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Roofing? Does that mean you're looking for a man who knows tiles?

posted by Blanche. on December 5, 2006 at 10:49 PM | link to this | reply

Just trying to be helpful, Passion.

I know you've been in the dumps.

posted by Joe_Love on December 5, 2006 at 10:46 PM | link to this | reply

I'm going to bed Blanche -

Talk to you tomorrow...I'm trying to finish the chapter on roofs tomorrow....I know WAY more than the average girl about the various roofing materials now...LOL.

posted by Passionflower on December 5, 2006 at 10:45 PM | link to this | reply

LOL Blanche...I'm a very kind-hearted, generous soul

Who has given herself and her money as a way of life...not just when I feel like it or when it's Christmas.

posted by Passionflower on December 5, 2006 at 10:43 PM | link to this | reply

So...you're saying I'm preaching to the choir here, lol

posted by Blanche. on December 5, 2006 at 10:37 PM | link to this | reply

Blanche...I do those Angel Tree things every year...

This year I don't have the time or money for it. They do briefly help with the Christmas Blues.

posted by Passionflower on December 5, 2006 at 10:35 PM | link to this | reply

I'd love to do that Joe...those are great suggestions.

But I'm working 8 to 5 monday thru friday, plus I'm writing for a couple of web sites, trying to earn an honest dollar as a writer. Just this week I began studying for my housing inspector exam for the VHA.

I've got a full plate right now.

posted by Passionflower on December 5, 2006 at 10:34 PM | link to this | reply

Joe's right, Passionflower, I have already gotten one from the CP gift tree

I need to get a scarf and  mittens for a little girl.  Giving is good for your spirits.

posted by Blanche. on December 5, 2006 at 10:33 PM | link to this | reply

Weellllllllll, Passion. . . ,

The first thing I think you should do is go to your local supermarket (or wherever they have these things) and pick yourself a name off the "Angel Tree" and sponser a child.  Then, you might consider going down to the Salvation Army's processing area and discover how they process all this "Angel Tree" stuff, etc. 

I'd be willing to bet, if you do these two things, your Christmas Doldrums will disappear for you.

Just a suggestion.

posted by Joe_Love on December 5, 2006 at 10:29 PM | link to this | reply

Yes indeed Whacky!

Good plan.

posted by Passionflower on December 4, 2006 at 7:07 PM | link to this | reply

Maybe get the job first and then see?

posted by Whacky on December 4, 2006 at 7:05 PM | link to this | reply

That's true Offbeat...but I don't like it here.

The lawyer has a much nicer place.

posted by Passionflower on December 4, 2006 at 3:05 PM | link to this | reply

Talion...he's lonely and I need a place to stay..

posted by Passionflower on December 4, 2006 at 3:04 PM | link to this | reply

Passionflower

It sounds like you need a room mate, a person to share space and expenses only. If you don't have feelings for the lawyer guy and he has them for you, don't move in with him. You'd only be using him.  

posted by Talion on December 4, 2006 at 2:30 PM | link to this | reply

PF

Well you don't have feelings for either one so why bother with a move? Your going to be moving when work gets going anyway right??? Humm, well it's up to you..

posted by Offy on December 4, 2006 at 2:14 PM | link to this | reply

The lawyer guy is a really nice man, Maggie...

I just don't have feelings for him.

posted by Passionflower on December 4, 2006 at 12:36 PM | link to this | reply

Only you can make that decision, Passion.  Actually, you could walk into a situation worse that you have.   This man could turn out to be a batterer.  He might be a woman beater.  I would stay where I am, since you're so close to getting your license.  Let Richard's girl wait till you're ready, save a move, and be safe. 

Actually, either way, it has to be your decision.

posted by MaggieMae on December 4, 2006 at 12:06 PM | link to this | reply

Thanks Taps...You're a very smart lady!

posted by Passionflower on December 4, 2006 at 9:44 AM | link to this | reply

You're right Corbin...I will make certain (if I move)

That the guy knows exactly how I feel.

posted by Passionflower on December 4, 2006 at 9:44 AM | link to this | reply

Thanks for the encouraging words, Blanche...

