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Thank you Greenfields
You didn't guess i was unhapy? that's called putting on a brave face, btu i guess at some point it got too muchfor me to keep up he act. i agree with you completely, but i am so jaded to start a new battle. I'm leaving for Libya tomorrow and will stay there for a 2-3 weeks , this will give me time to think and reflect on what I want to do with my life. I apreciate your support and encouragemen. will let you know what happens.
posted by
lindo
on April 16, 2007 at 5:21 PM
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linter
allow me to correct, Islam is a faith that has been hijacked by men to force their will upon women. George Bernard Shaw once said something that goes like this:" if you convert a savage to Christianity then you are converting Christianity into savageness". The same goes for Islam, when men were converted into Muslims they twisted the faith so it suited their need to rule over women. I am very proud of being a Muslim but I make a distinction between God's will and Man's whims.
Thank you for your comment Linter, .
posted by
lindo
on April 16, 2007 at 5:17 PM
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lindo
sorry to read about this. I didn't get a sense of this reading your previous blogs. It seems lilke there is something deep in Max which is hard to touch. I too believe that some men are socialized so hard to be what they are that it takes a lot for them to change. And, as we say in my healing work, it's best to change yourself, not others. The real question from what you have written is will you put up with the indignity that is forced on you? For me, you have the right to have a muually respectful relationship, which it seems you are not getting. Don't be afraid to take tough decisions. Your son will have more respect for you. Hope this helps.
posted by
Greenfields
on April 16, 2007 at 8:31 AM
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I have said it before in conversation and I am not
afraid to repeat it here in writing : Islam is a system invented by men to force their will upon women - women have no future under Islam !
Take care.
posted by
linter
on April 16, 2007 at 6:50 AM
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Afzal, Chili
Thank you.
posted by
lindo
on April 16, 2007 at 6:15 AM
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I wish it were a happily ever after story
In Arabic, it is called Nasseeb, a word that means one's lot in life and marr
iage.
posted by
lindo
on April 16, 2007 at 6:14 AM
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Dear Proc.
Like Tango, repairing a marriage takes two. it's not true that it's enough for one side to change to make a difference. when you are dealing with a person who won't admit he is wrong, and who blames YOU foro everything that is not working in the relationship , you have to stop and think "am i going to sit and take all this blame just to keep appearances". I must say, leaving will not be easy, i will never be able to come back to my homeland and it will mean being a "refugee" for ever, but i think that it is matter of when rather than if. thank you for taking the time to leave this message.
I appreciate it.
posted by
lindo
on April 16, 2007 at 6:12 AM
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lindo,Im so sad to read this. I can only hope you wont make a hasty
decision and first see if there are ways of finding your way back to each other. Sometimes 'the darkest hour is just before the dawn.' So give yourself time and see if there are bits you can repair. Pray. Have counselling. Dont let your marriage die without a fight. Figure out if the issues are more important than your love. Goodluck and Gods blessings .
posted by
proc
on April 16, 2007 at 4:00 AM
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I am sad to read this....
posted by
Chilitree
on April 16, 2007 at 1:44 AM
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Very sad and touching post .
posted by
afzal50
on April 16, 2007 at 1:24 AM
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lindo
So sorry to read of these problems. It must be very upsetting to you. I went through something kind of like this many years ago now. I guess that I grew from the experience, but it would have been nice if it had been a "happily ever after" tale.
posted by
TAPS.
on April 16, 2007 at 1:12 AM
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