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Thank you, Chilitree..heart openings indeed..

...Hope lives eternal, though. Positive thoughts and wishes for your son.

posted by PoetRaye on May 22, 2007 at 4:28 AM | link to this | reply

Raes... my heart goes out to you...my son is 18 and has been in rehab...

posted by Chilitree on May 21, 2007 at 2:51 AM | link to this | reply

Thank you for the comment, Masky

Each situation, level of awareness unfolds differently. In my son's case, the addiction to opiates/methadone began when he was out on his own, out of my home. I knew about his drinking problem from teenage escapades and my attention/efforts were focused on getting him through that. I'll probably post more later this week about our family's journey through this nightmare. Thanks again!

posted by PoetRaye on May 20, 2007 at 7:29 PM | link to this | reply

Thank you so much, Offy - I'm hanging in there

posted by PoetRaye on May 20, 2007 at 7:10 PM | link to this | reply

Rae

Oh my dear lady the pain you feel comes through in your words. I am so very sorry and wish I could help..for now I will keep you and your son and family in my prayers..

posted by Offy on May 20, 2007 at 10:02 AM | link to this | reply

RaeS...

It's easy to sit back and watch a show like Intervention and say (as a mother), "I would do this but I wouldn't do that."  Until it becomes a personal reality, such as it has for you, truth is we simply don't know what is right or appropriate for each situation.  Thank you for sharing your story with me in my comments section.  You are in my thoughts, and I am hoping your son can overcome this and that you find resolution, as well!

posted by ---Masky--- on May 20, 2007 at 3:13 AM | link to this | reply

Hello, Sweet Lady MaggieMae - very deeply appreciated..

posted by PoetRaye on May 19, 2007 at 8:05 PM | link to this | reply

Dear RaeS.........

You and your son are in my thoughts and prayers.

posted by MaggieMae on May 19, 2007 at 7:21 PM | link to this | reply

Thank you for visiting, R.R.

posted by PoetRaye on May 19, 2007 at 3:56 PM | link to this | reply

posted by riri0322 on May 19, 2007 at 9:58 AM | link to this | reply

Deeply appreciated, Azur

posted by PoetRaye on May 18, 2007 at 7:28 PM | link to this | reply

RaeS

Your boy has one advantage at this tough time - your love and support. Sending my best wishes to you to help him find the courage to get through this.

posted by Azur on May 18, 2007 at 7:17 PM | link to this | reply

Dearest Ted

Helldanse indeed, but you, my Love, lighten mine steps..Always..

Thank You..

posted by PoetRaye on May 18, 2007 at 7:09 PM | link to this | reply

How sad, Troosha..

Helplessness sits heavily on a mother's heart. Hope and thoughts for your daughter. Thank you for visiting.

posted by PoetRaye on May 18, 2007 at 7:06 PM | link to this | reply

Very interesting, Blackcat

If anything can be done to slow/stop the proliferation of these deadly dangerous drugs, so much the better. Usually gotta hit 'em where it hurts, though no amount of money can replace lives lost and futures destroyed. I know my son's life is forever changed, but lemonade can be sweetened, just have to keep the lemons breathing...:)

Thank you again.

posted by PoetRaye on May 18, 2007 at 7:04 PM | link to this | reply

Dear Raye

Remember to keep yourself strong physically as well as mentally during the helldanse with your son's straits...do not neglect your own needs of sustenance.

posted by _teddypoet_ on May 18, 2007 at 3:10 PM | link to this | reply

Rae

There is a sense of helplessness when we watch our children on a downward spiral. My heart goes out to you and I hope you are able to guide your son back into the light of hope and healthy choices. Although not to the extreme you are dealing with, I am struggling with my daughter’s choices - alcohol to mind numbing extremes and an addiction to a controlling and thereby abusive relationship with a deadbeat who keeps her on an extremely close leash. I suspect that’s why she drinks so heavily – to mask the pain and uncertainty of her own worth. May your endeavors with your son be fruitful.

posted by Troosha on May 18, 2007 at 3:30 AM | link to this | reply

it's an awful thing. I hear the pharmaceutical company is being sued also.

