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LMAO Factor...Not LEMONY fresh at all!!!!!!!!

You've got a nose for the truth.

posted by Passionflower on November 7, 2006 at 8:20 PM | link to this | reply

Well, I am none too sure of what has been going on here...

but I think I can guess... and frankly, it stinks of something.... and it isn't lemon fresh...

posted by FactorFiction on November 7, 2006 at 8:01 PM | link to this | reply

Whacky...I've changed alot-

But it's been hard work-it's taken alot of prayer. It takes YOU wanting a better life for yourself.

posted by Passionflower on November 7, 2006 at 10:51 AM | link to this | reply

Star...I wish you were right about nobody being a fool-

But there are plenty of foolish people these days. That man doesn't love the girl who is sticking beside him and supporting him. He told me so himself.

He said she was an immature child and that he was amused by their relationship in the past but was getting ready to dump her.

In spite of me sending her my emials to that affect, she has still supported him, making both of them very foolish people in my book..

posted by Passionflower on November 7, 2006 at 10:49 AM | link to this | reply

Terpgirl...Thanks- IMO a creep is a creep no matter what nation he's from

As I pointed out, we have people on Blogit from all over the world - they don't behave this way in spite of cultural and religious differences.

posted by Passionflower on November 7, 2006 at 10:47 AM | link to this | reply

terpgirl30

I know this was addressed to PF but I feel I want to personally tell you thank you for pointing out the obvious, like so many have experience ignorance on this subject but at the same time many have enlightened us to certain religion and marriage issues in this matter, and they are in the know as they are from the same country. 

posted by lustorlove on November 7, 2006 at 7:07 AM | link to this | reply

Passion

I can't believe anyone gets caught up with this guy.  Just following the saga(s) of the various people here regarding him would be enough to keep a serious arm's length from the guy.  It all oozes CREEEEEPY.  I only read about it and I want to scream "PERSONAL SPACE!!!"   There hasn't been a sincere word said from this guy, IMO.  I have been nice for the most part, but I've made a point to stick to those other, very safe issues/topics.  After all of this...I'm done.  I don't like to see people being jerked around.

I started a war regarding it early on, not having a clue what was going on behind the scenes.  When I look back, I hit it right the first time---for all the crap I had to hear.  Walks like a duck, quacks like a duck, etc. 

People mentioned the cultural diversity a bunch of times.  This isn't about that at all.  It's really about ONE CREEPY, LETCH.  There is a whole nation of CREEPY LETCHES.  Odd how that crosses all manners of race, religion, etc.  But Passion,  I love how you pointed out the very definite things about American women.  Again, I don't think that will sink in.  It's not of any importance to him---which is what I hope every female has sink into her head.

And the poetry stinks.

posted by terpgirl30 on November 6, 2006 at 11:51 PM | link to this | reply

People can change but it is very very hard...

and usually doesn't last.

posted by Whacky on November 6, 2006 at 10:39 PM | link to this | reply

Bhaskar.ing

thank you for clearing that up I hope a certain person reads this

posted by lustorlove on November 6, 2006 at 10:00 PM | link to this | reply

it was an open book but it became one when he made a couple of fools, and what is sad she was behind him in this and still is by his side

posted by lustorlove on November 6, 2006 at 9:56 PM | link to this | reply

Lustorlove and Star4U...

I'm glad you both saw what Bhaskar wrote about the subject of Indian men having 4 wives. He explains it very well. He says it's an outdated practice that isn't widely recognized anymore.

posted by Passionflower on November 6, 2006 at 9:55 PM | link to this | reply

it could be a joke........I don't believe that some one trying to get a

Visa will tell the whole world like this open. I don't think any body is fool.

posted by star4sky5 on November 6, 2006 at 9:54 PM | link to this | reply

well us involved didnt like his and her joke to get a visa

posted by lustorlove on November 6, 2006 at 9:46 PM | link to this | reply

Because in India, it's not practical, I can't believe that he's calling you

guys and saying, it's ridiculous. I honestly believed that he loves that girl and all the rest was joke, but now I am absolutely mad that one person causing all these shame for a country for his own special interest.

