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It also means there's hope for everyone Blanche...LOL!

posted by Passionflower on October 9, 2006 at 6:24 PM | link to this | reply

Well, it's certainly made us feisty,LOL, you know that, Passionflower.

I tell you what, though, I will be glad to see the last of the snooty couple next door and their screaming, progressively reared child with no boundaries.  She talks down to me, whenver I attempt to reason with her.  Grr. I'll be so glad to see the last of her bony, flat-chested pale, snooty face.

posted by Blanche. on October 9, 2006 at 5:41 PM | link to this | reply

You're exactly right.

I've been having that revelation myself this past week. We're survivors....that's not always a good thing either...lol.

posted by Passionflower on October 9, 2006 at 5:38 PM | link to this | reply

I am not afraid to get my hands dirty, Passionflower, I was at one point,

too shy, withdrawn, uncertain of myself, but through life experiences, I've learned this about myself, whatever it takes to survive, I will do. 

posted by Blanche. on October 9, 2006 at 5:37 PM | link to this | reply

That's what I think too, Blanche...

God has too many people like that - He needs a few like me and you who can get down in the mud. WE're also savvy enough to be able to identify those folks who don't really want any help.

posted by Passionflower on October 9, 2006 at 5:30 PM | link to this | reply

I hope I never become that way, Passionflower, maybe that's why I'm going

though all this, homelessness, uncertainty, so I don't forget.  I want to help the people who've been where I've been, not try to knock them down again.   I can't stand the sanctimonious attitude about the poor, although people I've met with bad habits can certainly drain the resources of anybody that tries to help them. It's got to be a real repentance and willingness to turn your life around or it's just talk. so that I understand.

posted by Blanche. on October 9, 2006 at 5:27 PM | link to this | reply

The thing that happens is that once a person

Gets saved and gets their life back in order (alot of people DO come to Christ because of some tragedy they're going thru), they begin to feel like they're better than others.

They won't mingle with so-called "sinners" anymore.They look down their noses at the prostitutes and the homeless. That's really the sadest part for me. Those are the very people that Jesus died for and he loves them just as much as he loves me or you or Brad Pitt.

posted by Passionflower on October 9, 2006 at 5:24 PM | link to this | reply

ain't that the truth, Passionflower, and if the church is supposed to be a

haven or sanctuary for people who have been knocked to their knees by life, then some of those can get down off their high horses and help. Otherwise, get out of the way. 

posted by Blanche. on October 9, 2006 at 5:16 PM | link to this | reply

I also haven't said this...

Though Richard has been wonderful, I pray daily that God will make a way for me to get out of here and get back on my own again.

I'm certainly not here by choice. It's this damned freaky weather.

posted by Passionflower on October 9, 2006 at 5:15 PM | link to this | reply

Thanks Blanche...I've noticed that sometimes

Christians seem to live in a vacuum where they're out of touch with the real world. Though I'm going back to church now, I'm praying I never become insenstive and think of myself as superior--

I hope I never forget where I've come from and what I've suffered.

There's a world-full of people out there who need help but are scared or embarassed to go to church or to Christians for fear of being judged and told what sinners they are.

posted by Passionflower on October 9, 2006 at 5:13 PM | link to this | reply

Passionflower, well, today is a new day. I hope you feel better gettting

that email off your chest.  Still, however she wants to view your situation, it's her problem, not yours.  I know, it bugs me when people are rude, crass, insensitive, but what can you do?  It's a reflection on them, not you.  They have to go through life with the handicap of being rude, crass and insenstive, which will get them ultimately nowhere in life. 

You're a sweet person.  Let them get over themselves.  You've got enough on your plate without letting some nosy busybody get you wound up.  Have a better day.  Piss on them.

posted by Blanche. on October 9, 2006 at 5:03 PM | link to this | reply

Can't blame you there, Tanga.

posted by Passionflower on October 9, 2006 at 4:57 PM | link to this | reply

Mystic...writing this post caused me to realize

That it still  bugged me when "she" told me those things. So I wrote a long email to her yesterday and told her that she had upset me and WHY it had upset me so much.

