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Thanks Sunny...there are so many wonderful poems and

Works of literature out there...we often miss them-

posted by Passionflower on October 14, 2006 at 7:09 PM | link to this | reply

Passion

I found it years ago in a poetry book I had checked out of the library.

posted by Sunnybeach7 on October 14, 2006 at 6:49 PM | link to this | reply

Ha, ha Maggie...good one!

 

posted by Passionflower on October 14, 2006 at 6:46 PM | link to this | reply

I think I'll just spread my ash all over town.  Never got to do that in life.  hahaha

posted by MaggieMae on October 14, 2006 at 6:44 PM | link to this | reply

Moxie...wow! How cool!

It's too bad he couldn't be there to drink, laugh and enjoy the food and music.

posted by Passionflower on October 14, 2006 at 12:39 PM | link to this | reply

I had the greatest time at a funeral I attended about 7 or 8 yrs ago...

The deceased had set aside thousands for his funeral along with explicit instructions, where to be held, professional music group to play(grammy winners), what food served, fully stocked top shelf open bar,...it was a PARTY!  He was even there in his casket in the area he had designated. And a wonderful generous way to be remembered.

posted by Moxie_Maven on October 14, 2006 at 11:48 AM | link to this | reply

Wasn't aware of that stuff about Ben Franklin, PatB--

He was a reallysmart fellow. I guess alot of people are choosing cremation these days.

posted by Passionflower on October 14, 2006 at 11:45 AM | link to this | reply

That's a great poem, Sunny....wherever did you find it?

posted by Passionflower on October 14, 2006 at 11:26 AM | link to this | reply

I dunno...

would it have to be 25 words or less?  Benjamin Franklin wrote his own epitaph about being a book returned to the writer for further editing. There used to be a billboard along I-5 in Seattle: Last one to leave, turn out the lights.  Actually, I've requested cremation and scattering my ashes off the ferry boat into Elliott Bay.

posted by Pat_B on October 14, 2006 at 11:26 AM | link to this | reply

Moxie....I like your idea.

We should all do that! Arrange to have all our friends over for a "Funeral" while you're still alive....People always dress up and come to funerals.

What a surprise when they see you're not dead. I'd love to have a video of that event.

posted by Passionflower on October 14, 2006 at 11:24 AM | link to this | reply

LOL Taps...well how thoughtful of you!

I know your kids are going to be happy about your decision to make NO plans for the hereafter.

posted by Passionflower on October 14, 2006 at 11:22 AM | link to this | reply

Hello, Passionflower! I would like to have my funeral

while I am still alive and can enjoy the going away party with everyone else,thank my friends and family, and relflect on past events along with everyone to make it a fun and wild party event. Cremation is what I want.

posted by Moxie_Maven on October 14, 2006 at 10:23 AM | link to this | reply

I've actually been thinking I might donate my body (what's left of it) to research.  That way I can take the money and go shopping.  hahaha

posted by MaggieMae on October 14, 2006 at 10:03 AM | link to this | reply

Since a long time ago, from the first time I've read the poem, this is what

I have wanted on mine....


The Little Cat Angel

The ghost of a little white kitten
Crying mournfully, early and late,
Distracted St. Peter, the watchman,
As he guarded the heavenly gate.
"Say, what do you mean," said his saintship,
"Coming here and behaving like that?"
"I want to see Nellie, my missus,"
Sobbed the wee little ghost of a cat.

"I know she's not happy without me,
Won't you open and let me go in?"
"Begone," gasped the horrified watchman,
"Why the very idea is a sin;
I open the gate to good angels,
Not to stray little beggers like you."
"All right," mewed the little white kitten,
"Though a cat, I'm a good angel, too."

Amazed at so bold an assertion,
But beware that he must make no mistake,
In silence, St. Peter pondered,
For his name and repute were at stake,
Then placing the cat in his bosom
With a "Whist now, and say all your prayers,"
He opened the heavenly portals
And ascended the bright golden stairs.

A little girl angel came flying,
"That's my kitty, St. Peter," she cried.
And seeing the joy in their meeting,
Peter let the cat abide.
This tale is the tale of a kitten
Dwelling now with the blessed above,
It vanquished grim Death and High Heaven
For the name of the kitten was Love.

- Leontine Stanfield

posted by Sunnybeach7 on October 14, 2006 at 9:34 AM | link to this | reply

Passionflower, I would prefer no tombstone as I would prefer my ashes to be sprinkled in the great outdoors.  But, there is waiting for me a six-foot deep hole in the ground and a combo marker that also has my ex-husband's name on it.  Since he is now married to someone else, that doesn't seem quite fit to me.  So, we shall see what we shall see.  I think I'll just leave it up to my sons to do whatever they want since I will be beyond caring.

posted by TAPS. on October 14, 2006 at 9:33 AM | link to this | reply

Lady Char...Wild and crazy is actually a good thing I think.

Good Mom is also a good one.

posted by Passionflower on October 14, 2006 at 9:13 AM | link to this | reply

That's funny Justi...I would never think of anyone kicking

A gravestone. I've never done it.

posted by Passionflower on October 14, 2006 at 9:11 AM | link to this | reply

Tanga...I think it's very mature of you

To realzie that one day you will die and that it's best to go ahead and make some preparations.

posted by Passionflower on October 14, 2006 at 9:10 AM | link to this | reply

Babe...me too...I've been thinking about that as well.