posted by star4sky5 on November 6, 2006 at 9:42 PM | link to this | reply

star

think real hard and you might be able to come up with your own answer

posted by lustorlove on November 6, 2006 at 9:38 PM | link to this | reply

I BELIEVE THAT HE'S JUST MAKING FUN OF GUYS, SO IF ANY BODY SAY

THAT THEY CAN MARRY FOUR PLEASE DON'T BELIEVE. IT'S ILLEGAL IN INDIA. IT COULD BE VALID ONLY MUSLIM COUNTRY LIKE PAKISTAN , KUWAIT, DUBAI ETC

posted by star4sky5 on November 6, 2006 at 9:33 PM | link to this | reply

I BELIEVE THAT HE'S JUST MAKING FUN OF GUYS, SO IF ANY BODY SAY

THAT THEY CAN MARRY FOUR PLEASE DON'T BELIEVE. IT'S ILLEGAL IN INDIA. IT COULD BE VALID ONLY MUSLIM COUNTRY LIKE PAKISTAN , KUWAIT, DUBAI ETC

posted by star4sky5 on November 6, 2006 at 9:33 PM | link to this | reply

ABSOLUTELY WRONG, INDIA IS NOT MADE OUT THAT WAY

INDIA IS A HINDU COUNTRY BY MAJORITY, ONLY 7% MUSLIM DOESN'T MAKE A COUNTRY. IT'S ABSOLUTELTY WRONG TO SAY THAT INDIAN MAN CAN MARRY FOUR WOMEN, OH NOOOOOOOOOOO. WE HINDU'S VALUE MARRIAGES VERY MUCH. ONE MARRIAGE AND WOMEN EVEN JUMP ON THE FIRE TO DIE WITH THEIR HUSBAND. I DON'T BELIEVE A HINDU WOMAN WILL ALLOW HER HUSBAND TO SLEEP WITH ANOTHER WOMEN.IT'S SO SHAME TO HEAR AN INDIAN MAN TRIED TO FOOL YOU? WHO WAS THAT?

posted by star4sky5 on November 6, 2006 at 9:30 PM | link to this | reply

Bhaskar....I DO really appreciate you clarifying this for us all.

I think we do sometimes generalize thinking that all people from India are a certain way, but I can tell from your thorough explanation that it's not a custom that many still believe in or adhere to.

IN this instance, I believe the guy in question was simply using that as an excuse to be able to get away with having relationships with 3 women here on Blogit, as well as a wife and kids at home.

I believe that in ANY country, a liar is still a liar and a cheater is still a cheater. We have many people on here from various countries around the world.

For instance, Tanga is from Zambia Africa, a country that many might think of as a third world nation...a brutal land even. But Tanga is a very honest, gentle man...a good husband and father.

I believe a person either has these core values or he doesnt.

posted by Passionflower on November 6, 2006 at 4:53 PM | link to this | reply

PassionF, I did read your great post of relevance withj great interest, but

I would, however, like to clarify one point (not wholly differ, but clarify), that "In their country four marriages are allowed". Not in that country, please note. India is a country predominantly of Hindus. Muslims are in minority, and it is only and only in the Muslim, or call it Mohammedan, community that four marriages are allowed. And, there is a historical background to it all right, but it is now prehistoric. The reason can be traced down 15 centuries back, when these people of the desert clans fought each other to death, leaving very few men against the number of women who, naturally, outnumbering men and, consequently, with no chance ever of getting married, and open to brutal sexual assaults, the prophet Mohammed, in order that they (women) find protection, deemed it right in accordance with the situation prevailing at the time, to design a way out by allowing a man to marry four women. And whatever Mohammed said then, according to Muslims, is religion even now. It had relevance then, but none now, and the foolish people go on believing it to be religion.