I feel alot better now, but I'm afraid that I've caused myself another problem by writing to her. Oh well...can't win em all.

posted by Passionflower on October 9, 2006 at 4:56 PM | link to this | reply

I'd rather not answer that one, writersblok.

posted by Passionflower on October 9, 2006 at 4:51 PM | link to this | reply

P Flower

I can't believe someone said that to you. How on earth can it be sinful to live with someone you were once married to? Don't we realize these are all just pieces of paper created by man and signed by man...I think the greater sin would be marrying someone you didn't love, again, or for the first time. You know what I think PFlower, I think we all run around labeling each other sinners and evil and most of the time we haven't got a clue what we're talking about. I suspect we make our Father in Heaven very sad. THere is far too much really ugly stuff in teh world to bother judging someone a sinner by who they live with. 

posted by MysticGmekeepr on October 9, 2006 at 12:29 PM | link to this | reply

Not that it is any of my business,

but if you feel your boyfriend is your soul mate, then why didn't you move in with him instead of Richard? Wouldn't you be happier with him?

posted by WritersBlok on October 9, 2006 at 12:06 PM | link to this | reply

My financial news

remains private

posted by Tanga on October 9, 2006 at 1:48 AM | link to this | reply

Thanks Jane...I was looking forward to a busy

hurricane season where I would make enough to get out of debt but none of that ever happened.

posted by Passionflower on October 8, 2006 at 7:17 PM | link to this | reply

btw Azur...good luck with your financial probs.

posted by Passionflower on October 8, 2006 at 7:16 PM | link to this | reply

Azur...I know that stuff...

I've been writing about how hard it is to have so many choices. I can go anywhere and do anything I want. No constraints.

That makes it pretty difficult. I'm thinking of staying here in the NOrth Dallas area and getting my real estate license. I'd be good at selling real estate. I love to keep up with the markets and I love showing houses to people.

posted by Passionflower on October 8, 2006 at 7:16 PM | link to this | reply

Ah ha. I got it Passionflower. So you have an adventuresome spirit

trapped inside, and need to keep moving and exploring new lands, eh?  Yeah, that does put you into some sort of pickle.  No suggestions for you, my dear.  I'm out of my league, but wish you all the best.

posted by JanesOpinion on October 8, 2006 at 5:48 PM | link to this | reply

OK, shoot me for saying so

but it seems that you have more choices than you can see at the moment. You should remember that you have skills and arguably you could use that car to take you anywhere you wanted to go. In fact you have an opportunity to build a life somewhere, you just need to decide what that life is and take the first step, then the next. OK, so tell me where I am wrong.

I too have not been blogging much because I need to attend to financial issues. 

 

posted by Azur on October 8, 2006 at 4:34 PM | link to this | reply

PF

 I have a great idea for a new job for you and I just posted it...he-he

posted by Offy on October 8, 2006 at 3:39 PM | link to this | reply

Moxie...so you're one of those perky Polyanna types, eh????

Well, don't that just suck???? LOL! My glass is neither half full nor half empty. It was re-possessed just last week....bah-humbug.

posted by Passionflower on October 8, 2006 at 3:38 PM | link to this | reply

Yes, Passionflower,

I have been told I am way too optimistic, and need to become more pessimistic, but that's just not me. The glass is always half full in my world...unless someone really pisseth me offeth and throw it on them!  

posted by Moxie_Maven on October 8, 2006 at 2:48 PM | link to this | reply

You must have dreamed it Mike...sorry....

I wish you wuz right but if any kind of hurricane had recently hit Florida, I would be there right now working. I'm a hurricane expert. They always call me out with the other veterans.

Besides, I watch the weather channel every single day and don't miss much. Did you see where that road washed out in Utah yesterday due to heavy rains?

posted by Passionflower on October 8, 2006 at 2:43 PM | link to this | reply

LMAO Moxie....You're bringing out all the positive points

And trying to cheer me up whether I like it or not, aren't you???

You can buy anything for a dollar at the local "Dollar STore".

posted by Passionflower on October 8, 2006 at 2:41 PM | link to this | reply

HI passion how are you.......wasntthere a CAT1 hurricane that wen through south florida a few weeks ago or am I way out of the loop?

http://www.blogit.com/Blogs/People/Profile.aspx/michael_pilarte

http://www.myspace.com/michaelpilarte

posted by michael_pilarte on October 8, 2006 at 2:19 PM | link to this | reply

Passion, some people are just super ignorant. Tell "whoever" to "bleep" off and you can live your life without their input.  Some people's children! 

You'll work yourself out of this slump - we've all been there.

posted by MaggieMae on October 8, 2006 at 2:15 PM | link to this | reply

YeeeHaw! I am so happy for you!

See, you ARE a winner! You may have spent 4 to win 3, but look at the smile it put on your face. Where can you buy a smile for a dollar?  

posted by Moxie_Maven on October 8, 2006 at 1:57 PM | link to this | reply

I DID win! I DID win, Moxie!!!!!!!!

