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PF

OMG...I can't believe he didn't say one single word to you...What an asshole. I am glad you broke up with him...

If it makes you feel any better Joe broke up with me yesterday....damm near broke my poor little pea pickin heart...so Sunday I have a date with Mr. Trial Lawyer. Oh goody I get to watch him eat and talk and eat and talk. But other then that he's a good date. I wish you would find someone just to date...Your so pretty and I love the way you talk. Your too sweet...so you wanta get married?

posted by Offy on October 20, 2006 at 1:50 PM | link to this | reply

hold up....

he's married... you broke up and now he's seeing someone else....

he was always seeing someone else... his wife!

You deserve to have someone all to yourself!

posted by homegirl on October 20, 2006 at 1:36 PM | link to this | reply

Blanche - you're very perceptive.

Of course I would never write of things like perversion or sadism but I should have listened to my own common sense.

posted by Passionflower on October 15, 2006 at 12:07 PM | link to this | reply

I'm beginning to get the picture, PF, and yes, he sounds like a smooth

operator, one who knows just what to say, when to say it, what chink in a woman's emotional armor to worm his way in,and then BAM hit you with the best shot.  I met one like that when I was temping at the law firm, he sought me out while I was working in the archives, (he had access, he was one of my supervisors), and looked for any emotional weakness he could use to ensnare me.

Then, basically, once the trap was set, use any weakness he could to put a knife in my heart. Did a good job, too.  Not only was he not sorry, I don't even know if he did what he did consciously or out of some sick need to get back at women, probably starting with his mother (it all starts there). 

He may not only not be sorry, he may be a sadist, they come in all shapes and sizes. 

posted by Blanche. on October 15, 2006 at 11:58 AM | link to this | reply

Thanks Ariel...I objected to the guy from the beginning

about the age thingy. It wasn't so much that he was only 29 but more that he's a very immature 29.

posted by Passionflower on October 15, 2006 at 11:57 AM | link to this | reply

Passion

 

Er, actually, I was only kidding in that age comment LOL

I know you aren't a babysnatcher!

posted by ariel70 on October 15, 2006 at 11:53 AM | link to this | reply

Thanks Nitewriter...I'll take you at your word...

Perhaps I WILL find someone someday.

posted by Passionflower on October 15, 2006 at 11:48 AM | link to this | reply

passionflower

I understand you completely.  My ex was an abusive jerk who acted like the world owed him something for all his suffering and caused him to act the way he did.  I have finally come to realize that he will NEVER EVER feel bad for what he did.  Maybe on his death bed.  Who knows?  But honestly I do believe that you will find someone!  But its hard to believe when you haven't found him yet huh?  One day you are going to contact me and say "nitewriter, you were right!" 

Until then, blog away!  Nothing is better therapy! 

posted by Nitewriter on October 15, 2006 at 11:29 AM | link to this | reply

LMAO Ariel...How funny!!!!!! Who told you

That he was only ten (10) years old?????????? I might have said that he 'behaves' like he's 10. He's actually a very immature 29.

posted by Passionflower on October 15, 2006 at 11:00 AM | link to this | reply

Pat...I don't know what they call that personality.

Maybe it's narcissistic or something like that. All I know is that he wants to get involved in some pretty wild sexual activities while making his friends and family think he's a saint/good boy.

If they don't have a name for that condition, they should have.

posted by Passionflower on October 15, 2006 at 10:59 AM | link to this | reply

Warrior, I told him that!

He's a stupid kid though and wouldn't listen. I said, "Listen, eventually, if you keep cheating you WILL get caught. You need to think about whether you can deal with what your wife, kids and family is going to say and think when they find out."

It wasn't 2 weeks later that he stopped calling and writing. I KNOW damn well he's already got somebody else though. Bastard!

I know, I'm a fool for getting involved with him to start with.

posted by Passionflower on October 15, 2006 at 10:55 AM | link to this | reply

Thanks Bel...I know you're right but you should hear some of the

Things he said to me...we had a very hot relationship in the beginning!

posted by Passionflower on October 15, 2006 at 10:52 AM | link to this | reply

I have said to several people,

"If you don't like the way your actions make you look, change your actions."

