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Lustor...Exactly right!

I learned last year the difference between cowards and brave ones. Everyone experiences fear. But what happens next is what tells. Do you go forward? Or do you cower in a corner?

posted by Passionflower on October 3, 2006 at 4:23 PM | link to this | reply

Tanga...Wow! Really?

You should post about those trying times you've been thru....I know it would help many of us to learn from your mistakes....Of course, I can't blame you if you don't want to reveal anything too personal in the area of finances.

posted by Passionflower on October 3, 2006 at 4:20 PM | link to this | reply

Warrior...Alot of people are moving away from the coast lines.

Homeowners insurance is going to be higher for people living along coastlines.

posted by Passionflower on October 3, 2006 at 4:17 PM | link to this | reply

Terpgirl...I don't have much experience

Along those lines. This was really my first time to try and mold my life into what I wanted it to be. I'm failing miserably.

posted by Passionflower on October 3, 2006 at 4:14 PM | link to this | reply

Hi Bel...

posted by Passionflower on October 3, 2006 at 4:11 PM | link to this | reply

Thanks Whacky....isn't there a third choice though?

posted by Passionflower on October 3, 2006 at 4:11 PM | link to this | reply

I don't want to play these cards no more, Maggie...

I'm gonna sit in the corner and pout till I get some new cards.

posted by Passionflower on October 3, 2006 at 4:10 PM | link to this | reply

I need some of that winning, fighting attitude to rub off on me,

BlondeAmbition....how cool would it be if you could bottle and sell it?

posted by Passionflower on October 3, 2006 at 4:09 PM | link to this | reply

Thanks Blonde...I'll definitely check him out.

I do like MoonSpirit...I've met him in person, you know?

posted by Passionflower on October 3, 2006 at 4:08 PM | link to this | reply

Passionflower

I found great inspiration on MoonSpirits blog today......hope you can too. I wish you a blessed and prosperous day.

posted by BlondeAmbition007 on October 3, 2006 at 2:12 PM | link to this | reply

Lady "P"

I hope everything comes together for you and you can find some positivity and uplifting things in life. I know it is rough sometimes.........I just refuse to let things or circumstances get the best of me.....I've been fighting all of my life and still am. Love ya........blonde

posted by BlondeAmbition007 on October 3, 2006 at 2:02 PM | link to this | reply

Passion, maybe you should leave Dallas and start over.  I would think that there are all kinds of jobs available there though, maybe you just have to keep looking.  In the interim, try to be happy with what you have.

I know you get tired of hearing this, but you just have to play the cards you're dealt.  Things will get better.

posted by MaggieMae on October 3, 2006 at 9:04 AM | link to this | reply

I disagree with one part of this post

It doesn't seem to be "common sense" to live in the path of recurring hurricanes.  I will never live in that area because any year, everything could be taken away.  In fact, if you live there long enough, your odds are almost certain.

posted by SuccessWarrior on October 3, 2006 at 8:04 AM | link to this | reply

Yes, life does throw some curveballs but

there is a reason for all of it. I personally know that I can affect 90% of my fate. Luck is an acquired skill.

posted by fionajean on October 3, 2006 at 4:36 AM | link to this | reply

Life is sometimes difficult

just when you think you have everything inder control something that you have no control over can pull the carpet from under your feet and leave your life in utter turmoil and you have to start all over again

posted by Tanga on October 3, 2006 at 12:45 AM | link to this | reply

not working anymore

No its not what they made of it, but now the questions is what do they do with what they have left.  hiide their head in the sand or go on living.  I almost lost everything this past year because of bad financial mistakes but I am now trying to stay above water.  It was my mistake not that of a act of God.  So its what you do after the error or tragedy has taken place.  That tells the week from the strong.

posted by lustorlove on October 2, 2006 at 9:50 PM | link to this | reply

Whacky

It isn't so cut and dry.  You don't give up, per se.  Sometimes, because of timing, you have to step back.  There have been times in my life where I planned a strategic move, but when you get in the middle of it, and not much is happening, you feel like  you are doing nothing.  The fact is, I'd planned how it would run start to finish because I wanted a desired outcome.  It's kind of like those Roadrunner cartoons.  The coyote missing him all the time because of timing.  He acts too soon, and roadrunner zips by.  It's tougher to be controlled and plan for that right moment to act when you have the best conditions.

posted by terpgirl30 on October 2, 2006 at 8:44 PM | link to this | reply

Just checking in

posted by bel_1965 on October 2, 2006 at 8:04 PM | link to this | reply

I guess you can make the best of what you have or just give up.

