you very much Justi. Your kind words are comforting.
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Matie
on September 6, 2007 at 7:09 PM
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Matie
I am so sorry you are going through this. It is painful I am sure. 2 of my blogs do a lot of therapeutic good for me. I write to my mom who has passed. I write about my life in one which I though many times was on the edge of passing. God bless you. This is terrible to go through.
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Justi
on September 6, 2007 at 2:54 PM
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