I thought this clarification was necessary, so that a wrong conception does not get formed about the country. Have I been able to be clear, Passion? Or my passion, as Indians would like to address you? Tsk Tsk Tongue in cheek… Even that too is too weird!

posted by Bhaskar.ing on November 6, 2006 at 11:44 AM | link to this | reply

Good question Tanga...I think he'll go to jail if he marries 4 women

Here in the USA.

posted by Passionflower on November 6, 2006 at 11:01 AM | link to this | reply

Excuse me, Passion, but I don't think Wiley is up to you, is he?  I fear for his safety.  haha  roflmao

No, I don't think this Indian caller could keep up with you either.  I believe his culture and your's would really clash.  You would be some specimen for him to work with.  I feel, though, if he could keep up with you, Passion, he could make it here.

posted by MaggieMae on November 6, 2006 at 5:02 AM | link to this | reply

A relationship is already a major part of life with many

obstacles to over come, let alone cultural differences. It would be extremely difficult to maintain. Some have succeeded to overcome these differences, but I feel the majority fail. And what if he wants four American wives????

posted by Tanga on November 5, 2006 at 11:14 PM | link to this | reply

I think it's amazingly difficult

to overcome cultural differences in a relationship, even between cultures that may seem similar in many ways.  Been there...  It's not easy.

posted by SilverMoon7 on November 5, 2006 at 8:09 PM | link to this | reply

I won't need a harem with Wiley around anyway...

Right??? wink, wink...

posted by Passionflower on November 5, 2006 at 7:09 PM | link to this | reply

LOL Wiley....That's quite a poem you've written.

I may have to print it out and frame it.  That other guy's poems were not nearly as cool as yours. You are the cat's meow!!!!!!!!  

posted by Passionflower on November 5, 2006 at 7:08 PM | link to this | reply

Passionflower

Edit: " I'd be the only one in your harem," lol

posted by WileyJohn on November 5, 2006 at 7:03 PM | link to this | reply

Passionflower

Dang woman. I got competition? And he writes poetry? Awright here goes.

There was a young lady from Texas

That I dreamed about every night,

She's spunky, funky and all woman,

By golly she'd make a Canuck awright.

So I think I'll go hitch up the dog sled,

And take me a little ol' ride,

All the ways down to Texas

And make her my l'il ol' bride.

 

Now baby, this Canuck can vacuum,

Can do dishes and even the wash

You'd I'd the only one in your harem,

And I'd luv ya to piecses by gosh

 

posted by WileyJohn on November 5, 2006 at 7:01 PM | link to this | reply

I like ritz crackers and spinach dip...

Also, pretzels. And cheese and crackers. Geez...I'm not picky either.

posted by Passionflower on November 5, 2006 at 6:20 PM | link to this | reply

Too many to name, you pick, I'm not picky, Passionflower

posted by Blanche. on November 5, 2006 at 6:05 PM | link to this | reply

Okay, Cool Blanche...what's your fav snack food???

posted by Passionflower on November 5, 2006 at 6:03 PM | link to this | reply

Oh, Maker's Mark would be good, and snacks yes, I'm getting hungry for real

posted by Blanche. on November 5, 2006 at 6:01 PM | link to this | reply

There's a liquor store across the street from me Blanche...

I'll run over and get a bottle and be right there. What kind of bourbon do you like ???? Should I bring snax???

posted by Passionflower on November 5, 2006 at 6:00 PM | link to this | reply

yay! it's my brithday already somewhere in the world, Passionflower,

and I am tired of being cooped up fighting a cold. I only wish I had a real bottle of bourbon, but it'll have to wait til Wednesday.

posted by Blanche. on November 5, 2006 at 5:54 PM | link to this | reply

Sounds like a plan Blanche...

posted by Passionflower on November 5, 2006 at 5:53 PM | link to this | reply

Okay, and get Nautikos a Scotch, will you? I'll find my own Bourbon!

posted by Blanche. on November 5, 2006 at 5:25 PM | link to this | reply

You're right Blanche...

I'll go fire up the Blender. You get the Tequila. Offbeats can get the ice and Lustorlove can get the salt and glassses going. Woo-hoo!!! Party Time!

posted by Passionflower on November 5, 2006 at 5:24 PM | link to this | reply

Icky poo poo to all sleazy men, I say, closure is good, Passionflower,

but don't forget LIVING WELL IS THE BEST REVENGE, let's PARTY!!!

posted by Blanche. on November 5, 2006 at 5:22 PM | link to this | reply

Oh okay, Blanche...this is our LAST DAY

To even talk about it. We girls felt we needed closure...But we don't wanna waste any more time or words on those two.

posted by Passionflower on November 5, 2006 at 5:20 PM | link to this | reply

True, I meant Lustorlove, she addressed me directly, Passionflower

posted by Blanche. on November 5, 2006 at 4:53 PM | link to this | reply

LOL Lustor...women like her never have successful relationships.

posted by Passionflower on November 5, 2006 at 4:49 PM | link to this | reply

Yes Offbeat...he told me that he would divorce his wife

And forsake being a Muslim in order to be with me.

posted by Passionflower on November 5, 2006 at 4:49 PM | link to this | reply

Katshu....This is happening alot more these days.