Who knows???

posted by Passionflower on October 14, 2006 at 9:09 AM | link to this | reply

I will have a small funeral as well

and I want to be cremated and the ashes thrown off a specific cliff into the ocean, I have indicated this to Mrs. Tanga.

posted by Tanga on October 13, 2006 at 10:36 PM | link to this | reply

Passionflower

Good post. Oh I don't care if anyone comes or what they say. On my tomestone I want 'Don't kick this stone, I see you!'

posted by Justi on October 13, 2006 at 9:10 PM | link to this | reply

she was a wild a crazy chick - and a good mother

posted by ladychardonnay on October 13, 2006 at 9:08 PM | link to this | reply

I won't care what's on my tombstone but I was just thinking today, if various people write my obituary, what would each one's take be on me and my life. 

posted by babe_rocks on October 13, 2006 at 8:15 PM | link to this | reply

I'll pray for you Shelly....Don't be afrad to face your demons head on.

We all have demons to face. Don't run from them. If they smell your fear, you're toast!

posted by Passionflower on October 13, 2006 at 7:46 PM | link to this | reply

Thanks, Passion....I'll try it.

posted by shelly_b on October 13, 2006 at 7:22 PM | link to this | reply

Shelly...what you believe has alot to do with how

Your life unfolds...If you think you'll die young, you probably will. It's important to re-train the way you think. Begin to change old, harmful thought patterns.

Tell yourself out loud every day that you're going to live to be 90 - that you're always going to be healthy....that you have more than enough money to pay your bills.

I guarantee you that doing this 10 times a day will begin to change things in your real life. Just try it once...say those things out loud and see if you don't feel better.

posted by Passionflower on October 13, 2006 at 7:17 PM | link to this | reply

Passion, and how do I do that?

Anyway..I know I will probably die young.  My dad did, as well as my grandfather..he died when he was in his late fifties!  My mom is ill...so dying young is in the family.  I can't handle knowing that.

posted by shelly_b on October 13, 2006 at 7:06 PM | link to this | reply

Ha, ha, Offbeat...I always threatened my mom with that one.

She was a big time hypochondriac.

posted by Passionflower on October 13, 2006 at 7:01 PM | link to this | reply

Shelly...i've got to make you see that NOT dealing with it...

Is the wrong way to go. If you do nothing, it probably will happen to you too. But if you'll take some positive action NOW, you can STOP that fate from occuring to you.

posted by Passionflower on October 13, 2006 at 7:01 PM | link to this | reply

PF

Well I am going to be fried & spread so I won't need a tombstone. I will tell you the best one I have ever seen though...it's in Key West and the last words out of the mans mouth was " I told you I was sick"...that is on his tombstone!!

posted by Offy on October 13, 2006 at 6:56 PM | link to this | reply

Passion, oh, I know it could happen...I don't like to talk about it.

posted by shelly_b on October 13, 2006 at 6:55 PM | link to this | reply

Just for you Blackcat!!!!!!!!!!!!!

posted by Passionflower on October 13, 2006 at 6:54 PM | link to this | reply

Shelly...you really can turn it around now...

Just don't stick your head in the sand and pretend it couldn't happen to you.

posted by Passionflower on October 13, 2006 at 6:45 PM | link to this | reply

Passion...uh, thanks for the reality check.

posted by shelly_b on October 13, 2006 at 6:32 PM | link to this | reply

LOL Blackcat...You know you can always count on me

For a straight answer.

posted by Passionflower on October 13, 2006 at 6:30 PM | link to this | reply

Shelly...it's your fear...FEAR is one of those "Forces"

That grows and multiplies...if you don't conquer it right now, you WILL wind up like your mom and grandma. As time goes on, FEAR will snowball until you can no longer function in the real world.

It's up to you. You can still do somethng about it. Find that inner strength and courage and be FREE of FEAR for good!

posted by Passionflower on October 13, 2006 at 6:27 PM | link to this | reply

Passion... hahahahahhaa.. that's great. Good idea about the blog,

but a little too morbid, or self serving for me.  Most people would feel they had to be nice... but not you!  LOL 

posted by -blackcat on October 13, 2006 at 6:25 PM | link to this | reply

BC...You should write your own blog

Asking various bloggers what they would write on your Tombstone. I think I'd put somethng like:

"See, I told you me and Ariala were not the same person."

posted by Passionflower on October 13, 2006 at 6:24 PM | link to this | reply

my father had so many people that the line wrapped way around the

block... so I guess if those people come, there will be alot.  LOL 

The tombstones around here just have names & dates on them for the most part.    I think I'll leave any other motto up to you to decide... LOL

posted by -blackcat on October 13, 2006 at 6:12 PM | link to this | reply

Passion...yes, it's true, I am...and it gets worse each year...

not only that..I fear of getting old at a young age, just like my mom and grandmother did.  My mom is only 66 and she can't function alone...it's so sad.

I'm not sure why I'm scared?  I just always have been.  I know there will be a time when I will leave this earth but I don't think I will ever be ready for it.

posted by shelly_b on October 13, 2006 at 5:58 PM | link to this | reply

Bec you don't seem like the type who would be afraid of death.

posted by Passionflower on October 13, 2006 at 5:52 PM | link to this | reply

Passion, why are you surprised?

posted by shelly_b on October 13, 2006 at 5:50 PM | link to this | reply

Good plan Nitewriter....I want people to celebrate at mine too.

posted by Passionflower on October 13, 2006 at 5:47 PM | link to this | reply

Strange reaction Shelly!

Death has never scared me. I'm surprised by your answer.

posted by Passionflower on October 13, 2006 at 5:46 PM | link to this | reply

I don't like thinking about my own death...it scares me.

posted by shelly_b on October 13, 2006 at 5:45 PM | link to this | reply

I want to be cremated

and I want all my friends and family to have a party in my name!

posted by Nitewriter on October 13, 2006 at 5:27 PM | link to this | reply