$3 bucks...thanks a helluva lot!!!! LOL!

posted by Passionflower on October 8, 2006 at 1:52 PM | link to this | reply

Jane...sure there are plenty of jobs...

• construction estimating
• home inspections for real estate
• inspector for the city

But getting a job like this means I'm settling down in one place and staying put. My heart would be broken if I had to do that.     

posted by Passionflower on October 8, 2006 at 1:51 PM | link to this | reply

Bummer, guess you didn't win the lotto...

 yet...?

posted by Moxie_Maven on October 8, 2006 at 1:51 PM | link to this | reply

You could send me a few thousand bucks Symphony....

That would help alot!!!!!!!!!! LOLOLOL!!!!!

posted by Passionflower on October 8, 2006 at 1:49 PM | link to this | reply

Passionflower, this Christian will definitely not judge you or your

living situation.  Of all things -- to receive an email like that at such an inappropriate time.  That's like flogging someone when they're already down.  And then flogging again. 

In your "about me" section, you wrote that you're a housing inspector.  Is that what you still do?  Inspect houses after hurricanes have blown through?  Too bad there aren't any part time positions you could do using those skills, but I'm sure you've scowered about for those anyhow.  So I shall keep my trap shut and wish you all the best as you go through this dry period of life.  I've been there, it ain't fun. 

posted by JanesOpinion on October 8, 2006 at 10:10 AM | link to this | reply

I am sorry...I wish I could say something comforting, or help in someway.

:~(

posted by _Symphony_ on October 8, 2006 at 7:33 AM | link to this | reply

thanks Offbeat....I'm sure you're right.

posted by Passionflower on October 7, 2006 at 8:13 PM | link to this | reply

I don't believe God wants any of us to do without the things

We need Lustor...Poverty is a curse from hell.

posted by Passionflower on October 7, 2006 at 8:13 PM | link to this | reply

LOL Moxie...not a monster...I only spent 4 bucks

The drawing is like right now! $$$$ 7 Million dollars.

posted by Passionflower on October 7, 2006 at 8:07 PM | link to this | reply

financial woes

I am very thankful I have a job that pays me very well, but since I made some bad mistakes in the condo I owned I have to continue to work to pay the bills I am use to having the money to do so.  I want so bad to retire I am getting worn out mentally and physically with all that has happened this past year.  I don't know what to expect from my mom's estate is concerned, and don't take this wrong but I am not money hungry but a few thousand would certainly help me get out of my financial woes.

posted by lustorlove on October 7, 2006 at 6:24 PM | link to this | reply

Just remember, it only takes one number.

Yikes...I hope I have not created a monster with my suggestion!  I think it's time for me to have another dose of cough syrup, hot tea and a movie.

posted by Moxie_Maven on October 7, 2006 at 6:21 PM | link to this | reply

nope, no suggestions, numbers are not my thing, but good luck, PF

posted by Blanche. on October 7, 2006 at 6:19 PM | link to this | reply

PF

What are you going to do? Hummmm go to a Cowboy game? Just a suggestion, better then the one that suggested you get married...Geez! I think there are a lot of people who have seen better times and then there are those who better times are now...Some how our financial lives seem to flip and then flop and don't worry yours will flip again...

posted by Offy on October 7, 2006 at 6:16 PM | link to this | reply

!!!!! SUPER GOOD LUCK, PASSIONFLOWER !!!!!!   

posted by Moxie_Maven on October 7, 2006 at 6:15 PM | link to this | reply

Everyone always says that Blanche.

I am lucky but I've always been scared of gambling bec my dad had a gambling problem. I'll be back in a minute. I'm going to buy numbers....got any suggestions??????????????????

posted by Passionflower on October 7, 2006 at 6:14 PM | link to this | reply

I'm getting dressed right now Moxie...I'm serious too!

LOL! I could actually win...the only thing I really need to make things right in my life is MONEY!

posted by Passionflower on October 7, 2006 at 6:13 PM | link to this | reply

Moxie Maven may have a point, Passion, you are good with numbers

posted by Blanche. on October 7, 2006 at 6:03 PM | link to this | reply

Well, I"m not trying to tell you how to handle your business, Passionflower

but this is one of those rare times I'd go to Blogit.  I've only complained to them a couple of times. Aside from blocking this twit, whoever it is.    People like that are the ones who give Christians a really bad name.  Did Christ care about Mary Magdalen's background? No. Did he care about the Samartian woman at the well, and her five husbands, no?  It's a spiritual rebirth, the power of the spirit cleanses you of the past. 