My friend is at the tough love stage also and just had to throw her son out of the house... terrible.  I really feel for her... and for you.  Hang in there. 

posted by -blackcat on May 17, 2007 at 8:41 PM | link to this | reply

Thank you for sharing that, Blackcat

My son started with Loratabs, prescribed by a doctor for severe headaches when he stopped drinking. He quickly developed an addiction to them and his tolerance level to opiates increased tenfold. He began illegally obtaining oxycotin, then morphine. The medical establishment in this country has ramped up addiction to unbelievable heights - these drugs are prescribed mindlessly and constantly. I read not too long ago that the elderly population in Florida is experiencing an explosion of addiction to these same pain killers. Senior citizen methadone clinics opening - no joke.

I hadn't thought about a support group; something to consider. I hope your friend and her son fare well. Thank you.

posted by PoetRaye on May 17, 2007 at 8:38 PM | link to this | reply

wow... one of my close friends is going through this with her own son...

he's only 20 and they say that oxycotin is one of the hardest habits to break.  I've read horror stories about it over the past few months.  Even if they truly want to quit, they just can't do it without help...

Hang in there and make sure to take care of yourself.  I hope you're in a support group... my friend is and says it helps some.

posted by -blackcat on May 17, 2007 at 8:22 PM | link to this | reply

Thank you deeply, Sunny

posted by PoetRaye on May 17, 2007 at 8:21 PM | link to this | reply

Rae

So sorry to hear.  

I hope you are able to talk some sense into him, to get the help that he needs. You take care. 

posted by Sunnybeach7 on May 17, 2007 at 8:18 PM | link to this | reply

Thank you, Whacky

posted by PoetRaye on May 17, 2007 at 8:06 PM | link to this | reply

Thank you so much, Afzal

I truly believe God is merciful.

posted by PoetRaye on May 17, 2007 at 8:05 PM | link to this | reply

So very deeply appreciated, dear MaggieMae

Thank you.

posted by PoetRaye on May 17, 2007 at 8:05 PM | link to this | reply

Mary, these verses are incredible!...so very deep and thought/emotion

inducing - Thank you for sharing them.

posted by PoetRaye on May 17, 2007 at 8:03 PM | link to this | reply

Rae

Witness

Make me a witness
take me out
out of darkness
out of doubt

I won't weigh you down
with good intention
won't make fire out of clay
or other inventions

will we burn in heaven
like we do down here
will a change come
while we're waiting
everyone is waiting

and when we're done
soul searching
as we carried the weight
and died for a cause
is misery
made beautiful
right before our eyes
will mercy be revealed
or blind us where we stand

posted by FoliageGold on May 17, 2007 at 7:44 PM | link to this | reply

Thank you so much, HolyGrail

posted by PoetRaye on May 17, 2007 at 7:38 PM | link to this | reply

Nightmare indeed, OTA..I hope you never have to go through this with your

children. Thank you for the thoughts.

posted by PoetRaye on May 17, 2007 at 7:35 PM | link to this | reply

Dearest Justi, I have read and reread your comment - such a comforting and

positive response..I am so afraid for him and sounds selfish I suppose, but for myself; don't think I can handle losing him. So many tears and begging prayers to God..I do believe in the power of prayer; offerings in that realm are appreciated more than I have words for. Rehab admittance didn't happen today; his denial, despite the gathering of myself and others earlier to break it apart, remains in place. Tomorrow I must take the legal options available; time for the courage of tough love to begin; my weak area as a parent, but saving his life and preventing him from harming others with an out of control vehicle gives me the strength to do what I must.

Thank you again, Dear Lady, I love you too.

 

 

 

 

posted by PoetRaye on May 17, 2007 at 7:33 PM | link to this | reply

RaeS

My husband and I both work on a volunteer basis under groups who have been doing so for what appears to have been forever. There is hope darling. I have been there done that with two sons. I am sorry you are hurting so. I hope he goes in for detox; it is vastly important that he get help. Do you mind that I get up a prayer group for you and your son? We sometimes see miracles. My husband and I will pray for you both. I love you dear worried mom.

posted by Justi on May 17, 2007 at 7:09 PM | link to this | reply

Sending you good thoughts.

posted by Whacky on May 17, 2007 at 7:02 PM | link to this | reply

Take care of your son - God is great and merciful . I will have him in my

prayers . God bless him.

posted by afzal50 on May 17, 2007 at 5:39 PM | link to this | reply

Oh, my dear sweet RaeS.............