I've spent 6 years just trying to somehow "make it thru the holidays". I'd give anything to just be happy and enjoy it someday.

posted by Passionflower on December 4, 2006 at 9:43 AM | link to this | reply

Focus on the job, Passionflower, in a few weeks, all this could be behind

you. Remember, one foot in front of the other,take each minute and day as it comes.  But the VHA job sounds like it could be the godsend you've been praying for.  You'll get through the holidays, we all do somehow.

posted by Blanche. on December 4, 2006 at 8:54 AM | link to this | reply

It's kind of like what TAPS said.....

if there any type of friendship there.....then familiarty may nurture something.....but if you don't think you could've been his friend.....I don't know about that.....the key is he must not be going into this with "expectations"....especially if that's how you feel.   Because it could result in a very uncomfortable phase ending in a bad "move out"....

posted by Corbin_Dallas on December 4, 2006 at 8:52 AM | link to this | reply

Passionflower, Only you (and passing time) can say for sure.

posted by TAPS. on December 4, 2006 at 8:40 AM | link to this | reply

That's true Troosha....

There are pros and cons of both situations.

posted by Passionflower on December 4, 2006 at 8:38 AM | link to this | reply

Taps...would it really?

I don't love either man....but one of them has a really lovely, spacious place to live and the other one has a small cramped place. Plus Richard has a girlfriend who is ready for me to move out...LOL!

The lawyer is a really sweet guy who is very lonely.

posted by Passionflower on December 4, 2006 at 8:33 AM | link to this | reply

As Long as Mr. Lawyer knows where you stand

.. that you don't love him and you don't see that as changing, then I suppose it's ok.  But isn't that the same situation you're in now (accept it would be a bigger, fancier house?). 

posted by Troosha on December 4, 2006 at 8:31 AM | link to this | reply

Passionflower, I did not get the answers right to A. or B.   I won't get the other part right either, Ha Ha.  So I will answer with a question.   Wouldn't that be kind of like jumping out of the frying pan into the fire?

posted by TAPS. on December 4, 2006 at 8:29 AM | link to this | reply

AllyK...Thanks for your advice.

I DO know what you're saying but I'm already IN a situation where I'm living with someone I don't really care for simply in order to make ends meet.

I divorced Richard bec I don't love him. That's still true. I don't love him. We're just friends.

posted by Passionflower on December 4, 2006 at 8:16 AM | link to this | reply

Warrior...I think it's pretty clear that the guy would expect me

To sleep next to him every night.

I'm a survivor. I do whatever it takes to "make it." Sometimes we all must do unpleasant things in order to 'survive'.

posted by Passionflower on December 4, 2006 at 8:14 AM | link to this | reply

dont do it. don't trade love for money

you'll feel empty no matter how nice the house is you live in.  Treat yourself better.  You deserve more than that.  Mr. Right is out there.  You might not meet him today, or tomorrow, but he's out there.  And,you'll know it when you meet him.  Never sell yourself short.

posted by allyk on December 4, 2006 at 8:13 AM | link to this | reply

Corbin....Wouldn't it be simple if I was crazy about this guy?

He's lonely and is very well off financially speaking. Maybe my feelings would grow for him??? Do you believe that ever happens?

posted by Passionflower on December 4, 2006 at 8:12 AM | link to this | reply

Timmy...Richard has a new girlfriend who is very eager

For me to move out...LOL-

posted by Passionflower on December 4, 2006 at 8:11 AM | link to this | reply

CD covered my question.

I don't think there's anything wrong with moving as long as everyone is upfront about what it means.

posted by SuccessWarrior on December 4, 2006 at 8:10 AM | link to this | reply

Two things...

When you say you "don't like"  are you speaking specifically as in romantically and if so, does he know that?

Which leads to the second question...Are there any strings attached?

posted by Corbin_Dallas on December 4, 2006 at 7:58 AM | link to this | reply

passion

Ummmm............hell yes!! Actually, will it put Richard in a bad situation?

posted by TIMMYTALES on December 4, 2006 at 7:55 AM | link to this | reply

Thanks Star, for sharing your opinion.

posted by Passionflower on December 4, 2006 at 7:40 AM | link to this | reply

if it's me, if I don't like the person , I don't like to move......

posted by star4sky5 on December 4, 2006 at 7:30 AM | link to this | reply