So many people try to do what they want while keeping a different image and then get upset when someone catches them.  And someone always does.

posted by SuccessWarrior on October 15, 2006 at 8:50 AM | link to this | reply

If he doesn't want people thinking he is a cheater

then he shouldn't cheat!  You my dear are worth so much better than anything he had to offer you.

posted by bel_1965 on October 15, 2006 at 8:46 AM | link to this | reply

Passion

 

I really am surprised at you, my dear!

Fancy you having such a relationship with a very immature, ten year old boy. Tut, tut, it's called cradle-snatching you know. There must be a few mature men aorund your neck of the woods, surely?

el Tel

posted by ariel70 on October 15, 2006 at 7:20 AM | link to this | reply

It's hard to hide the fact that you're an asshole from anybody

and since people talk, eventually everybody has an opinion. Weird that he's so prissy about his reputation even as he slithers around and acts contrary to what he wants people to think he is.

posted by Pat_B on October 15, 2006 at 7:09 AM | link to this | reply

I DO know that's the truth Nanaroo.

But what can we do? I guess I'm a little angry with the guy for all the things he said to me which he obviously DID NOT mean.

posted by Passionflower on October 15, 2006 at 6:56 AM | link to this | reply

passionflower

well, you know men and women are from different planets...!

posted by Nanaroo on October 15, 2006 at 6:50 AM | link to this | reply

FarSailor...everyone is in a different place in their lives.

Some want no part of a serious relationship.

posted by Passionflower on October 15, 2006 at 6:48 AM | link to this | reply

Nitewriter...This one is a real jerk I think

What really bothers me is that he's masquerading as a really sweet guy. He's got this whole spiel he does...

"Oh poor me. All these awful things happened to me. I'm so misunderstood."

He uses his words to get into your heart and win your affections. He likes to think of himself as someone he isn't.

posted by Passionflower on October 15, 2006 at 6:46 AM | link to this | reply

Nitewriter....You are POSITIVE that I will find someone

Who is PERFECT for me???????????

Wow! That's quite a statement. No one's ever said that to me before. And very few people ever find anyone perfect for them.

posted by Passionflower on October 15, 2006 at 6:43 AM | link to this | reply

Oh no! AbsolutelyPostitive...death to those who misuse commas!!!

LOL--Yes, this is pretty much what I've tried to say in the most tender manner to him. He just didn't get it though.

posted by Passionflower on October 15, 2006 at 6:41 AM | link to this | reply

Relationships

It has always seem to me that the direction of any relationship should be focussing.

From many to the one, and for that one, and from that one undivided attention.

I have trouble at times in keeping up with one, let alone two partners.

posted by FARSAILOR on October 15, 2006 at 6:37 AM | link to this | reply

Men can be jerks

I think that the problem with us women is that we want some sort of closer and never really get it.  But I see a problem with him here.  He is not willing to own up to what he did and like I tell my girlfriends "Karma is a bitch!"  So he should prepare for the worst! 

Hopefully you will get lucky and find someone perfect for you!  I am positive that you will actually so no worries!

posted by Nitewriter on October 15, 2006 at 4:03 AM | link to this | reply

oops... I put the comma in the wrong part of my comment

posted by AbsolutelyPositive on October 15, 2006 at 1:55 AM | link to this | reply

"I don't want people to think badly of me."

If he does not want to be badly thought of he, should not be behaving as he is. You are better off without him.

posted by AbsolutelyPositive on October 15, 2006 at 1:50 AM | link to this | reply

Blanche - you misread....we didn't get caught.

I broke up with him because the relationship was not going anywhere and was un-fulfilling to me.

What I said was that I believe he's already having another affair with another blogger - or ex-blogger. She quit a few months ago but they always flirted alot when she was around.

posted by Passionflower on October 14, 2006 at 10:14 PM | link to this | reply

I'm just going to cut to the chase here, Passionflower, whoever you think

may have outed you to your lover's wife, it wasn't me. I don't get involved in the love triangles going on around here.  And yes, married men will get caught. 

posted by Blanche. on October 14, 2006 at 9:45 PM | link to this | reply