It's your choice.

posted by Whacky on October 2, 2006 at 7:42 PM | link to this | reply

Thanks for sharing Terpgirl...

It's very difficult to do that type of work...nurse, doctor, ER...they see so much serious stuff every single day...It has to be heart-rending.

Bec of Global Warming the frequency and severity of natural disasters has increased and will probably continue to do so. I guess I'm glad that I've got experience in that area....LOL!

posted by Passionflower on October 2, 2006 at 6:12 PM | link to this | reply

Passion...your posts don't upset me, and neither does your views.

I'm just sharing mine.

posted by Sunnybeach7 on October 2, 2006 at 6:09 PM | link to this | reply

Blackcat...Yes, I agree...you can't let it burden you

So much that you're too paralyzed to live your life. This time last year I was in New Orleans working Katrina. I'm having some flashbacks and a little PTSD.

posted by Passionflower on October 2, 2006 at 6:03 PM | link to this | reply

Sunny, I'm not suggesting anyone live in fear.

I ascribe to living each day as if its the last. But I do feel the heaviness that's come upon the earth and I DO want to write about it.

If my posts upset you, please don't read them. This is good therapy for me. And I DO need to share these views with whoever would like to read them.

posted by Passionflower on October 2, 2006 at 6:01 PM | link to this | reply

true... sometimes no matter how much we try, life can be a bucket of

shit.  But, knowing that... I think that phrase means to realize that even as bad as it is, we only have one life.  We have to go on, and with that, we have to make the most of the crap we've been delivered.  

Honestly, some of those Katrina folks are the most optimistic I've ever seen.  I don't know how they do it... but then again, how do we all?

posted by -blackcat on October 2, 2006 at 5:59 PM | link to this | reply

Passion, I've said this about your job before

..the stuff you see has to weigh on you.   I wrote an article on the nurses of Maryland's Shocktrauma unit many years ago.  The career span there is an average of 3 years, then they have to transfer out. It's so much for the brain to absorb.

I totally agree with the concept of life is what you make of it, but there are serious parameters.  I've huddled with the family waiting out a storm and we go into stories and things to pass the time. We had Agnes here in '72, and everyone shoveled mud whether it was your mud or if your house was okay.  You wouldn't have known it had rained at our house, just a block away.  So despite the devastation, we made the most of what was in front of us.

  Still, as you were saying, time goes by.  A whole group of houses in my neighborhood were deemed to be on land that they wouldn't insure after that. (We haven't had a flood or hint of a flood since.  It was crazy.) They bulldozed the houses. The government paid them what they thought the houses were worth. These were large families, and this was the poorer area of the the neighborhood.  In no way, shape or form do I think these people came out of this unscathed. It had nothing to do with attitude. They lost what had made up their lives. You pick up and go on, but if you are just getting by to start with, there's more to it than just putting on a happy face and getting over it.

Outside of that sort of devastation, we all have periods of our lives when it all just seems to hit at once. There are things I have no control over right now...and that's part of a big lesson I've needed to learn. I do the best I can do with the other parts, but there are huge things I can't make decisions on right now as I legally can't.  So, I'm not living with everything I should right now. I think you learn to compartmentalize at times like this. I'll be darned if I'll deal with someone accusing me of not taking charge of my life either.  If I did what I wanted to do, I'd be in court within a week and probably lose all I've worked for. That's living in reality, not copping out. Fine line, but there's definitely a line.

posted by terpgirl30 on October 2, 2006 at 5:40 PM | link to this | reply

Passion

If someone dropped a nuclear bomb in NYC....I wouldn't be alive to wake up...likely none of us would.
Things happen. There is nothing you can do about it, so why worry about things that may never come to pass? 
I tired of living my life in fear a while ago.  Yes, I still do from time to time, but I get over it quickly, because I know it doesn't change anything.  I think you are really down because you haven't had any work that you enjoy for a while, and are stuck in a job that you'd rather not be in.  Hopefully in time, these things will pass, and you will be able to start doing what you love again.

posted by Sunnybeach7 on October 2, 2006 at 5:37 PM | link to this | reply

LMAO LadyChardonnay....I hope you're not serious!