I'm so sorry for you and your son, to have to go through this.  Please know you are in my thoughts and prayers.  I pray God helps him through this.  You, dear lady, will remain in my heart.

posted by MaggieMae on May 17, 2007 at 5:26 PM | link to this | reply

I'm so sorry to hear this. My heart goes out to your entire family. I really hope he can slay the beast. Take good care!!

posted by Holy_Grail on May 17, 2007 at 4:40 PM | link to this | reply

RaeS

my heart goes out to you sweet lady. I see my own children and wonder will they fall victim to the horrors of addiction.. a mothers nighmare. Your son is very fortunate to have you in his corner. I will keep you both in my prayers.

posted by OTA. on May 17, 2007 at 4:33 PM | link to this | reply

Horror indeed, TAPS

I have a mother's will and determination burning unflickering. Prayers are deeply appreciated, Thank you.

posted by PoetRaye on May 17, 2007 at 8:44 AM | link to this | reply

Good analogies, Mary - You are so right; the addiction process has to be

stopped, cut off in it's tracks. Methadone offers a seemingly easy way around the physical withdrawal and imbalance of chemicals associated with opiates; the clinics promise to "level out" a person's system and allow a return to normal activities, minus any discomfort. As long as you can afford the steep weekly fees, of course. No counseling or mental illness therapy is required, little questioning of what other drugs the client is ingesting, I think maybe one drug screen at signing up is all that is done clinically. Drug addicts are taken at their word, as long as they have money in hand. I am dreading the true withdrawal process; would suffer it for him if I could.

Thank you so much for your sharing. Tears fall freely..

posted by PoetRaye on May 17, 2007 at 8:43 AM | link to this | reply

RaeS

I am so sorry that you and your son are going through this horror.    How heart rending for a mother who wants nothing but to bring about healing and help to her child.  My prayers are with you both.

posted by TAPS. on May 17, 2007 at 8:18 AM | link to this | reply

Rae

JM told me about the methadone 'treatment' to aid his Crack addiction and I was horrified.  How can you replace one drug with another drug?  This isn't the same degree of danger, but while my girlfriend was trying to quit smoking 'nicotine' cigarettes she switched to lettuce cigarettes.  And for me where there's smoke, there's fire.  Same with this drug replacement therapy.  It's a personal h*ll drives people to addictions and supporting it in the same fashion serves absolutely no purpose other than to indeed support the addictive process.  Unfortunately, I don't think there's any other way to 'get off' drugs but to go through the h*ll of the physical torture that drew an addict in the first place; and the process is h*ll to watch.  The dramatic chaos that permates everyone associated with the addict never leaves, but there is always hope.  And there are three things in live that simply cannot ever be taken away from us by anyone.  Hope.  Education.  God.  You're doing all the right things, Rae.  I'm praying for all of you during this most arduous time.  I think I'll write you another poem........ 

posted by FoliageGold on May 17, 2007 at 8:17 AM | link to this | reply

Thank you deeply for your comforting words, dear Mary..

I'm trying hard not to lose myself completely, but it is a sprint of urgency, requiring endurance and courage. I knew he had major problems with drinking, but this drug thing hit me unawares a few months ago. Shocked and uninformed, I accepted his treatment choice of replacing/maintaining the oxycontin/morphine addiction with methadone at first...until evidence mounted that it is a new, potentially more lethal addiction, sanctioned and supported legally, but he, like so many other "clients" street searches for the class of drugs - benzoids - that transforms the methadone dose into an opiate like high. I learned recently that he has been on the edge of the overdose cliff at least twice. Very scary realities to live with.

Thank you again, kind Lady!

posted by PoetRaye on May 17, 2007 at 8:07 AM | link to this | reply

Rae

I'm so terribly, terribly sorry to hear about this.  It wasn't long ago I went through it with JM, may he RIP.  There's a long road ahead for all of you and my heart slows....  Do take time for you as it's important to not lose yourself in the process.  God Bless you dear, lady, and may you feel the comfort in the palm of His hand. 

posted by FoliageGold on May 17, 2007 at 7:50 AM | link to this | reply