I hope you'll continue to be very careful. I've heard of people pretending to be in love with you just so they can get a visa.

posted by Passionflower on November 5, 2006 at 4:48 PM | link to this | reply

PF

Didn't he say he would also divorce his wife? I think I saw that somewhere...

posted by Offy on November 5, 2006 at 4:44 PM | link to this | reply

Blanche...I wouldn't ask you to take sides.

I know you wouldn't ask it of me either.

posted by Passionflower on November 5, 2006 at 4:42 PM | link to this | reply

Kasthu....you're certainly right!

The girl who is standing behind him is pretty dumb...she's closing her eyes to all the evidence and blindly blundering onward. I don't expect a favorable outcome for either one of them. 

What goes around, comes around.

posted by Passionflower on November 5, 2006 at 4:41 PM | link to this | reply

By the way, I was in a somewhat similar situation regarding a guy from Africa--only, I'd actually met this guy in person. He was leaving me freaky IM and text messages, and calling me but then hanging up when I picked up. He kept telling me about how he couldn't stop thinking about me (and this after two very brief conversations with him) and how much he wanted to get to know me. Needless to say I blocked him and hope he got the message that I was skeeved out by his behavior.

posted by Kasthu on November 5, 2006 at 4:40 PM | link to this | reply

Brava for handling that situation so well! The note you wrote was fantastic. I especially love the part where you write about how, if an American wife were in the situation his Indian wife was in, she would have locked him out of the house! I agree with you, I don't think this guy would have been so open to the ways of Americans. We're much too outspoken.

posted by Kasthu on November 5, 2006 at 4:34 PM | link to this | reply

I was just informing you if you still were lost who it was

posted by lustorlove on November 5, 2006 at 4:29 PM | link to this | reply

LL, I ain't gonna go there, I may have been born at night, but not last

night. You guys can fight this one out yourselves.  I just left a friendly hello, cause that's what I do, I'm not taking sides.

posted by Blanche. on November 5, 2006 at 4:26 PM | link to this | reply

Blanche

you were just on his blog and left him a comment and his dumb partner was there too, boy I give up on some women

posted by lustorlove on November 5, 2006 at 4:24 PM | link to this | reply

I couldn't figure out exaclty what was up, Passionflower, I couldn't tell

which Indian guy you were talking about there are two here who are very flirtatious. I hate to see you get hurt.

posted by Blanche. on November 5, 2006 at 3:46 PM | link to this | reply

Don't worry about that Blanche

We had quite a BIG break-up here on Blogit last night. Sorry you missed out on it. He had 2 other girlfriends here on Blogit and one of those is sticking by him and supporting him in spite of his lying, cheating and infidelity.

I know that sounds quite unbelievable but it's true. Ask Sally or Lilane. I really wasn't seeking his affections at all. In fact I was emailing Sally each day telling her what he had said and asking her how I could get rid of him without hurting his feelings...now i feel stupid for caring about hurting his feelings.

posted by Passionflower on November 5, 2006 at 2:37 PM | link to this | reply

Passionflower, for me the dealbreaker is the infidelity and sneakiness.

Sneaking around behind someone's back, a wife, to hook up with a woman in another country, that sounds judgmental or harsh, and we're not supposed to, as Christians judge, but does that mean we have to accept everything as right? 

I'd say, it's not just the cultural difference, but the infidelity. If he'll cheat with you, he'll cheat on you, and that probably translates across all cultures.

Be careful, Passionflower, I don't want to see you get hurt again.

posted by Blanche. on November 5, 2006 at 2:15 PM | link to this | reply