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Still think you're wrong Whysper...

I need  to find out though!! LOL

posted by Passionflower on January 19, 2007 at 7:37 AM | link to this | reply

Nothing quite like a meaningfull relationship

Even if it only lasts a few hours.

Sorry I didn't get back sooner about the money thing, but you're actually making my point for me.

It can't buy happiness, because if that were true you would still be happy when you ran out of money. That's why I say it can rent it indefinitely, as long as you keep paying the rent.

 

posted by Whysper on January 19, 2007 at 7:08 AM | link to this | reply

Passion, no difference here, I 've been ass-kicked on countless occasions

. But being a loving -guy, falling into troubles is my speciality.

posted by Bhaskar.ing on January 19, 2007 at 6:00 AM | link to this | reply

Joanna...Thanks for what you say here.

You're very perceptive. I guess I do indeed desire a more meaningful relationship but I honestly do not think it's possible for me. Too much water under too many bridges.

True happiness/joy/bliss feels like something for other people to possess...certainly not me. I don't even make the effort or give it any thought anymore.

I've come to face my reality - my demons...and learn to live with them.

posted by Passionflower on January 18, 2007 at 2:02 PM | link to this | reply

It's nice to know

that you aspire to want to try to do something more legit. From reading this, I believe deep down inside you want a more meaningful relationship, yet you do not believe it is possible for you. I wonder who was the one who broke your heart that put you down this road ? I know how you feel. I hope you find that one special person.

posted by joanna360 on January 18, 2007 at 12:24 PM | link to this | reply

Richin...are you saying you have sex mostly with older women?

And how come? i know...i'm too nosy!

posted by Passionflower on January 18, 2007 at 8:34 AM | link to this | reply

Passion,

sex is mostly with women older than I but group sex?  ... definitely not for me.

posted by richinstore on January 18, 2007 at 6:20 AM | link to this | reply

ARe you NOT commenting on the post Shelly?

Or on me and Bhaskar's conversation??

posted by Passionflower on January 18, 2007 at 4:25 AM | link to this | reply

Women here in America will kick your ass if you mess

With their man, Bhaskar...Guess they aren't like that there...??? LOL-

posted by Passionflower on January 18, 2007 at 4:24 AM | link to this | reply

no comment. LOL

posted by shelly_b on January 17, 2007 at 7:23 PM | link to this | reply

Pass, Then we'll say that we was jus dic cussig your 'Title' of ur write

Hehe.Wha fun ee willbee.

posted by Bhaskar.ing on January 17, 2007 at 7:09 PM | link to this | reply

Unless your wife shoots us both dead, Bhaskar...

Then that wouldn't be so much fun! Right?

posted by Passionflower on January 17, 2007 at 7:03 PM | link to this | reply

Altho it's a male way, but not a pale way. My poverty and ur Passion

can make a great combo, Lol

posted by Bhaskar.ing on January 17, 2007 at 6:33 PM | link to this | reply

Bhaskar...I know that's the typical MALE WAY

Of looking at the marriage issue. But in your wife's mind, you're still married even when she's at school....LOLOLOL!!! Try to remember that!

posted by Passionflower on January 17, 2007 at 6:17 PM | link to this | reply

Oh Passion

I'll just be back after leaving my butter-half to the school. Then I'll be unmarried, and we can flirt. Waddya think? Lol

posted by Bhaskar.ing on January 17, 2007 at 6:13 PM | link to this | reply

You're wrong Bhaskar...I DO indeed care about you being

so wonderful, but I've heard that you're married, so I'm trying not to flirt with the married men so much...LOL!

posted by Passionflower on January 17, 2007 at 6:10 PM | link to this | reply

Passsion

Nobody seems to give a damn 'bout my being wonderful. Not even you... with my woe! Woe Ho!!

posted by Bhaskar.ing on January 17, 2007 at 6:05 PM | link to this | reply

Nothing wrong with being a wonderfully poor man Bhaskar...

But wonderfully RICH would work better....LOL!!!

posted by Passionflower on January 17, 2007 at 10:40 AM | link to this | reply

PF, But I am a wondefrully poor man. LOL!

posted by Bhaskar.ing on January 17, 2007 at 10:22 AM | link to this | reply

wow! Thanks for the kind words RkyMtn...

I'd love to find a wonderfully RICH man! LOL!!!

posted by Passionflower on January 17, 2007 at 10:00 AM | link to this | reply

Okay Offbeat...I'll try to believe you but it doesn't come easy for me.

posted by Passionflower on January 17, 2007 at 9:59 AM | link to this | reply

Well Passionflower...I sincerely hope you find the right man, if that is

what you want.  In my opinion you have a lot to offer and any man should be blessed to have you! One thing for sure...his life will never be boring! I'll put you on my prayer list...to find a good man....with money! LOL

posted by RckyMtnActivist on January 17, 2007 at 9:44 AM | link to this | reply

Actually Passion I know it...it's gonna happen!!!

posted by Offy on January 17, 2007 at 9:38 AM | link to this | reply

Thanks Offbeat...

But honestly...do you really believe that? Or is it just something we tell each other so we won't feel so lonely?

posted by Passionflower on January 17, 2007 at 9:36 AM | link to this | reply

Yep

Someday you are going to meet the man of your dreams and all this will be behind you...Plus you aren't alone in the sex department. I watched a special a week or so ago about it and there are hundreds of thousand who are afflicted with it...Glad the worst is behind...

posted by Offy on January 17, 2007 at 9:31 AM | link to this | reply

I like you positive spin, Rachel...hope you're right!

posted by Passionflower on January 17, 2007 at 9:31 AM | link to this | reply

Bhaskar...People say those things to me and have for years

I think it's best to prepare yourself for other contingencies though.