People scoff at that, too, saying, well, it's just a free pass, a license to live recklessly, but I didn't chose to live recklessly, it was my nature, the pain was too much, it made me reckless. 

So, the only answer to something like that is "none of your business"  You do what you have to do.  Anyway, I need to get my credit straightened out, but cannot get a copy of my credit report, I've tried several times on the Freecreditreport.com, but always get kicked off or rejected.  Wassup? 

posted by Blanche. on October 7, 2006 at 6:02 PM | link to this | reply

You never know!

I'm serious, because I DO know. The first time I ever played I selected 5 out of the 6. Good Luck!             

posted by Moxie_Maven on October 7, 2006 at 6:01 PM | link to this | reply

Thanks for the suggestion Moxie...

There's a drawing tonight for the Texas Lotto. I'll go buy a couple of numbers right now.

posted by Passionflower on October 7, 2006 at 5:58 PM | link to this | reply

Thanks Blanche...somehow I just feel like God wants me to stay here for

A while...who knows why but I"m trying to be obedient.

posted by Passionflower on October 7, 2006 at 5:57 PM | link to this | reply

I agree with you Blanche.

It  upset me to get that email because I was really trying to get back into church and do the right thing, stop hanging out in bars and sleeping around so much.  But remarrying Richard is not an option. And someone who doesn't know us any better than this person did, had no right to suggest such an absurd thing.

I talked to my boyfriend sometimes about these things. He understands me in a way that Richard never has. We're soul mates, I guess. He helped me by suggesting that I try credit counseling to get out from under some of the financial problems.

I'm going to write about the other thing (the email) some more. I think it upset me so much bec it Soooo reminded me of how my mother tried to force me to live the way she approved of and wouldn't allow me to make my own mistakes and live my own life.

posted by Passionflower on October 7, 2006 at 5:56 PM | link to this | reply

do you play the lotto?   If not, I'd start!

posted by Moxie_Maven on October 7, 2006 at 5:41 PM | link to this | reply

I dunno, Passionflower, I'll see what I can do to call down a miracle.

I know you need one, let's just hope it comes through quickly. 

posted by Blanche. on October 7, 2006 at 5:34 PM | link to this | reply

Thanks for sharing your story Moxie...but I was reallly looking

More for some type of INSTANT MIRACLE that would get me the hell out of here by next week...LOL!

posted by Passionflower on October 7, 2006 at 5:31 PM | link to this | reply

Passionflower, first off, I will bite my tongue here about that email.

I'm sorry but that pisses me off.  It's not their damned business, and if they have any better ideas about how you're gong to keep a roof over your head, and stay safe,  other than re-marrying your ex-husband, who is your ex for a reason, then let's hear them, otherwise, shitcan the email.

Grrr.  Otherwise, I know you're not happy.   You've got big Xs on your calendar until this job is over.   And remember,  suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem.  You have to walk by faith, for a little while.    I know you don't have time to look for other work while you're working this job.  So, it may have to wait, until you get out of there.  Keep the faith.

And, no, I'll talk about my jail sentence, my tme in the mental ward, and I am broke, on SSDI, but getting by, Thank God, so I have no real complaints, other than things could be better. I'm not in "survival mode" like you, but I've been there, believe me.  Don't let it send you to the psych ward like it did me. 

posted by Blanche. on October 7, 2006 at 5:28 PM | link to this | reply

I know, I was there once...

with my old ex Richard! We had broke up about 5 years prior, and were able to remain friends eventually due to our cannine we were both parents of.Out of the goodness of his big heart he opened his home to me and helped me out for a short spell while I regrouped and refocused and got back up on my feet. It was uncomfortable, I was totally displaced, and had no idea where I was going and how I would make it happen. But I did. And so will you.

posted by Moxie_Maven on October 7, 2006 at 5:26 PM | link to this | reply

Moxie...I'm trying to be thankful...

I'm being grateful each and every day for a safe, comfortable place to live and a good friend...But that only goes so far. I need a plan to move on with my life.

posted by Passionflower on October 7, 2006 at 5:19 PM | link to this | reply

Passionflower, I would take a few deep breaths and relax

without expecting to solve all of your problems overnight, or in a few days. Be thankful that you have a sweet Richard who has opened his home to you when you are down on your luck. That's what real friends do! They are there for you.That doesn't mean you have to marry him! So it's comfy for a moment, and you have a real friend to give you strength and meaningful support. Use the opportunity he is offering you to comfortably make the changes you need to make. Thank goodness you have a friend in Richard.

posted by Moxie_Maven on October 7, 2006 at 5:10 PM | link to this | reply