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My girls are 11, 13 & 15
Last year I was so mad at them that I boycotted Christmas until it was almost in my lap, that's when I realized the only one I was hurting was me. I love Christmas and regardless of how selfish and ungrateful my girls are I won't let them take my Christmas spirit away.
posted by
Whysper
on December 1, 2006 at 1:59 PM
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girls are impossible at that age... I know, I was a nightmare.
My mom and I constantly fought, but now we're closer than ever. I believe you will get through this... some way. Vodka, perhaps?
posted by
-blackcat
on December 1, 2006 at 8:40 AM
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i usually do the Dutch "St. Nicholas Eve" custom
where you put your shoes by the door for candy - i told my 11 year old last night I was doing it and she cried for an hour. This was after she told me to shut up 5 minutes before.
posted by
ladychardonnay
on December 1, 2006 at 7:25 AM
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I totally understand...
My dad used to joke that we used to think he was a bank manager and my mum was a hotel manager. It is hard to shake of that attitude. I still have to check myself. But trust me, your daughters will wake up to how they are making you feel sooner or later. Hopefully sooner!
posted by
blagging
on December 1, 2006 at 7:17 AM
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lady
I know where you at. There were times when I thought about killing them..but alas they grew up and I'am glad I didn't. My daughter was especially hard. She went to sleep at 14 and I didn't see her, the daughter I knew, until she was 17. I walked into her room, it was spotless, the food from under her bed (I hated that) was gone, no more dishes. I was in shock, I sat on her bed and cried. She asked me what was the matter. I told her I didn't think she was ever going to wake back up. I danced...
It will get better!!!
posted by
Offy
on December 1, 2006 at 6:33 AM
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thanks blagging - that really helps
but their idea of "spending time with mommy" includes me doing something for them or buying something. i feel very resentful right now.
posted by
ladychardonnay
on December 1, 2006 at 6:27 AM
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It sounds like you're really down and I wish I could help...
I'm not too far gone from the stubborn teenager stage and I'm sure my mum went through the same feelings towards me and my sister as you are now. We were awful to her. We didn't treat her like a human being, just as if she was there to satisfy our needs and accept our behaviour. Occasionally I catch myself repeating this kind of behaviour towards her and it makes me feel terrible, but it didn't at the time.
The fact that you remember bad periods with your son hopefull proves what I am trying to say...that this is only a phase. And whilst you, unfortunatley, are the victim in the situation, it will not last forever. I am convinced that one day your daughters will have a wonderful relationship with you. You may even get an apology in a few years!
posted by
blagging
on December 1, 2006 at 6:26 AM
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