Don't worry about spelling/typing - almost no one gives it much thought anymore.

posted by Passionflower on January 17, 2007 at 9:30 AM | link to this | reply

Hmm...

Good questions.  The fact is, you can see the change from last year until now so I have no doubt that you will continue down this road and find someone great to spend your time with, maybe even fall in love, without pushing him away.

posted by RachelAnna on January 17, 2007 at 8:24 AM | link to this | reply

OOPS! legitimate. How difficult it is even to spell!

posted by Bhaskar.ing on January 17, 2007 at 7:57 AM | link to this | reply

Hi Passionflower

"Legit"? Does that stand for legimate, then so many drifting boats can be intimate!Lol . Don't worry,all your passions will bloom into a flowering one day, just patience man, no..woman.

posted by Bhaskar.ing on January 17, 2007 at 7:56 AM | link to this | reply

Thanks for saying those things Troosha...

Actually that does make sense when you think about it. I'm totally scared of letting anybody get close to me though.

posted by Passionflower on January 17, 2007 at 7:43 AM | link to this | reply

P.F.

As you feel yourself becoming more "real" so will the people/men you meet and the encounters will have more depth.  We teach people how to treat us.  We cast an image as to how people should view us.  So if you sense that you're changing and, as you said, are becoming more legit the same will apply to the experiences you have. 

posted by Troosha on January 17, 2007 at 7:32 AM | link to this | reply

I honestly think that it can!

That old cliche is something we've all been telling ourselves for years so we wouldn't hate being broke so much.

posted by Passionflower on January 17, 2007 at 6:26 AM | link to this | reply

Whysper...Last week I wrote a post that said that I DO

Believe that MONEY CAN BUY HAPPINESS.

posted by Passionflower on January 17, 2007 at 6:25 AM | link to this | reply

PF

Yeah, I understand.  Kinda like money.

It can't buy happiness, but it can rent it indefinitely.

posted by Whysper on January 17, 2007 at 6:21 AM | link to this | reply

Thanks for sharing those things OneTime....

If I had to guess, I would think that there probably ARE a few of us out there. What I always tell people is that you can get into my panties but not my heart.

It's been broken and disappointed too many times. Not sure I have the courage to go down that road again. I hope you can though. I'd like to think that a few of us could make our way out of this self-imposed maze of whatever it is.

posted by Passionflower on January 17, 2007 at 6:20 AM | link to this | reply

Passion flower

this post got me to thinking about my own relationships .. isn't it interesting how the walls of physical intimacy can come down so easily for some.. yet the walls we put up on the inside are much stronger.. harder to let down. A lover told me not long ago that I wanted my cake and eat it too. I had told him I didn't want anything more than a physical relationship..a friend with benefits if you will.. he has been happy with that I suppose... haven't heard any complaints..but if I am honest with myself.. yes I would like to have an island to harbor this boat with.

I enjoyed reading and contemplating this post.

posted by OTA. on January 17, 2007 at 6:13 AM | link to this | reply

Whysper...When there's no love in your world...

I've found that amazing sex works almost as well.

posted by Passionflower on January 17, 2007 at 5:46 AM | link to this | reply

Malcom...LOL! I just hate it when people throw

Mystifying cliches at me! It makes my head spin.

posted by Passionflower on January 17, 2007 at 5:45 AM | link to this | reply

Chilitree...One of these days, I might be able to think in those terms

But not today!

posted by Passionflower on January 17, 2007 at 5:45 AM | link to this | reply

You can push boats away

but not islands. You'll be able to tell the difference when the fog finally clears.

posted by malcolm on January 17, 2007 at 5:33 AM | link to this | reply

Only three-somes?

I come from the age of free love and I still have some images in my mind that make me blush on cold winter's night.

I think earlier in life, most men are like that.  Afraid to invest in their emotions(love) so they over compensate physically(sex).  Sex is like pizza, it's always good, sometimes better and you never have to settle for just one piece.  Love, on the other hand is far more complicated.  It's something that we want for ourselves, but it only works when it's built on what you want for someone else.

If my sweetie decided tomorrow that she didn't ever want to have sex again, I would be disappointed, but it wouldn't be the worst thing in my universe.  If instead she disappeared from my reality I would be devistated to the point of total collapse. 

Maybe love is bad for you, because it's almost like an addiction, but it feels so good, and there is a line from a Nat King Cole song....

The greatest thing, you'll ever learn is just to love and be loved in return.

posted by Whysper on January 17, 2007 at 5:05 AM | link to this | reply

Passion... if you ask yoursel the following question

"What do I want?" ... what would your answer be?

posted by Chilitree on January 16, 2007 at 10:27 PM | link to this | reply

Ha, ha, Gerald...Thanks for your comment!

At least we know we're practicing "Safe Sex" if we only talk about it!

posted by Passionflower on January 16, 2007 at 9:27 PM | link to this | reply

Passionflower

In answer to the very first question in your post: Of course, we can TALK about it!  I am getting too old to do much more than talk about it, but I still could enjoy the conversation! 

A refreshing post! Thanks for sharing, and good luck! 

Gerald  

posted by GEPRUITT on January 16, 2007 at 9:17 PM | link to this | reply

Sorry to find that you're in THIS particular boat, Mysteria...LOL!!!

This one don't go nowhere pretty. Maybe you're right. Maybe people just say that stuff to us bec they feel sorry for us.

But I LIke youre answer better.

posted by Passionflower on January 16, 2007 at 8:20 PM | link to this | reply

Passsh...I think that we are in the same boat!

And I also think that good things will fill our sails!

posted by mysteria on January 16, 2007 at 8:10 PM | link to this | reply