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Red, I really commend you for this post!
Some advice from a veteran of the high standards club; some of us have stronger sexual needs than others. I believe it is because we are healthy, still doesn't cool the fire, huh? I realize statistic show men, by natural have stronger sexual desires, but there are those of us woman who are healthy and fit into the top 10% of woman with the same needs. I've been married and divorced twice, now single for almost 12 years and I can honestly admit (now) without any doubt that I married both times for that reason alone. I just couldn't fathom how I could function without a guaranteed supply. It was unfair and selfish and could fault no one but myself for the failure of both marriages. I was active sexually up until about a year and a half ago. Something just snapped in my last relationship. I wanted so much more. No matter how physically satisfying partners were, the emotional & spiritual need was left unfulfilled and I just couldn't settle any longer. I am a praying woman, believing in answers from a higher power and I did receive answers. I was instructed, time and time again to reach for the stars; set my goals in motions, focus my energies on achieving them and when I had attained all of myself spiritually, I would attract the life-partner that would compliment and complete me in all aspects; physically, emotionally & spiritually. In conclusion; I'm exhausted physically & mentally at the end of each day, lol. I have very little time to daydream. My mind is occupied with the bigger picture and I'm living by faith that when I'm ready and willing to give of myself; physically, emotionally & spiritually, he will find me. Be blessed.
posted by
roadscross
on January 9, 2007 at 11:38 PM
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Redscribe, Hello.
Thanks for your response to my comment. I wish you would write more often. I like reading you... and what happened to the pics in your 'about me' page?
posted by
Chilitree
on January 7, 2007 at 9:28 PM
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Hello Redscribe. Interesting and honest post. I can relate. I too am very
sexual. It is a very powerful dynamic ... I don't think it was designed to stand alone. I think it was meant to be close companion to love and commitment. I must admit that I do forget about this when sexual desire ignites ...
posted by
Chilitree
on January 6, 2007 at 10:56 PM
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hmm
You know, you are young, and I sense a real pure pain here. I know what you're going through, hell we've all been there. It's like you're going through a pre-mid-mid life crisis. Pushing 30, I'm 48, and I remember b'day 30 like yesterday. My father sent me a bumper sticker that read: "Have a Shitty Day" as a joke of course, and I laughed like hell. But, it was then that I realized for the first time that I had hit an identifiable milestone, one that reverberated with everyone, like a, "oh I know exactly what it feels like" kind of thing.
I wondered where I "should" be in my life at the time. Married, at least one kid, mortgage (still don't have one) kid, (have one) but, my emotional rudder was off. Coming from a different perspective, boy, girl, we aren't all that far off on this one. Sex, for the sake of sex, had worn thin...I wanted to understand why "regular" life was leaving me in its wake. You aren't alone in this. You are doing this right, even if the laptop is cold and uncomfortable, you have plenty of time. I'm a guy and I commited to celibacy for a period of time when I was 30, one month, but that was huge, living in a resort area in Florida.
You should join a dating site and filter through a few potential profiles, it's the new way to find a potential mate as opposed to just gambling at the local bar-dive.
Skip the losers as you have and you'll find someone I'm positive of that!
This is the longest response I've ever given, but your plight struck a cord in me.
Good luck, and I promise everything will fall into place.
Graham, AKA, Gill Finn
posted by
gillfinn
on January 6, 2007 at 12:24 PM
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I can relate very well to what you are saying
I don't have the time to dwell on that empty part of my life.. but its there.. like a big well that echoes back at me if I whisper about it. Relationships are difficult at best and I've not had a great deal of success in that department for many and various reasons. So I allow myself to just "be". at this time in my life. Should a partner who completes me become available, I hope I will have the sense to hang on.
posted by
Blue_feathers
on January 6, 2007 at 5:24 AM
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Well,
I don't have advise, however I have experience about frustration which hits us all, young and old. Companionship, emotional support, comfort and sexual satisfaction all go together and I find it is difficult to be happy with only one of those things.
You seem on top of the situation and maybe 2007 will bring you the right guy, right cologne and right personality. Good Luck,
Lou
posted by
Cameraeye
on January 5, 2007 at 8:14 PM
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