Are you just accident prone????

posted by Passionflower on October 2, 2006 at 5:35 PM | link to this | reply

I know Taps...I probably encounter alot more

Frustration and devastation that the normal person, but it IS getting much more common to see people in the worst possible situation of their lives.

posted by Passionflower on October 2, 2006 at 5:35 PM | link to this | reply

i am always surprised when i don't sustain an injury for one day

posted by ladychardonnay on October 2, 2006 at 5:34 PM | link to this | reply

I've forgotten how to be happy Offbeats.

Maybe something nice will happen to me soon that will help me remember what it feels like.

posted by Passionflower on October 2, 2006 at 5:33 PM | link to this | reply

Sunny, not talking about dying...Talking about living

In a day and time when you could wake up in the morning to find that Afganistan/China, Iraq or somebody has dropped a nuclear bomb on New York City.

How about you're having a nice salad at McDonalds and wind up with E.coli???

posted by Passionflower on October 2, 2006 at 5:32 PM | link to this | reply

Passion

Yeah there is nothing sure as change is there? I don't worry so much about those things which I can not control...Love my family and deal with life as best I can, but always try to maintain happiness....

posted by Offy on October 2, 2006 at 5:06 PM | link to this | reply

Very good Passionflower.  There are many people that if they had access to read your post would say, she's talking about me.

posted by TAPS. on October 2, 2006 at 5:02 PM | link to this | reply

Passion

It depends on what you consider perilous?  I'm not afraid to die, I'm not afraid of death in any way, so things just don't get to me like they used to.  The only thing I can do is live in the now...not the past, and not the future, but in this moment.

posted by Sunnybeach7 on October 2, 2006 at 5:00 PM | link to this | reply

Sunny, I believe these perilous times have come upon us all.

Some are just still in denial about the way things really are.

posted by Passionflower on October 2, 2006 at 4:57 PM | link to this | reply

It's my nature Blanche...

I always question everything.

posted by Passionflower on October 2, 2006 at 4:55 PM | link to this | reply

Tiklurfancy...I don't know what you said but

Pass that joint when you're done toking.

posted by Passionflower on October 2, 2006 at 4:53 PM | link to this | reply

Passion

I think life is more in how you perceive it.
It's true, there are some catastrophic things that happen that can't be helped, like what you're talking about, but for everyone else, just going about their daily lives.  How you perceive your reality makes a big difference.

posted by Sunnybeach7 on October 2, 2006 at 4:41 PM | link to this | reply

Passionflower, why ask why? These are perilous times, I just try to get

through them the best I can. 

posted by Blanche. on October 2, 2006 at 4:22 PM | link to this | reply

these comments...

if all else fails we will turn to booze sleep rough and smell of cats pee and live forever lol

posted by t_u_f_ on October 2, 2006 at 4:14 PM | link to this | reply

Thanks Ticklurfancy...

I'm wavering back and forth between coping and not.....LOL!

posted by Passionflower on October 2, 2006 at 4:11 PM | link to this | reply

Thanks so much Afzal...great comment.

posted by Passionflower on October 2, 2006 at 4:11 PM | link to this | reply

life

  i read a line in a book last week by murakami(blind willow sleeping woman)..."no matter how far people go they can never stop being themselves.."life thows all kinds of shit at us it makes us what we are...we cope or we don't...(good writing)

posted by t_u_f_ on October 2, 2006 at 4:09 PM | link to this | reply

Excellent thought provoking post . Passionflower you have touched the

depth of my heart .

posted by afzal50 on October 2, 2006 at 4:05 PM | link to this | reply