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Interesting post...
by a confident writer with questions about how her life is playing out. From here it looks like you're doing exactly what you ought to be doing, re-designing your life as you go. It would be weird to go through time living inside your mother's or your father's expectancies. I just had a conversation with my daughter on this subject. I told her she had grown up totally unlike anything I ever hoped or expected for her, and that she has far exceeded anything I could have hoped for, wonderful just as she is.
posted by
Pat_B
on August 27, 2006 at 10:43 AM
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 | Hello Azur! How you doing, flower? |
posted by
_dave_says_ack_
on August 25, 2006 at 1:46 AM
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posted by
Rosetree
on August 24, 2006 at 3:55 AM
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Azur--- Safe journeys. And I agree with your philosophy, although Ursa
sometimes fears for her supply of dog food.
posted by
Jazwolf
on August 21, 2006 at 2:31 PM
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Have fun -
In Afrikaans there is a saying, "Wie nie waag nie, wen ook nie." Meaning roughly, if you risk nothing, you'll get nothing. Go for it. You know what you want and you're doing it. I envy you being at that stage, I know I'll get there but I'm not patient. As for risk, it's just as risky if you don't have a family - sometimes I wonder if not more. I have no husband's income to fall back on if I fail.
posted by
fionajean
on August 21, 2006 at 1:11 AM
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Hello, Azur, enjoy your holiday!
posted by
Blanche.
on August 18, 2006 at 5:19 PM
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Azure
Nice post, very nice.
posted by
Justi
on August 18, 2006 at 5:17 PM
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one must stretch a bit in life and
taking risks is part of that, as long as we're prepared to handle the fallout if they don't pan out. See you when you return.
posted by
Julia.
on August 18, 2006 at 12:19 PM
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I think your outlook is great
I always say that if you miss an oppurtunity because you spend too much time calculating the risks you may regret it the rest of your life.
posted by
Tanga
on August 18, 2006 at 6:35 AM
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i too am unable to do only one thing in my life but for some people it's
perfect and i'm grateful for them.. it's comforting to know mrs. mcmillan will always be behind the counter, that joe will always deliver my mail. (names ficticious) actually, my building's long-time mail delivery person retired this year and it bummed us all out.
posted by
fourcats
on August 17, 2006 at 10:55 PM
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Azur
Enjoy your visit, Azur. Come back refreshed and bright eyed and bushy tailed.
posted by
johnmacnab
on August 17, 2006 at 7:41 PM
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I recently met a guy that worked as a baggage handler for 2 years.
For something that appeared to be a boring routine in my eyes, he had some amazing experiences to share. I think the trick is to always keep our eyes open and continue learning, no matter what routine we maintain. Life is definitely something to be experienced!
Sounds like you've done it right! Have a great trip.
posted by
-blackcat
on August 17, 2006 at 4:23 PM
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Great post, Azur,
You're making me think about a lot of things... time lines, friends, friendship, life and risks. So much stuff. Thanks. I may write more here, later. :)
posted by
BlackPearl1
on August 17, 2006 at 4:15 PM
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Auf viedersein!
posted by
majroj
on August 17, 2006 at 12:22 PM
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Au revoir
posted by
majroj
on August 17, 2006 at 12:22 PM
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Au revoir
posted by
majroj
on August 17, 2006 at 12:22 PM
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have a nice trip!
posted by
colbor1
on August 17, 2006 at 8:15 AM
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I admire your grit and determination.
at least you fulfilled some kind of dream, l am still pursuing mine, but i will get there eventually, no deadline for me yet.
posted by
marieclaire66
on August 17, 2006 at 1:55 AM
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Well, have a good time!
posted by
Whacky
on August 16, 2006 at 11:37 PM
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Azur
Enjoy your holiday with your daughter luv, sounds like you've done just fine with your life. Good for you kiddo
posted by
WileyJohn
on August 16, 2006 at 8:43 PM
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Azur, I remember a woman telling me in college at a party, that age only
changes the deadlines. I see so many younger people who have fixed timelines: "I will be married by 30, I will have a house by such and such a time" and it makes them somewhat disdainful of people who have not done those things by that deadline. Life happens. As you've said, you've set your own level of risk, comfortable to you, and you've accepted yourself. I'm realizng today, after my visit with my mother, that I've finally grown comfortable in my self-acceptance and it's a lovely, liberating feeling. She feels it intuitively, too. That I no longer am angry or sullen about certain things, but learning to just let it be.
There's tradeoffs in everything, I've learned, that I can't have everything, but time is only making my priorities more clear, and my own self-acceptance is making it possible. For years, I only believe that science was the truth in college, and that I must emulate my friends and be a biologist, I was in awe of them, but I realized that no one has a market on truth. Some things are in the heart, not in the head.
Have a wonderful trip, you and your daughter. I hope everything settles down and you can do book club and tennis as well.
posted by
Blanche.
on August 16, 2006 at 7:41 PM
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I hope you have
a great time with your daughter and family. My kids love to visit my aunt Betty in Massachusetts. She makes apple pie from fresh local Macintosh apples and taps her maple trees for syrup.
On another note, I have taken steps towards another career. I can't stop what I'm doing, but I feel better already knowing I will someday have options. Have a safe and wonderful trip!
posted by
Flumpystalls3000
on August 16, 2006 at 6:58 PM
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Happy Holidays.
posted by
A-and-B
on August 16, 2006 at 6:22 PM
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